thoughts on style

Wednesday, April 25

I found this old quote from novelist Carol Edgarian the other day:

Style begins with the people passing through one’s life, the harbingers we push against and the stylemakers we want to clone. Some are famous, some not. Style grows from admiration, from longing, from discrimination—and, yes, from love. It’s all the places you’ve been to and the people and the moments you’ve known: the parts you’ve adopted, to keep forever, and transformed. We wear our history in our hearts and on our backs.

Style can seem so trivial. And it actually is trivial when put up against a lot of things. But this quote made me really want to examine why I choose to put the clothes on my back that I do. Is it for you? Is it for me? Sometimes I feel a little pressure to maintain the kind of 'fashion' blog {though I prefer to call it 'personal style', cause there's a huge difference} that drew a lot of you here. But adapting my personal style {and consequentially, what I blog about} to my maternally morphing body and lifestyle has been less organic than I thought it would be. Half the time I feel like I still have no idea what I'm doing, still experimenting, still trying to find the balance of wearing the clothes and shoes that I like yet remaining true to who I'm becoming and the lifestyle I've created for myself.
I'm still learning from the outfit pictures I post, just as much as I was when I first started blogging them. {Maybe even more so now.} And I'll continue to do so, even if it is a little less. But I'm going to strive to do so with this quote in mind and hopefully it'll help me continually reflect my history, my reality and those I admire in what I put on my back.

91 comments:

Bianca said...

I always think about the quote that we wear our hearts on our sleeves...

You can! Through your style you show the things you love, your passions and your personality.

It's everyday, living, personal art.

nicholas,sarah,bianca said...

I guess the same could be said for alot of things. Who are we doing this for? ::said at that moment in time:: For the glory of God? For the glory of ourselves? Who am I pleasing right now? I really like this quote. I think it's really good to just stop sometimes and say "Who am I?" and re-adjust in places you've been swaying. Thanks for the afternoon blog! I was getting restless writing this report!;)- bianca

loandco said...

it's for you & me. you've been a big style inspiration and i love seeing what outfits you'll come up with next. now i'm able to look at my closet and see more outfit combinations than i ever have before... if anything, you've opened my eyes! and i'm sure i'm not the only one.

Nuha said...

i think that quote can be related to all aspect of our lives...we think we're in control of our decisions, but really it's the small unnoticed and often "unimportant" things that push us to be who we are

http://nuhasofiyan.blogspot.com

Brooke said...

love that quote!

Irene Buffa said...

love it <3

http://www.ontomywardrobe.com/2012/04/oh-my-shoes.html

http://www.ontomywardrobe.com/2012/04/oh-my-shoes.html

Natasha Fatah said...

It absolutely is not trivial. It's so important and injects so much joy into our lives. Style is important in every aspect in life, including how we conduct ourselves.

Thanks for sharing this post. :)

xoxo
~Natasha Fatah~

Ellie said...

I'm in love with that quote partially because it's so true, but partially because it just sounds amazing... *grins*

I think a lot of the people who visit your blog like you for you, no matter whether you're posting style posts or a single pic of Everett. I applaud the fact that you're confident enough to dress for you, instead of us. {We just so happen to adore it either way *hee*}.

Thanks for sharing a little part of your life with us!

~Ellie

thecoffeehouse said...

so honest. so true. you are great Sydney. and you've got style, oh yes you do (I feel like that was one of our high school cheers). Hmmm.

Olivia Nold Korpi said...

Best post ever! I love the exposure and vulnerability of making fashion choices. Simply it's our self-expression, but all so very complicated at the same time, just like ourselves. We're all a mass of contradictions, confident and insecure, knowledgeable, and yet still learning and when that all ends, it no fun anymore. So, I like that you're embracing the consistency of inconsistency with personal style and the ways we express it throughout changes in our lives. Your rock sista!

dxeechick said...

I don't blame you for feeling pressure. But keep in mind, a lot of people just love hearing about YOU and your family and your daily adventures (with a little fashion mixed it). Go with it! You just put it out there and be yourself and we all love ya for it. You're doing a great job.

PS As a new-ish mom myself, I wouldn't mind reading about some of your more difficult days. Do you have those? Everything looks so peachy and most of my days are rough. Makes me wonder what I'm doing wrong!

Mackenzie said...

This is really good to read. Of course you are changing as you've become a mother, and that change seeps into every area of your life! The reason so many of us readers love you is because you are YOU!

Anna @ IHOD said...

Syd, I am right there with you. Its a continual process, and my style seems to change yearly.
I think thats why we love you though, is that your style is relatable and smile contageous. As Audrey says, that is the best feature;)

kLr said...

I have found myself pondering the same question in regard to the clothing I choose to wear and those around me choose to wear.

Are we trying to uphold and image that is currently hip or trendy or are our styles those that we truly like?

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dailydoily said...

I love that quote :) I love your blog too. Whether or not you blog about personal style or your personal life! xo Lindsay

Jessica and Nick said...

Sydney, you have a great sense of style and I can't tell you how many times I've referenced your blog when trying to figure out my own maternity style! Thanks for always being so inspiring!! : )

http://www.reisfelt.com/2012/04/25.html?m=1

House of Hemingway said...

I think it's great that you're branching out to blogging about your lifestyle including your family and that gorgeous baby of yours.

It keeps us all on our toes. And as in Aladdin... "Bee yourself!"

www.houseofhemingway.com

Marilyn said...

I'm a new follower and I love your blog. I wanted to take a moment to thank you for providing ways to dress stylish and most importantly modest. I always look to your blog for style ideas. You Rock!

Simply. Splendid. Living. said...

That's such a neat quote and good food for thought, I think you're doing an amazing job already.

Hannah said...

I agree that sometimes I feel trivial when I spend a lot of time on the style stuff, but ultimately it's the lighter part of life. There are enough heavy things to deal with that I think we should enjoy the opportunity to cultivate our own style and admire others.

Keep it up!

laura said...

syd. you are doing a fantastic job! thank you for being true to yourself and for being an inspiration.

Elise said...

Thanks for this. It is great perspective. I often wonder the same thing myself.

Elise
Ourdearestfamily.blogspot.com

Summs78 said...

Thanks for this post! I've followed your blog and have seen you take criticism for some posts (the Washingtonian, for example) but I feel that you should always share your personal style. People don't need to agree with every style choice to enjoy the blog. I've found comedy in your posts and hopefully, you'll always stay true to you. People are so quick to criticize when most things should be left unsaid. I wish I had the motivation to stay current with my blog solely for documenting my life with hubby and my sweet 2 yr old boy. I just haven't found the balance of work, family, church, and blog yet, haha.

amy johnson said...

LOVE this quote. And think you'd look great {and make popular} in a "moo moo" if you wanted :)

Adventures in Dressmaking said...

Very cool quote. I've also struggled with WHY I express myself through my clothes and look, and it's nice to read a more intellectual view. I think the follow-up to that quote should be something about what we each create, in addition to where it comes from. Then WE inspire style.

I also prefer personal style to fashion for a blog description... and it's cool to hear you're still learning, after taking SO MANY great outfit pics! =)

erica said...

i love this post sydney!
i loved the quote and totally agree with your insights.
i often think about if my want to be fashionable and look good everyday is a shallow desire, but then i think of fashion as "lovely, virtuous, of good report or praiseworthy," (something you touched on in one of your older popular posts). it is true that beautiful things should really be sought after! and i feel that way about style as well. again, loved this post! thank you!!

xo.
wannahearafunnystory.blogspot.com

Makaila said...

I really appreciate your introspective thinking.. you raise a lot of good points and I love the message- be true to yourself and who YOU are. You truly do rock sister. :)

Alison P. said...

LOVE this!

Jessie K said...

Now that you have this quote in mind, you can be quite free to be who you were, who you are, and who you are becoming. Human beings are complex creatures. We are ever evolving and I think our style reflects that. If we were to stay the same, that means we haven't learned from our experiences. In order to grow, mentally, spiritually, and physically, then we need to learn from our experiences. I think that's what this author is saying, that our internal growth will be reflected in our personal styles. So don't be afraid to grow. While your style may have drawn quite a few of us here, your personality is what keeps us. So don't be afraid to take your fashion journey. I, for one, am interested to see how you will keep it fresh as you and your style evolve!

Kimberly said...

I think it's perfectly normal for style to evolve as we get older or grow through different phases...when I look back at some of my original outfit posts, I chuckle a little at what I thought was "fashionable"! :)

http://www.pennypincherfashion.com

Kelly said...

well said. Thanks for posting and continuing to inspire.

Yaz said...

LOVE this post. And how well you articulated your own recognition of striking that balance of becoming maternal, and its influence on your style is incredible, that you are that in touch with the subtle changes. So far you are doing a GREAT job. Good to know that you take those concepts to heart. I have noticed your style has changed some, being a mom does change everything...to an extent. The demands, the sleepless nights, the unselfish devotion, can make us more "comfortable" and relaxed. It can be a delicate balance to not get "too relaxed" You have still managed to balance it well. Just like millions of stylish moms, continue to remember who you are, much like the quote demands. Great post, and I'm stealing that quote

Sheila @ The FailteHouse said...

I never thought of style like that...as a part of history..interesting and thanks for posting!

the lovebirds said...

what a lovely quote! thanks for sharing! xo

engquist said...

Since we're being real here, I've got to admit to something. I love your blog for your life. Sure, I get a kick out of the photos, but I love your little quips about day to day life. It's like you said, life is changing constantly. I thoroughly enjoy sharing in someone else's experiences. The way you delight in your family, the little things like a smiling baby or a cup of cocoa. It's these things that make your blog fantastic. It's your love of life and your family. And personally, I believe that's what makes your outfits so fun. You love life, so you want to dress appropriately. Thanks, Syd!

Melissa Clift said...

You had me thinking about why i actually read these wonderful daily musings from all you pretty ladies. i realized that, yes, it is nice to see your personal style and how you reflect yourself to the world, but quite honestly, i would still read your posts whether you had an outfit posted or not, because you are a great writer and story teller, and that is why i keep coming back for more :)

Thanks, Lissa

Amy Nguyen said...

Beautiful quote. Love your honesty.

lifesincelove said...

great post! if u love it..ull rock it. remember that and stay true to yaself!! woooo woooo..ha.
xo

Katie Blacker said...

Hi Sydney. Interesting quote. made me think. It is true. My style comes from 'all the places, people, and moments." I liked this. thank you!

You had to be there

Brittany H said...

Great quote. And just so you know...

I'm drawn to your blog and your fashion because it inspires me to just be who I am and be happy with what I have. While some of your styles are irresistible, most often I don't feel a need to copy everything you do. You've helped me find joy in mixing and matching what I already have to create new outfits that I love.

For someone who didn't get that magic fashion gene, the tips and ideas I get from your blog or column are pure gold.

wishdesignshop.com said...

i've often wondered if style bloggers feel pressured to keep up the look so this post was a slight bit of a look into that. you are only human, so i was pretty sure it must get stressful at points, just as any job would. always being on trend and stylish is hard work! i don't care what anyone says! you're doing great though...one of the best blogs out there for sure.

anna @ www.wishdesignshop.com

Sarah Larsen said...

I love this. You know I love philosophical Syd. There's nothing like being nearly completely responsible for the growth and well being of another human to make you think about who you are and why we do what we do on this earth. Including what we wear.

Chelsea said...

I love that quote and it's been interesting for me as a reader (and someone going through first time motherhood right behind you) to see your style and blog evolve. You are truly an inspiration, both in how you handle your life and in your sense of style.

Chelsea (www.hautechildinthecity.com)

.aubrey c. said...

We already love you for who you are, just be true to yourself and share it with us and thats what we can all appreciate.

http://gandacummings.blogspot.com

Sassy & Classy {Hanna Fardig} said...

Sydney. I am literally obsessed with your blog. I love this post, especially the part where you said it isn't a fashion blog, but a personal style blog. I just started blogging and your blog is what inspired me! I go to BYU-I and {this may be a little creepy/weird or it could possibly make your day.... up to you} you are completely my fashionista/blogger/mom/cute wife role model! My blog is called Sassy & Classy, I would DIE if you checked it out. :)
hannafardig.blogspot.com

Marie-Eve said...

So true ! In my search for personnal style I've discovered a lot about myself, on how I see myself and the image I want to project to others. I've also gained confidence by trying new things (and getting away with it). I grew a lot, and as I continue to grow, I'm shure my style will change at the same time as I. Style is not as shallow as one might think ! It's a way of expression as good as any other one !

Madeline said...

I am not sure I ever felt so lost as when I had my baby, well as far as style goes. I was baffled by my forever-changed body and didn't know how to reconcile style with baby care. It took about 6 months, but I feel better than ever about it all.

Loved the post.

Urban Nester said...

Love this post. Style can help you express yourself and how you want to represent yourself that day.

I posted about Stella & Dot today! Come check it out!

molly
http://alwaysamrsforeverakidd.blogspot.com

Kellie said...

I would still read your blog- fashion posts or not. You're funny and clever and real and that's what I love about your blog.

la vie quotidienne said...

I think is not trivial my dear...YOu decide respect this.

XOXO from MUNICH

La Vie Quotidienne

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A FANCY DAY said...

Sometimes I feel the same way, why am I wearing these clothes. For the blog? For myself? And what is personal style really is it really just the clothes I put on my back or so much more. Does my personality, likes,lifestyle, and how I treat others play into it.

Caroline said...

I so appreciate your poignant honesty! What a beautiful post. I can so relate; sometimes I feel like my "fashion" is so arbitrary and, as you say, trivial. Other times I get so much happiness from fashioning myself. It's an interesting negotiation. Thank you so much for sharing!

http://thefeministajournals.blogspot.ca/

Gaby said...

Personally, i've loved watching your transformation from stylista student to mumma. And I enjoy your posts that have nothing to do about style just as much as the ones that do :)

tricianancy said...

I started following your blog because of an outfit I saw that I liked, but continued to read it because of the your personality that you are so effortlessly able to translate on to your blog. You are so easy to relate to as a young mother who has a lot of passion for life in general. There are so many style bloggers out there who can whip up a great outfit, but I get so annoyed with the fact that some look like they are straight out of a particular store's catalog vs. showing the ability to put together a great outfit based on items they've collected and love.

I think its easy to forget that we are real people behind our computer screens with real lives and worries on a day to day basis, and we can all allow our critics make the best of us. I will still look forward to seeing your personal style posts, not because of the brands you wear or the current trends you show off, but because I think you truly have GREAT style.
this post has really just confirmed to me that you are a wonderful woman worth looking up to.

His Little Lady said...

what a beautiful post, and such beautiful insight! i definitely want to remember this quote from now on when i get dressed. thank you :)
xo TJ

Allie said...

Style can be trivial, but in so many ways, it's not. I was recently told that my staff at school may be asked to wear a strict dress code of khakis and polos. I almost cried while I was expressing my strong feelings about why this was such a bad idea. HA! I'm a kindergarten teacher and being able to dress in a way that is professional, yet appealing for my students and fitting to my personality is exciting and fun for me. The idea of having that taken from me was crazy. :)

I love how honest you are here about how your life is changing and how your style will change too. Let it. Your readers will love it all. Including me!

Ash said...

this is funny- because of you, i tried to do outfit posts.. and i HATED them.. like i hated everything in my closet.. so i stopped taking pictures to put up as posts, and just kept taking pictures (err.. had hubby take pictures)...

point is, i learn so much from taking photos of my clothes.. and yes, it seems trivial- especially if i start talking about it to people OTHER than bloggers, but, i find it is a reflection of ME what I put on MY back, as this quote says...

but girl, please... you shouldn't be doing anything on this blog for anyone other than yourself and your family (: because THAT'S why everyone loves you (and yes, in case you were wondering, i DO speak for everyone)

(:

theLadventure said...

im a new mom also it was nice to see i'm not the only one. however you are rocking amazingly!

Amanda said...

Well put.

Check out my blog:

http://amandagrisham.blogspot.com/

XO,
Amanda

Cady said...

Amen, sister.

Jane said...

I LOVE looking at your personal style photos, they are always so inspirational. However, I didn't start reading your blog for fashion tips. I found it randomly through another's blog and was so enchanted I started from the beginning. I have loved reading your love story, first with Ty, than with Evs. You've always been so honest, so straight forward that it's a pleasure to read your blog. Here's the creepy, honest truth- sometimes I still go back to your first entry and read through everything again. I can't really explain why, but it's like reading an old familiar book. I don't have a child, but I have a husband and your blog has inspired me to be kinder to him, love him more everyday, have more fun with him, and strengthen our religion together. I know this doesn't truly pertain to your blog post, but I wanted you to know one of your readers wants you to post about YOU and what makes you happy. If that's style, great, if it isn't, I'll still read :)

LEANNE DEE said...

Wow, what an awesome quote and I love your perspective on it too! I love your blog and your style and I look forward to following your blog as you adapt your style as your lifestyle changes.

Leanne Dee

Unknown said...

I love your blog!!!!!!
I have one blog also and I just posted accessories and looks from Los Angeles,

www.thegavlaks.com

impatientlyinspired said...

Your personal style is so unique, and so inspiring. I work for a very conservative company and expressing myself through work wardrobe is quite difficult. Your style is so effortless and classic that it gives me hope for being able to punch up my workwear and bring in some of my own personality to the office!

Wish me luck! xoxo

carli said...

Love this quote and this post. I think it's so important that you continue to let this blog be an expression of who you are and who you are becoming! For me, thats why I love reading genuinely authentic blogs. People being real, sharing their journeys and learning as they go. It creates this beautiful community we all get to participate in. I wouldn't want you to feel a pressure to do it any other way. Keep up the great work Sydney :)

Sarah said...

I've noticed lately that style bloggers can get burned out on daily outfit photos. Do what's best for you and your creative juices! Your fun personality is what keeps us coming back.
I LOVE the last line of that quotation. It pretty much sums up my grad degree in "material culture" - basically the idea that all objects have meaning. Everything you wear tells a story, and part of life is making up that story as you go.

Jo said...

That is true in a way, that we wear history on our backs. Through the circumstances in our lives, our style evolves. I've only just (at 33) realized what I LOVE to wear. It has come from years of experimenting and admiring different styles but now I think I know what works for me and my lifestyle. But style is trivial. There are many things in life and in our world we can put more thought and action into than just what we put on our backs.

Tanya Dempsey said...

What a great post. I hear you! I've been feeling such similar feeling lately, especially since I've become pregnant. A lot of my readers came to me because of my outfit posts, and now that my looks include a growing bump, I wonder who will hang in there with me... I think it's all about being authentic, being truly who you are and what feels good. And that will keep you growing as a woman, a mother and a human being. (All the blog stuff is secondary)

With love,

T xx

November Grey

Summer said...

I love your honesty, Sydney. I've always dreamed that I had your ability to put outfits together. And I cannot believe how amazing your body looks after having a baby. It's like celebrity-unreal. Be encouraged, please, because you have inspired me so much.

Keep on staying true to yourself and what you love <3

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Xx,

angie said...

I had an identity crisis when I had my kids as babies and I had no idea how to get dressed for my new life. It took me a few years to re invent myself and find my style again.

cara. said...

totally know what you mean. just did a short series on style and clothing after working in production forever.

http://alittlebear.blogspot.com/search/label/style

you might resonate a bit?

Emily Wenstrom said...

Truth! There's a reason we think about this stuff so much.

Jacy said...

I love the outlook given in this quote, and also what you've expanded on. I find my style personally evolving and also find it hard to balance "trends" with pieces I love and things other people love. I also have trouble accepting that some pieces I love on other people simply do not look good on me. But, I also think that's a big reason why personal style blogs have taken off...because we all want someone to identify with style-wise!

~Jacy

http://laviedelenore.blogspot.com

naomi reaman said...

I love it! I also like how you said your blog is more personal style. I feel like I am not up to date on fashion, I try to, but I'm not the best at fashion. I try to make my outfits look in style, but I feel like I am trying too hard. Thanks for the quote and for your thoughts.

Dani said...

This is such an inspirational quote, totally encourages you to be confident about your instincts and tastes and style because your likes were inspired by those people who have shaped you! Thanks so much for sharing!

-Dani
http://danijdo.blogspot.com/

Dani said...

This is such an inspirational quote, totally encourages you to be confident about your instincts and tastes and style because your likes were inspired by those people who have shaped you! Thanks so much for sharing!

-Dani
http://danijdo.blogspot.com/

Ashley said...

What an interesting, complex, yet accurate description of style. I think there is something about posting pictures of outfits that eventually leads a person to wonder who they are doing it for. I know I've reached that point numerous times. Part of me feels like I have to wear something "different" when I'm dressing for someone else. Sometimes I resist that urge if I'm purely doing it for that reason. But sometimes I go along with it because it pushes my comfort zone and makes me try things I usually wouldn't try. But when you always dress for someone else or even dress to look like someone else, it's easy to lose sight of what you like and are comfortable in.

I'm a long time reader and I've noticed that your style has changed. And I'll be honest sometimes I wonder if you wear certain things because it was given to you (since it doesn't seem to fit with everything else). And sometimes I wonder if you really wear certain outfits as a new momma. But maybe I've just never seen such a fashionable mom before (in my "real" life). ;) With this post I think I better understand a bit of what you're going through and the tension that exists in trying to find what works for you now, in your present situation. Keep on evolving, girl! Do what works for you, God, and your beautiful family.

Chris and Jaime said...

I really enjoy your blog because you seem like a real person. I love that I see you use the same clothing items again and again because that is what all of us have. We can't go out and buy new things every day, but your style is inspiring because it encourages me to be creative with what I have, and to just be me. I don't read many "fashion" blogs, because most of them I can't relate to. But yours I do, so thanks :)

Kacie @ A Collection of Passions said...

Loved reading this. Yes and yes. Completely true. Just be yourself and we'll follow and love.

Kacie
http://www.acollectionofpassions.com/

Michelle said...

i'm featuring you on my blog tomorrow-check it out!

Michelle said...

i'm featuring you on my blog tomorrow-check it out!

Yours Truly said...

How true is this! Thanks for posting, hun. Really appreciate your thoughts on this :) Have a lovely day!

Caitlin said...

I love this quote! Thank you for posting it. I too am pondering my own personal style lately. I felt like maybe I was a little too enthralled with clothes. That quote really puts everything into perspective. Style is slightly about obsession at times. Fantastic quote really!

Kim said...

I was completely drawn to your blog because you are so darn funny! Although I do love your style and you have definitely given me many wardrobe ideas and inspiration I keep coming back for your great personality, funny stories and your obvious love for life. Keep up the good work Syndey and if there are less outfit posts that fine with me I'll keep coming back regardless!

The Brides' Maid said...

Great quote

Huda said...

beautiful quote and true to form.

christine said...

I kinda feel the same way. But this entry of yours is enlightening, so thank you!

Tripnitintin.blogspot.com

ouinonmaybe said...

Thanks for another wonderful post Sydney. I've long wondered about personal style and its evolution - it's interesting to see who/what influences our choices over time. I've realised that my style (and that of many others) is heavily influenced by family - I like to think of it as 'style inheritance'.

I wrote a little post about my ponderings here http://ouinonmaybe.wordpress.com/2012/03/04/style-inheritance/

And check out the 'Advanced Style' video for inspiration on growing old fabulously!

x

Jackie B. said...

Very well expressed! I think style is a learning process, always evolving as we change and experience new things, are exposed to new people, and priorities shift. I agree, stay true to yourself and the rest should fall in place! And for what it's worth, I quite like your style! - JB.

http://madewithlovebyjackieb.blogspot.co.uk/

Shilohmae said...

"Personal Style" is one of my favorite phrases, and like you said, it includes SO much more than fashion.
Your blog, and the way you holistically express your personal style is so endearing. We don't expect a certain thing from you! We're just on the edge of our seats waiting to see what you'll show us next!
<3

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