on raising a boy

Tuesday, March 13

The other night as Tyson and I were sitting on the couch after dinner, going through our nightly ritual of admiring our favorite chubby parts of little Everett sleeping on our laps, the responsibility of raising this boy suddenly hit me. Not the responsibility of having a baby, but of having a boy. A little boy that will someday grow into a man. Someone who's kind, good, loyal, trustworthy, confident, hardworking, nonjudgmental, happy and loving. Right now, with the way he looks at me, grabs my hair, cuddles close on my chest and smiles when we make eye contact, I feel both overjoyed and overwhelmed that he really belongs to me. That he's mine, that he recognizes me as his mama, and that I get to be the primary influence that will shape and mold this sweet little boy into a man that contributes good to the world and to his family. That's huge. It's the greatest, scariest thing in the world. And while I'm not entirely sure how I'm going to do it yet, this intimidating thing they call parenting, I'm so thankful that the man I chose to marry is the kind of person I want my son to grow up to be like. And that we get to do this together. Everett and I are both really lucky that way.

122 comments:

Lippylash said...

You just always right the sweetest things! You and Ty are really the perfect couple and you have the cutest baby boy! I'm sure you and Ty will do it just right and the woman who marries him will be very lucky!

Stephanie said...

This is such a touching post. The gentleman and I were recently discussing kids and i mentioned how scared i am to have boys.

I love that you document your moments on your blog as i am sort of living through your experiences and learning for the day God makes me a parent

xo Stephanie

Statements in Fashion said...

Hes soooo cute!! Ive loved reading your motherhood journey so far! I know what its like....I have a son who is now 15, but looking back, whoa! We have gone through many days building on special bond.....I just know no matter what happens....and who he becomes, Im always the one he turns to when hes hurting, scared, he still needs his Mommy:) You are going to do great!!!

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Aveen said...

What a lovely post :) Everett is gorgeous :) I think you will be an amazing parent as you have such a beautiful view on the world and appreciate everything xxx

Jam Oblina said...

for sure Everett will grow the man he is meant to be - all the descriptions you said. :-)

La Maman Heureuse said...

With all the love going on between you and Tys and the love you share and give to little E., I'm pretty sure he will grow up to be an amazing man. After 2 years of parenting (peanuts, I know, compared to other moms), I still feel that love is the most important thing you can give a child.

When I became a mom, a friend of mind send me this quote: you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think and more loved than you know. Guess she was right. You'll do amazing, just like you've been doing till now.

Btw, Everett looks amazing with all that hair, just like you :-)

Alli from Life on LeRoy said...

I also have a little boy and sometimes I sit and reflect on how different it would be if we had a girl. Little boys are the best (in my opinion of course) :)

Cait said...

great post :) xo

ECoop said...

Carrying my first child, a lil boy due in a few weeks....your post hits home for me too.
Thank God for lil' chubby baby boys, and great husbands for them to look up to. :) Happy Tuesday!

Megan said...

I love reading your posts Sydney. You have such a way with words and you often state that your husband is the smart one but you are so smart in your own way. I don't know how old you are but you have so much wisdom and come across as an old soul (this is a huge compliment by the way)! You seem like such a great person and your family is precious. I hope you write a book or something one day :)

Megan @ Storybook Love Affair

luvvleighb said...

You are adorable and so kind and caring. You are going to raise an amazing man. That world needs to watch out :)

Mere and the Mister said...

Love that last picture. Precious post...I love these.
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Ylenia said...

you baby boy is so cute and I am sure you'll get so much happiness from him.
he is going to be an amazing man, I am sure!

keep it positive bella!

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Michelle said...

Oh sweet post here Syd!!!!!! It mean's the world to have an amazing husband that you want your children to be just like.... Even though I have girl's, their father too is the most amazing man and father to them, and I thank God everyday for the blessing of this man he put in my life to share the most beautiful adventure of raising our girls together!!!!!! You are very blessed, and I am so happy for ya!

Jasmine Nicole said...

Your posts always bring a smile to my face. I love the pictres so adorable.

Lisa @ honibun@blogspot said...

Awwwww that is so sweet. I am sure that your little guy is going to grow into an amazing man because of the loving influence of his mommy and daddy!

Anna D Kart said...

This is very sweet but also I'm glad to see I'm not the only one having anxiety about having children... I don't have any yet but I agonize about the huge responsibility that will be on our shoulders as parents when we do have a child. It's huge! Whoa! But with God's help and guidance we can do it! Thank you for a great blog, love reading it!

Maria said...

You are going to do a fantastic job!

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Glocal Girl said...

You have a beautiful way with words and make motherhood something I look forward to. Thanks for sharing your life with us!

x

Tiffany said...

oh man, i love this. so true and so wonderful and so scary. and so wonderful (again). :)

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Bridget said...

girl. i hear what you're saying. sometimes the enormous responsibility of growing parker into a good compassionate man has me a little weepy. especially in a world of bullies. i sort of want to keep him all to myself.

Bianca said...

So much love :)

Eloquent English said...

So sweet! Most importantly a Godly man! xoxo A-

Maria said...

Goodness gracious you have a way with words. This is written so beautiful. I think baby Everett will grow up to be just like his amazing parents!

janis said...

you two are so beautiful. good luck on your journey :)

Simi said...

I really love this post. It makes me so happy to know that you want to raise your little boy to become a man of valor and character. xx.

{annie_loo} said...

WELL SAID! We had this same conversation this weekend! It is a big responsibility but also a rewarding one knowing how influential you really are on the little person (people) in your life. I have a feeling little Everette will be nothing short of PERFECT. With parents like y'all, he's got a good start!

marcella said...

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Sarah said...

That is so beautiful. I am no where near having children just yet, but when I do, I hope I can raise them with as much poise and love as you seem to be doing here.
Good luck with that little man! He's absolutely adorable.

Jola said...

I love those fun pictures!

Jola said...

I love those fun pictures!

Jeremy and Megan said...

so sweet!! :) He has a good man to look up to and stive to be!

Elise said...

Oh my word, this is so sweet! You are a great momma!

Southern Elle said...

That is so sweet. We're about to have our first boy in June.. Really feels like a privilege.

Life Interlaced said...

Thank you for this post, Sydney. So beautiful!

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Michael said...

WOW. Wonderful. Can't wait to see you and Mr. E.

Love,
POPS

Cate said...

I love the quote "don't marry a man unless you would be proud to have a son exactly like him." It looks like you have the first part down!!

Sometimes it will suddenly hit me that my little boy is mine and I am his....It is such a tremendous responsibility and so so humbling! I kind of love those little moments where it hits me....it makes all the unglamorous things that goes along with raising children feel more like a privilege!

heather said...

i've never commented on your blog before, but this post colors me compelled. you have become the highlight of my morning coffee ritual. i make my coffee at work, wait for my e-mail to load, and i read your blog. your family is beautiful and you are inspiring. you make me want a baby more than i already do. not because yours is so damn cute (which, let's face it, he really is), but because of how you focus on the joy and the happiness of motherhood. so many people focus on the negative. you don't, and i thank you immensely for that.

Desert Mermaid said...

My sons are almost-21 and almost-25 ... how very very tenderizing and nurturing to hear from them, now, the ways that THEY took in my parenting, what they believe that 'got from me' ... especially because all their lives, they have physically favored their Dad/my husband both in looks and chosen behaviors (i.e. basketball!!!) I often felt I had contributed 'nothing' but their entry to the planet. My point is just to assure you that as MOMMY, then MOM, what you do may seem under the radar, but oh oh oh! it is NOT! And your little man will become a Man Man incrementally and will be able one day to look into your eyes and articulate to you why you have been wonderful in, and so necessary to, his life.

Jordin- I Love That! said...

What a sweet post and an adorable little boy! My little man is about to turn 2 and is trying my patience. Sometimes its hard to remember to let him just be a "boy" and this phase will pass soon. But I shouldn't wish it away because with the age of tantrums comes the funny little guy who loves lawn mowers and dancing. He keeps us entertained! Enjoy your sweet boy!

Lena said...

This is just how I feel. It still boggles my mind to think that I have produced a baby who will be a MAN and someday bigger than me! All little boys - and their sisters too - deserve good dads and fathers like we have.

Mr. Taylor and his Lady said...

what a very touching post. and of course, the pictures are so lovely. i know baby E will grow up to be such a good young man :)
xo TJ

Jessica @ Here(and)Now said...

Perfect. Amazing attitude and a beautiful love!
xx

Lottie said...

What a beautiful post--Everett will grow up to be a man that makes you proud :)

And this makes me so excited when/if I have children and the journey me, my husband and our little one/s will go on :)

dailydoily said...

Awe :) So sweet! I know, it's a scary thing isn't it. I don't have any children yet, but I think about those things too. I don't think anyone is every ready. You just figure it out along the way + it's great that you have such an amazing hubby to help u. I LOVE your brown hair + it looks like Everett does too!

Sofia H. said...

Reading your blog feels like we're already friends. You're gonna be a great mama. And I love the new hair!

e.r.a. said...

He's just too sweet. It makes me want one.

Lyz said...
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Lyz said...

I am too having a little baby boy, and while I haven't even come close to grasping the fact of being a parent I am realizing some of the things you are. I am so excited to see him grow, and his daddy teach him certain things, and I others. I can't wait for him to be here, so I can hold our sweet little one. Also, Everett is such an adorable baby!

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Kristy Rohrer said...

Thanks for the reminder of the responsibility we have as Moms. :)

Kelly said...

lovely photos and post. This boy is very luck to have you both!

.aubrey c. said...

Thats a lovely thought and a big responsibility that I am taking on too. Thanks for sharing.

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Sarah-Anne said...

beautiful!

{Liana} said...

Geez louise that was about the sweetest thing ever...you're already a fabulous mama just for thinking that and making it your intention to mold him into a good person:)

Mrs.Danielle.Warren said...

You are bring tears to my eyes & I'm not even a mom! Not even close! But I can not wait to have a little boy that looks & acts just like my husband! Right before we got married, his parents kept tellin me that have have been praying that Andrew (my man) has a kid just like him lol Even though them mean it as pay back, I am excited to have my son grow up to be just like his daddy!
See, my eyes are all watery & I'm not even close to being prego! Haha thanks for helping my day start off right!
Love the hair too btw!

MrsMcComas said...

This pretty much puts into words why I cannot wait to be a parent! I find that responsibility the most beautiful thing in the world.!

Kasey M.

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Andrea Garland said...

Oh Everett look more beautiful through weeks. You'll do a great job raising him.

Andrea said...

Such a sweet post! Raising a boy is so fun! My son turns 8 in less then 2 weeks and even still it amazes me he is mine and I get nervous about making decisions in our parenting. But I just go with the flow, what I feel in my heart, and much prayer. Boys are great and will always have a special place in their Mama's heart.

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Along Abbey Road said...

Well said. I completely feel ya and think the same things about my husband and bebe. Thank goodness for great men! Everett will be a wonderful person. You're a good mama!

♥Abbey
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Aracely said...

He is getting so bi and handsome!! Love your hair!

Karin said...

Amen !! My lil man is almost five months and I completely relate to all of your mama posts. Love this, so sweet.

Malea said...

What an adorable baby you have! I'm sure you are a great mother :)

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Alicia said...

Love this! I have a little guy too and I realize more and more everyday that mothers are the primary force in a little guy's life. "If I have a monument in this world, it is my son."

Also, just started reading Bringing Up Bebe. You should grab it...I'd bet you'd love it.

Elaine Ritchel said...

I haven't commented in a while; I've mostly just been sitting back, enjoying your lovely photos. But I'm really curious about what you wrote here.

I keep thinking, would raising a girl be any different? Isn't the challenge raising a good person--a person who is all of the things you named--regardless of gender? Or is there something inherently different about raising a boy?

Notes from Holly St. said...

such a sweet post! you're lucky to have a wonderful husband for your son to look up to. being a parent is a huge responsibility but also the most magical thing.

our daughter just turned one and my husband and i made a little video documenting her first year. you're in store for a lot beautiful memories! take a look if you'd like :)

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Ashley said...

I feel the same way.

Mrs. Baker said...

love this post! and I totally understand-raising a little man too. It is a great privilege. love the last picture of you two :)

lori said...

so sweet. i have no doubt that little everett will have amazing character... how could he not with such great parents?!

Urban Nester said...

This is so sweet, Syd.

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jennifer said...

i had a baby boy just a couple weeks before you... you couldn't have said it better. well done!

Alton clan said...

I know that feeling. And it's wonderful to have a partner whose amazing to help :) Happy for you guys!

Vivi K said...

This is se sweet and inspiring! You're a great mom Sydney, Everett is one lucky little man. :)

Mint Julep said...

I totally relate to your words. I'm also mother to a boy, and I feel exactly the way you do. How am I gonna help shape this tiny little man into a GOOD man? And I also feel lucky that he has his father as the example of a GOOD man before him. I hope he grows up to be like his dad, I really do. Your baby is getting sweeter by the moment!

Evelyn said...

I remember thinking this way and sometimes I still do. He's also the first and therefore will be the older/oldest big brother. There is a lot there to teach our boys so that they can be strong men in the future.

amy said...

it's a daunting task and keeps us humble. but it's the best gift we could ever receive!

Justine said...

So so sweet

Justine

Sierra Oblad said...

This is so sweet. I'm sure that you and your husband are going to do a great job raising your little man!

Rae Veda said...

What a sweet post. Something wonderful to think about. xo, rv

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kimberly said...

This is just too precious. The pictures, the words, everything. Ah! In love with this post.

Shannon said...

I have two boys (one is a few weeks younger than your E-man)

I think about this all.the.time!

I hope I am setting a good example for my boys...

Tanya Dempsey said...

I have a two year old little girl and just found out I'm pregnant with a little man. I've often thought about the same things... how raising a tiny man will be such a huge responsibility. And somehow it feels massively different than having a girl. Can't wait to meet him... I can only hope I'm worthy enough, strong enough, smart (yet sensitive) enough to create the kind of man that the world so desperately needs. xx

Vonae Deyshawn said...

This is such an adorable post. I think about the same things as my little man beats around inside my belly. Who will he be? I hope a man of great influence and wisdom. I can't wait to embark on this journey of motherhood. : )

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Jessica and Eric said...

I love reading your blog posts on your son. I, too, am a new mom to a little boy who's about Everett's age. It's fun to share the same experiences you're having through your blog! Keep 'em coming!

the lye's said...

I had a similar experience when my son was a few months old. If you haven't read The Parents Tao Te Ching yet, you should. It changed my views on parenting and it is the gift I give to every new mother. The respect the book shows for parenthood is beyond gracious. Check it out, it will be a game changer :)

Lauren Cooper said...

Love this post. and baby Everett..he is just darling!!


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AnastasiaC said...

Im a mum to two boys who are growing super fast before my eyes - I agree!
it is scary to think of our responsibility as mothers
especially for me as my first serious relationship with a boy at age 18 turned out to be an abusive one - its so important to me to teach kindness, respect to woman and to their fellow human beings, communication without raising voices or agression....
its SO important for my husband and I to be great role models especially as there are so many outside influences each and every day...how we are as a family will shape them and its something we think about all the time!

Im quite firm with my boys - some might say too firm but one day these little boys are going to be way taller than me, way stronger than me too - if I dont teach and expect the respect I deserve from now when they are still young, then it will be much harder when they are 14!
Its wonderful being a mum to boys, i love giving and receiving lots of cuddles and i love that they are still happy to express their love - no embarrasing moments yet!!

Your baby boys is darling!! love your blog too!

dreaming en francais said...

That must be an incredible feeling, knowing you have a baby boy all to yourself, someone who will always look to you for your love, encouragement, and guidance. So sweet to think about! I can already see that you two are amazing parents! xo

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Unknown said...

I saw this on Pinterest and it made me think of your post.
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hayley jo said...

Well this just made me tear up. Thank you! Haha. You are a very sweet lady. Love your blog!

Yuli Conversations said...

your baby boy is gorgeous! and i GUARANTEE you will raise him and nourish him into 'one in a million' man!

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brittany said...

i love this! such a great reminder of the tremendous responsibility we have as moms, especially moms of little boys. thanks :)

Karie said...

You just made me well up! I'm expecting my own little boy in 8 weeks. I've loved your blog for a long time, but especially the past few months. I love your perspective and honesty. Thank you for writing.

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Dana Rice said...

I have a little boy too (11 weeks old) and I hope with all my heart he turns out just like his daddy. Sweet, kind, smart, funny and respectful. I married a true gentleman (strange since he's a big city boy!) and can't wait to raise my son with him. Yay for little boys and incredible hubbies!

2ndhandknowledge said...

Everett has the most beautiful eyes! Adorable!

JTSmith said...

This post made me cry. I hope i become an amazing mother like you.

Shawnee said...

so lovely. this is so sweet!! xoxo

jessica said...

So precious. I love the persepective you put this in!

Marie-Eve said...

He's adorable !

And I love you as a brunette. I read your post the other day and it made me laugh because I (and my bff and my sister in law) all got trought the inexpected need to change our hair after giving birth ! We call it the post pregnancy hair !!!!

Parenting for me is taking it one day at a time, do what feels right, and do it with all my love ! Don't worry, the way you talk about your son, I can totally see you're an amazing mother !

Angela said...

He is adorable! This is such a sweet post! I'm sure you guys are going to do a great job raising him! :)

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Sarah said...

These are the sweetest pictures!

Krista said...

What a great read. My husband and I just found out we're expecting a boy! So exciting and scary! But mostly exciting :)

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That just melted my heart <3

As always, thanks for sharing!

Kelly Jean said...

Yes! This is so sweet. Makes me excited to have my little boy in July! :)

Beth said...

I can't get over how adorable he is! He's going to grow up into an amazing little man.

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nightatvogue.com said...

Cute photos!

SunnyYellow said...

I don't usually comment, but I love how positive and sweet and grateful you always are. It inspires me to be more positive about everything, especially the things that matter most to me.

Diana said...

What a sweet, poignant post. Everett and Tyson are as lucky to have you as you are to have them. Don't forget it! :)

Anna said...

he is just the cutest little thing that I have ever seen! love those cheeks and big eyes!!

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Lauren Kaczmarski said...

I agree - how intimidating the responsibility can seem! I wrote a post about my thoughts on this...http://lettersfromlala.com/leading-the-young/

Britney said...

Oh girl, I think about this all the time. Like literally, every moment of every day. That and how he'll never be as young as he is now ever again. Ugh..it eats me alive.
It's good to hear I'm not the only one savoring every last moment. You're such a sweet mom, Sydney.

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Mrs C said...

I have boys.. the bigger they get, the more I think if I did good raising them, did I show them enough, listened enough.. I guess I did my part and have to let them take the lead sooner or later in leading their lives. Hopefully they will be fine. I'm sure you will do great. We moms, always have our little ones in mind in whatever we do. Great read. Bookmarking!

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Sandy a la Mode said...

awwww soo sweet!! little boys are the best!! :D

FashionableLena said...

I am such a girly-girl that I found it daunting when I realized that I was raising a boy. Now, I have two boys, and I have no desire to have a girl.
I, too, married a man that I want my sons to be. However, as a mother, I make sure that I show my boys what a good woman, wife, and mother looks like. That is just as important as how a father teaches his sons how to be a man, a husband, and a father.

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brea said...

I love this.. Though I have a girl it is awesome to be able to read your blog and have you going through the same stuff as me. My daughter is a week younger then your baby E and me and my fiancé have check back on all his little pictures and we talk about how cute he is and my daughter will sit at the computer with us just smiling her heart out when any picture of your little man comes up and its the worlds cutest thing ever :) but wow way off topic anyways thank you for sharing your guys life it definitely gives me a feeling of gratefulness to be able to see not only my daughter growing but yours and others bloggers as well :)
much love <3 <3

Smitten.... said...

Bottom picture....seriously cute oh my!

2Gitanas said...

wow...that post touched me! Everett is the cutest thing in the world...i would eat his chubby cheeks all day long!! illions of neverending blessings to your family and lovely home! kisses!

Jo said...

This thought has been going through my mind for a long time... I'm a mom to a 4 year old boy. :) I read Dr James Dobson's "Bringing Up Boys" for some insights, and I heard about "Wild at Heart" that is supposed to be awesome about learning about how God made boys/men.

Jo

manisha said...
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manisha said...

I second your thoughts !!!

Love to Everett :)

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