the beauty of familiarity

Friday, June 1

I have spent far too few moments treasuring the beauty of familiarity. The thought struck me late the other night when I was in the bathroom, cutting my husband's hair. I don't know why it struck me then. I've done it countless times before. But this time, somehow the simple intimacy of knowing exactly how he likes his hair and snipping my clippers accordingly while he watched me in the mirror seemed profound. There is something to be said about sharing your life with someone. Growing up and growing old together. Raising your children. That idea is often romanticized by stories and movies, but amidst the day to day living of that life, the appreciation for it can be lost. 

To be truly known by someone, with all facets of your past and present, your weaknesses and strengths exposed and still loved. That is beautiful. And getting to watch the little boy that I have with that someone, grow in his own familiarity with the world and with us, it's a bigger experience than the small words I have can describe. What a privilege it is to be the one that he knows better than anyone. And to experience the seemingly insignificant day-to-day of growing old together with someone. To me there's nothing, even in the constant stream of new and exciting, that could top or fulfill as much as that warm familiarity.

138 comments:

Irene Buffa said...

so stunning with that jeans thing on <3

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Britt @ The Magnolia Pair said...

He's a beautiful baby! Just love his little overalls :)

Julie Strieter said...

What a beautiful post. It truly is an amazing thing to be able to be appreciated and loved through life. Sharing a life with another person is such an amazing and sometimes difficult situations to find one's self in.

Julie

Katie Blacker said...

beautifully written. I just love the way you write.

you had to be there

Natasha Fatah said...

Love the little one's sylish overalls :)

xoxo
~Natasha Fatah~
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Tinacious Me said...

aww this is precious!
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Bianca said...

I know those moments. When it just hits you that you really really know this other person. That you're so connected.

A lovely post :)

Shannon said...

i was just thinking about this! we have two children now, my youngest is your E's age, and grand sweeping romantic gestures, passion (im too tired for passion) and showy love are out the window! just two people who enjoy sharing the same space, who work together to make life a little better for each other...

sometimes i miss the passion, but i would take familiarity any day!!!

Elisha(: said...

awwhh I LOVE that first picture!! sooooo sweet. :)

x.

Miss Directions said...

What a beautiful post :-) life really is about those day to day things isn't it. Everett looks adorable in that outfit too!

Tamaras Blend said...

That's a really nice thought. I think about it often, there's a warm feeling that comes with it. Beautifully written.

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House of Hemingway said...

Beautifully written. I share the same feelings when it comes to traditions. My friend was planning her wedding a few years back and thought of doing away with so many of her family's traditions and I had to remind her the beauty found in those moments. Traditions is things that are in inherited and cannot be made-up.

I'm glad you feel this way :)


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Maria said...

This is so beautifully written!

Jennifer Sanzo said...

Beautifully stated and so true.

Sara said...

That was as beautifully written as your baby boy.

lollingabout said...

So beautifully said! I feel the same way, and try to give thanks for my husband every day. It's a gift to be cherished, being given a love like that. I don't want to ever take it for granted.

Urban Nester said...

I have been loving your posts this week. There's something so wonderful about familiarity and I think we often times take it for granted.

molly
http://alwaysamrsforeverakidd.blogspot.com

Elise said...

I love familiarity, I do better with familiar things.. they feel safe and cozy!

Elise
ourdearestfamily.blogspot.com

Elise said...

I love familiarity, I do better with familiar things.. they feel safe and cozy!

Elise
ourdearestfamily.blogspot.com

Christine said...

beautifully put.

Anna said...

wow seriously beautiful and profound journaling. You are so right. Thanks for sharing :)

Sofia H. said...

Absolutely beautiful.

Jessica Broyles said...

Everett is looking so adorable. You're so right - I have those thoughts hit me now and again too. It's sweet, normal, everyday moments that pull up emotions like that. And I love it. :)

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Castleberry Photography said...

Well said. You are so sweet. Thanks for sharing.

Lisa said...

That is so beautiful. I read a quote the other day which made me think differently about the mother child bond...

"No one else will know the strength of my love for you. After all you're the only one who knows what my heart sounds like for the inside".

Have a blessed weekend.

april wason said...

well said. beautiful words. thanks for sharing.

Tarran Trotter said...

You have no idea how much I needed to read this post you wrote today. You've made me realize that being completely comfortable in a relationship isn't a bad thing at all and I needed to hear that. I needed to realize that I shouldn't take my own familiarity with my love for granted. Seriously, thank you.

H. said...

Beautifully put!

kelseywilliams said...

beautiful post. my baby girl is 13 weeks old and i am back to work. it breaks my heart that i can't be the one who spends all day with her. i am glad to hear that you treasure the moments you have :)

Janelle said...

that is so beautiful! and so true! me and my hubby of 5years our raising our almost 2year old daughter n have a baby boy due in 2 weeks! n we r moving from cali to Georgia to simplify n enjoy more moments like what you describe! =)

Erin said...

I love this post. It's a great reminder to turn away from the fast paced lifestyle that society seems to favor, and enjoy the simple things we have that bring more happiness in the familiarity. Thanks for your perspective!

kate365til30 said...

So very true. Beautiful post Sydney. Thank you for sharing your heart and words with us...
Kate
www.365til30.com

ilene @ muchloveilly said...

beautifully said! thanks for the reminder!

7.11 said...

Wow! This is beautiful. You describe exactly how I feel about my husband and kids! You're quite awesome.

Joyce - from the Philippines :)

erica said...

beautiful post.
xo.

Unknown said...

What a beautiful post. Happy Friday!

Marianne said...

This is so true & honestly I feel the exact same way. There is this comfort that I feel with my husband that I just don't have with any other being. It's truly amazing. I can't wait to share that feeling with our little family too. :)

Melissa said...

What a beautifully written truth, i thoroughly enjoyed that, thank you.

Ashton said...

This is so true. We definitely take it for granted until change comes rushing into our lives. We need to remember to be grateful for all the familiar things in our lives. Thanks for sharing this! :)

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Janell said...

that was beautiful said, Sydney. How intimately a family knows one another is something only a family can explain.

White Ironstone Cottage said...

Yes LOVE is really all there is...
xo
Pam

Tiffany said...

So honest and true love in life. Thank you Syd!

Briana and George said...

It has been so cute to watch you become a mom and enjoy and appreciate all of the little things. Thanks for the reminder, growing old with hubbies and babies truly is a wonderful thing! Happy weekend!

Lisa Stepi said...

Beautiful post Sydney!

Kieren said...

This is so beautiful and so true. :)

Lottie said...

Amazing words beautifully written--there isn't anything better

LIDIA BEDMAN said...

great blog!!
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Lauren {Stylized Existence} said...

This is a lovely post.

Meagan Murtagh said...

beautiful!

Brett said...

Sydney, you write so beautifully. You capture every emotion so perfectly! Love reading about your cute little family!

Starr said...

Beautifully written. It truly is wonderful.

Annabelle said...

I've always been scared of growing bored of a family life. I have yet to experience it, but I tend to imagine everything beforehand and getting married to live a normal life with the same person forever seems like the scariest thing. My parents are divorced so it probably made me think negatively. But this simple apprehension slowly became a genuine fear of getting married or whatever. Your post made me realize it will probably not be as terrible as I think it will, because I guess you can't imagine the feelings you have each day of such life when you haven't experienced half of it yet. So, thank you for that. :)

Nicole said...

your blog gets more and more beautiful everyday. cheers for having the courage to follow your heart.

xo

sara noel said...

what a beautiful post. thank you for your words.

Katrina said...

This is such a beautiful sentiment and something I wholeheartedly believe in. It's the familiarity and the routines our lives are built upon that make them so special!

xx, Katrina
Sparkle is a Color

Always Maylee said...

This is so sweet and beautifully written. And Everett is just getting cuter and cuter.

xo, Yi-chia
Always Maylee

Bri said...

I totally agree with your words! the 3rd pic is amazing btw!

Kayla fromSealedWithAKay said...

What a lovely post, you are so sweet!

xo Kayla

Kristen said...

very sweet and very true. I've been trying to be more thankful for the smallest things lately and when you stop and think about it there is so much beauty to be thankful for on a daily basis, just like you said even in the smallest things like cutting your husbands hair! sweet post!

courtney said...

this is beautiful :)

Jessica @ Here(and)Now said...

what a beautiful and touching post!
xx
Here&Now

MandaJ said...

I rather enjoy familiarity. Especially when it comes to my Marriage :) Thanks for the reminder!
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Ashley @ Luce said...

perfectly articulated. beautiful sydney!!

Rik said...

I've never commented before, but this was really really beautiful. Life is so good, isn't it?

Amy Rex said...

so profound and beautiful. i completely agree. when you get that flood of gratitude for your life, with all it's up and downs, it really hits you. this life together, though imperfect, really is all that matters and we need to grateful for it.

i needed that today. thanks!

Brittany Lew Whoo said...

this is beautiful, and so true. i love thinking that i get to spend the rest of my life with my best friend.

Aimless Dreamer said...

Beautiful words. You wrote the passage so eloquently - full of wisdom and experience. I only hope to know what you're feeling one of these days.

Makaila said...

I swear girl.. this mama maturity in you is over flowing lately. You have a gift with words. Beautiful, meaningful post.

Vasilieva said...

the most adorable pics ever

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x

Sarah said...

i never considered cutting a husbands hair romantic until you mentioned it. That's so sweet =)

- Sarah
agirlintransit.blogspot.com

sgunns said...

I agree! I was also thinking the similar thing the other day while driving. Two people knowing each other so close is amazing, but sometimes I forget to tell my husband just how much that means to me.

Kassie said...

That last photo is beautiful.

I definitely think we lose the appreciation. I know I do! I need to be more present and enjoy the moments with my husband!

House of Tong said...

Their is much beauty to be found in all things even ones weakness. The Lord wants our hearts broken and Spirits contrite. In my darkest times, I have felt so broken only to later learned that I was broken into beautiful (not tryin' to be vein). Then to find someone who loves me for all of me has been amazing and healing. love this post. Girl, you deeep! xo

Aspiring Kennedy said...

Beautifully said. The movies don't like to focus on "the day to day" but the familiar moments are sometimes the most romantic because they are not often thought of first.

airplanesandpianokeys said...

Such a wonderful post. Love how you put it in words. :)

Ramya said...

That is a beautiful post. Made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside!

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Ashley said...

It's so true. I love those moments...very humbling.

JoAnna said...

such a beautiful post. there is nothing better in all the world than that.

Natasha said...

Beautifully said. I love this

Marlena said...

eek that kind of gave me chills! your blog is probably the only one i read from first sentence to last, i feel like you're a smart older sister. true words girl

Kate said...

love this. i agree, i think truly happy people are the ones able to find the extraordinary in the ordinary.

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Erica said...

Beautifully put...and that little man of yours...I can't even deal!
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melanie said...

beautiful post! i remember when my husband and I started dating many many years ago and he had accompanied me to the laundromat (he's sweet like that). He made this statement while folding my shirt 'one day i'll know the story behind all your clothes'. :)

Kelli Anderson said...

wow, you have a knack for writing and sharing your soul so simply and beautifully. this is amazing.

{jaclyn} said...

Sydney, this is achingly beautiful. You are getting even better with age lady. Thank you for your wonderful thoughts. What a wonderful reminder to treasure the precious everyday.

Jan Marie said...

you are beautiful. I love what you have written in this post. It is true that we often forget to really absorb the beautiful day to day moments, that are the best part of life. Everyone always says its the little things that matter the most. I hope you have a wonderful day and enjoy that beautiful baby boy of yours. :)

cakeje van eigen deeg said...

beautifully said/written!

The Webbs said...

i agree, so beautiful.

Lucy said...

So true! People always say "marriage isn't a fairytale" and they're right, but there is something beautiful and wonderful about the solid, working sort of moments :) Lovely post.

Mara Dawn said...

So well said Sydney! I needed to appreciate my family more today. Thank you for sharing.

Desiree said...

How funny that you should write this post today. I was clipping my husband's hair this afternoon and he said, "Just think, you'll be cutting my hair 45 years from now. We'll be sitting outside of our RV (a dream of ours) by the Grand Canyon (on our list) and you'll be doing this same thing." Like you, it struck me as amazing because it is so simple and ordinary that we rarely take the time to notice it. I think you're on to something with stopping to see the beauty in it.

islandfairy said...

Beautiful beautiful post! I had multiple meltdowns today (I blame PMS) and my husband was there to hear my whining, wipe my tears and he even kissed me after I had made his morning a miserable one. If that's not love...

Ondriana said...

I think you would enjoy reading the book Jayber Crow by Wendall Berry.

ashley mikell said...

this is beautiful. i love this thought.

sinika said...

Amazing words!

Malisams said...

i think the same thing all the time, and love it just as much. the "mundane" aspects of sharing your life with someone are pretty amazing.

Jules said...

I love this post. I feel like this when I have my "date day" with my hubby but hadn't known how to describe what I was feeling. "The beauty of familiarity" is the perfect description and the "mundane" parts of life are always the ones that leave me feeling this way. Thank you :). BTW Everett looks ADORABLE!

Catherine Elisabeth said...

You are amazing. Thank you for being so honest and real. It's refreshing in today's society. Love.x

grace said...

so beautiful.
and also, i am typing this comment as a puddle on the floor because that last picture of everett melted me.

Kelsey said...

What beautiful words. Couldn't have said it better.

Kelsey said...

What beautiful words. Couldn't have said it better.

thankfifi said...

sometimes you write and it cracks me up and sometimes, like today, you write and it's beautiful. enjoy the familiarity.

♥ ThankFifi

Jacquelyn | lark&linen said...

You make cute babies

This post was truly beautiful

jenn~the stylish housewife said...

words were never truer. it's like you took the thoughts out of my head and made them sound pretty on paper (er, blog). your son is just too precious for words. enjoy your weekend!

xoxo, jenn
the stylish housewife

laura said...

this is a sweet post. i love it.

Brooke Elyse said...

beautiful words

Jen Daily said...

Thank you for this post. Your "small words" do a pretty good job :)

Michael said...

Amen Sister! Miss you guys.
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tutusandstilettos said...

beautiful post, such inspirational and heart felt words.

Lindley said...

You are such an eloquent writer! I loved this post!

Samantha Falcon said...

Amen Sister!

Adriana F said...

Oh, that is an absolutely beautiful feeling... and you put it in words so perfectly...

Ela said...

Thanks for sharing this.. very lovely and thought provoking..

xoxo ela..
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Perpetuity said...

Well written and I love how even your blanket is stylish!

Rachael said...

I've had to come back and re-read this several times because it really encapsulates the concept of love so truly. Well put, lovely lady.

Becoming Refined said...

I always adore your candid and honest commentary about life, just this little snippet about love has moved me greatly, it's utterly sweet and real. Thanks for sharing!

metaphorislikeasimile.com said...

Beautiful post! You're right, familiarity within your relationships/life truly tops all. It's a wonderful feeling knowing you have someone who knows you better than any and that you have someone you can say the same about.

Tina said...

love this post, sydney

Emily said...

He is just about the cutest thing ever. (: AWWWWWW.

Emmett Katherine said...

What a beautifully written post. Familiarity brings comfort and happiness :)

His Little Lady said...

this post is so very insightful and intimate. it's true, real life isn't romanticized the way it is in movies. thank you for sharing this!
xo TJ

rachiex10 said...

Thank you for this post. This is something I have strived for as I have gotten older. Having recently gone through a break up with my best friend who I saw myself marrying has brought a roller coaster of emotions to my life. Your words were beautiful and encouraging and I can only hope I get to be as lucky as you are some day. <3

Mrs. Baker said...

beautiful post.

CharityElaine said...

Amen, and I agree wholeheartedly. Very beautifully put.

Mariah Robinson said...

I copied and pasted this in my journal. That is how much i loved it and wished that i had thought of it myself. :) You are so wonderfully articulate with your words.

Ryan and Callie said...

What a beautiful way to describe love. "Warm familiarity" This post is perfect.

carli said...

Gorgeous post. Beautifully written. Couldn't agree more!

Jackie B. said...

Such a lovely post! It's true, sometimes in life's rush, we forget to reflect and be thankful that special someone in our lives. Thanks for the reminder. -JB.

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Lindsay said...

Beautifully written. I thoroughly enjoy reading your blog. xoxo

Jesse said...

atticus has the denim overalls too. love 'em.

Jesse said...

atticus has the denim overalls too. love 'em.

eyesonsparrow.blogspot.com said...

Beautiful. I couldn't have said it better myself. Thank you for expressing the extraordinary in something so ordinary.

-Christie

brian and amanda said...

yes!!! i feel this exact way! i feel bad to say this, but, i recognized it while attending a wedding that should not have taken place. the beauty of my husband and i together. this love doesn't need to be found in just books or movies like you said.

wow, i have been totally feeling this and it feels good to read it written so well!

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Jo said...

You write beautifully.

eskimo*rose said...

So beautifully observed, your words brought tears to my eyes x

adorninc said...

Just stumbled on your blog and this post made my eyes well up with tears! Beautiful!

adorninc said...

Just stumbled on your blog and this post made my eyes well up with tears! Beautiful!

crisanthy said...

Thank you for this post- your words moved me. Especially the part about what a privilege it really is that your little boy gets to know you best. I never thought about it that way with my little girl, and it just moved me to tears.

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