thoughts on birth

Monday, August 15

This weekend was a cloudy, rainy one. The kind that's ideal for painting, and dinner parties and playing cards at friend's houses. {thanks friends!} But also for baby-book reading and hormonal mommy tears, and very long discussions on the couch about bringing this little boy into the world.

I've never had a high pain tolerance. Growing up, I was the kid who requested a band-aid if I sneezed too hard. Going by that standard, I had always assumed that in labor, I'd be the one rushing to the hospital in a pained panic, getting that blessed dose of anesthesia and bringing the babe into the world numbed, tired from labor and blissful. Until three weeks ago. When my sister-in-law gave me a book on natural, {yet comfortable --- whaaaa?} birthing, to read on our drive to DC.

The book was fascinating! It started asking me questions like, "Why are the two sets of muscles of the uterus the only muscles that do not perform well under normal conditions?" "Why would a loving God make us so that we would come together in love to conceive and then make the means through which we would birth our children so excruciatingly painful?" and "Why are women in some cultures able to have gentle, comfortable births, when the women of the western world seem designated for painful birthing experiences?" None of this had ever crossed my mind before, but suddenly I found myself thinking, "YEA?! WHY!?"

As I read more and was introduced to this idea of natural, comfortable birth, I completely surprised myself at how quickly I abandoned my life-long plan of anesthetized birth, and embraced this new idea that not only was natural birth possible, but it could be accomplished peacefully and comfortably by band-aid over-users like me! As silly as it sounds, I was so excited by the idea that hey! the birthing body knows what its doing. It's perfect in its design. And with the combination of relaxation and an absence of fear, the female body is enabled to do what it's meant to do - naturally! Wowza, I tell you, fireworks that spelled THIS IS AWESOME were going off in my head.

That all being said, I of course, believe that birthing for every woman is a deeply personal experience with a wide-variety of circumstances and endless situational variables. Obviously, there is not a one-size-fits-all birthing method for bringing those sweet babies into the world, and every woman gets to decide what's best for her and her baby {go mamas!}

I am however, so excited to embrace this new-found insight and run with it. For the first time, the thought of being able to feel every part of giving birth to my little boy is exciting instead of scary. And the thought of getting to do this along side this holy-wow supportive husband of mine {the guy was telling ME about the pros and cons of induced labor} is an overwhelmingly happy thought for me.

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hey tif said...

I opted for natural birth with my son 6 months ago. The pain you do feel is not anything you can't muscle through, also there is way more pressure than pain. My son was 8lbs 15 oz and 21 1/2 in long, so he was no little thing. I was so happy to be able to be in the moment right after he was born and not be numb. I am not a snob about this but I was glad about my decision and feel like everyone has to do what's right for them.

Rose said...

Hi Sydney!!

I think you should do what you feel is best for you and your baby, regardless what other people say. Because it is you who is going to give birth, and as you said, everyone is different!

Anyhow, I wish you the best birth possible for your son and I know everything is going to go fine!!

xo Rose

rosewaldherr.blogspot.com

Michelle's Style File said...

Gosh you are brave! Love your gumboots too : )

x
Michelle
www.michellesstylefile.blogspot.com

Laura said...

I have absolutely no experience in this department whatsoever, but it is neat to read about this exciting time in your life! I can't wait to see photos of your sweet babe :)

Ruth H. said...

I always considered myself a wimp before I had my babies. Epidurals sounded fine to me....until we watched a movie about five different births in our birthing class, and I almost passed out when they gave the epidurals. I did NOT want a huge needle in my back!!! I decided I would do anything to avoid an epidural, so I practiced those breathing exercises until I was blue in the face. Guess what? They totally work! With baby number one, I had a midwife coaching me through things the whole time I was in labor at the hospital, and it was an amazing experience. I have great memories and none of them involve pain. The crazy thing was that, after pushing for almost three hours, baby #1 just wouldn't come out. It turned out to be best for both of us to have a c-section. At that point, I decided an epidural might not be so terrible.;) Baby came safely, and we learned that--unfortunately--I had a misshapen pelvis that wasn't going to let any baby through in the future. I went on to have three more c-sections. Despite being scheduled, I always went into labor on my own beforehand. I used my breathing exercises every time and had nothing more than slight discomfort. I hated the epidurals/spinal blocks every single time, but the end result was so worth it. And all those breathing techniques and visions of a happy place work great for dental work, PAP smears, and sprained elbows. So, my point? What you are doing to prepare is going to pay off in the end, no matter how your birth story plays out. Prepare for the birth you want, but also be prepared to enjoy and appreciate the birth you get. Good luck to all of you!

Lou said...

I have always thought I would go down the pain relief route, but I think when/if it does ever happen and I do have a child, I would want to look at all options.

All of my friends who have child have been delivered via the sun roof (C section) so no one has really gone into depth about the pain.

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FAB said...

With my first I wanted go the natural route...and at first it was easy and amazing, until my labor intensified and I changed my mind! For myself, I've been a ok with anesthesia ever since! It is a deeply personal choice and a miraculous experience however anyone chooses to go about it. Any pain or discomfort melts away the moment that baby appears, and I've always been in awe of the things my body can do...I never understood it until I had my children! I hope your delivery is peaceful and you're able to soak in every amazing moment! It will be the most amazing day of your life! Ok, now I'm starting to cry thinking about having my kids!
Cheryl

Mommyblogger said...

I have two children and both of their births were very different. My daughter was quick and easy but my son was much more complicated. I was 19 when my daughter was born & 32 with my son (age could be a factor LOL). Either way, I had both natural & if I have another I will most definitely do a natural birth again. I won't lie and say it isn't painful but in my experience it has always been well worth it. Good luck deciding what works for you. I will be following along for updates :)

Carly said...

You could look into taking a Bradley Method class. I've heard great things about that class preparing you for having a natural birth. Good luck!

jenny said...

I HIGHLY recommend you watch The Business of Being Born (it streams instantly on Netflix!!!). It is a documentary on natural vs hospital births and is extremely fascinating. I really think it would help your decision!

Jenny

Bridget said...

go sydney. natural childbirth is sooooo doable. i just did it a few weeks ago! i wouldn't even call it insanely painful, but better to think of it as hard work. and work that is SO possible if you just give in to it. a woman's body is a machine and is sooo capable of doing what it's supposed to do... when we try to intervene is when things can get messy!

also, check out business of being born on netflix if you haven't already. and i have a few other great books from my sister (a birthing instructor) if you need any more recommendations!

Jennifer said...

I'll be the third to recommend The Business of Being Born..you can check out a trailer on my blog http://whtsmnisyrs.blogspot.com/2011/02/someday-when-i-have-baby.html

What is the name of the book you read? I am not pregnant, but have always assumed I'll have a natural birthing process and I love to read whatever I can find!

juliewearswellingtons said...

You look really yummy wearing your Leggings and Rubber Wellingtonsand I hope allgoes well with you.
Kisses
Julie

Bella said...

I have lived in lots of other countries and seen women give birth and I don't necessarily feel that those women gave birth with any less pain than here in the U.S. They just have a better attitude about it and just consider it part of the process. I think a natural birth is really very possible, if you go into it accepting you are going to deal with some pain. I was scared of childbirth and was really counting on having an epidural and was pleasantly surprised when I managed without any drugs at all. I had all three of my children naturally without even a tylenol after. I think you have great positive thoughts about having this baby and if you set your mind on having your son naturally you will be able to do it!

Anna said...

I myself havent had a baby yet but I do think (or I've always said anyway) what you were thinking pre reading the book! Give me whatever it is that needs me to not feel pain. My beautiful sister just had her first baby 6 weeks ago (gorgeous little girl!!) and she did it naturally. She really wanted a water birth but unfortunately that couldnt occur. She was in labour for 33 (yep) 33 hours, and said although painful, it was do-able.

Anna xo

http://www.lifesshinyprettythings.blogspot.com/

Meagan said...

I agree with you, however, you have to be super open minded that if you've been laboring for a long time, don't feel guilty to get pain meds. My water broke in the am and it took 15 HOURS to finally get my daughter out. I had planned on trying to labor naturally for as long as I could, but I was having double peak contractions for an hour for me to decide that an epidural was the way to go. Even WITH the epidural, I felt most of the labor at the end pushing my daughter out and I can't imagine having the energy to do it if I didn't have the epidural. I had a friend labor naturally for 30 HOURS! I forget the max labor time, but she ended up having a c-section. All of that work for nothing!!! The medicine is there for you to be comfortable. And they definitely do not give you a prize or gold star for going naturally. I think it is great to have a new idea about going naturally, but remember, that if you do choose to have any pain meds, do not feel guilt about it. Women who are all pro natural kind of scare me. But if you want your body to go through hell and back and feel ALL of it? Go for it!

Susie said...

Awesome to hear girl! I had an induced and heavily-medicated birth with all the "trimmings" for my first and it was not a good experience. But my next two were natural births - I loved them. Yes, childbirth is painful, but its so rewarding. I knew that by foregoing all the "drugs", I was giving my babies the best chance. Not for my own comfort, but for theirs. I hope you have a fantastic experience!

Morgan said...

oooh what book?!

kirtley@ the ink hotel said...

That's awesome! I was going to do natural till I was induced and I was in labor for 36 hrs I couldn't handle it to I got an epidural. Do whatever you two feel is right for your family. And make sure the doctors and nurses know what you want. I'm so happy for you guys.

Anna of IHOD said...

I feel like I am reading my own thoughts a few years ago before I had my son Gabriel.
I think every mother goes through these times of late night deep thoughts about bringing your child into the world.
I had my first with an epidural and the second without. Both were awesome experiences (not pain free mind you) but I will say that the more pain I had with the birth of my daughter, the more victorious it is when they enter the world. Its like a right of passage to women of all history:)
What people don't tell you is that you get a ton of adrenaline to move mountains when you ask God for help. You will do awesome.
Can't wait to hear the story!
<3
Anna

The Duty's said...

my sister in law did it natural and had a great experience. I however had to be induced because my daughter was so late.. i was in labor for over 48 hours and could not dilate larger than 5cm. my body was just not working. i ended up having to have a c section and lost a lot of blood and had to stay at the hospital for a week. i pray your birth experience goes smooth. because mine was really hard. but yeah, go natural, but definitely don't feel bad if you end up having the ep.

Kara said...

i am so excited to read this post and how excited you are about learning more about a natural birth! i am a huge advocate and read way too much on this topic... another great read is ''Pushed'' by Jennifer Block and the doc ''The Buisness of Being Born'' was a total life changer for me!

Whatever you choose, that baby is going to be so loved -- and that's what matters most! Good for you (and hubs! wow!) for learning all you can about not only what to expect AFTER your baby arrives, but also what to expect/options for DURING labor :)

xx, Kara

Jessika {Stand Still Look Pretty} said...

Hey Syd! (like how we're old friends?)
I just want to say that everyday I read your blog, I realize that I want a guy like that hubby of yours!
I'm 24 and surrounded by engagements, wedding with a few babies thrown in the bunch. The ole biological clock has gotten a bit louder, and I find myself asking God "when" a lot. And "why." And "why not me?"
Then I come read your blog... which most of the time isn't centered around your husband, but just lightly peppered with the sweet, most uniquely-amazing things he does. I truly feel like its God reminding me that I just need to be patient (a talent I've never really had), and He will bring someone to me when He is ready.
So thanks to your husband for being wonderful, and thanks to you for including us in on your marriage! But most of all thanks for giving girls like me a reason to not settle for less that what God wants for us!

Michelle said...

Oh Yayyy, I am so supper excited for you and your sweet Hubby to be able to experience together natural birth to your baby boy!!!!! I have four daughters and do trust that I am no bigger than you Syd, and I too had all natural births inspired by my own Mother, and let me tell you the honest truth, It was something I would do over and over again! It was so special and they were worth every single inch of pain.... Natural Birth means so much to me, and you will not regret it! The pain only gets so bad, before BAM there is Baby!!!!! You can do it, Go GIRL!!!! I am so proud of you!!!! Oh and you best believe hubs will think you are indeed his hero! Mine did!!!!!! All Natural Baby!!!!!


Michelle Torres
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Nicole said...

way to go girl! i am the oldest of seven kids, the last four of which were born at home by my hero-mama. i had the privilege of attending each of those home births and i am really thankful to have had close look at natural child birth starting when i was only 6 years old. allllll the way to 14 when my youngest (and only red headed sister, Aubrey) was born.

such exciting times. you are almost there!!

Rachael said...

haha .... Genesis 3:16 "To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children."

According to the Bible, God increased woman's pain in childbirth because humans ate from the forbidden tree.

I am 100% in support of natural birth (no kids yet) but please, PLEASE don't delude yourself into thinking that it's going to be pain free and "comfortable". Pushing a human out of your hoo ha is not "comfortable". It's fascinating and wonderful and incredible, but I'm worried if you don't accept the fact that there will be pain involved you're going to be traumatized... Check out the comments on: http://rixarixa.blogspot.com/2009/05/what-does-giving-birth-feel-like.html for women who've done it and shared.

Best of luck with your little one, I love your blog :)

wildchild said...

i don't know if i'll be able to do it when the time comes around, but good for you girl :)

simplyvonne said...

I was so sure that I will be getting epidural since I can not tolerate pain very well. It just happen that it was too late for me to get epidural and had to do it all natural..it was the BEST feeling ever! Will I be doing it again..not sure, but I am glad that I did it naturally on my first baby 5 months ago :) good luck!

modernmom said...

I have had 4 children and medicine free is the way to go. I am so pleased that your sister in law gave you such great reading, and that you were wise enough to read it. The thing most people forget is that although you have done the research to determine what kind of outcome you would like, it is nearly impossible to do without a great support system. Make sure you have medical professionals who encourage you on this route, and don't say things like, "You just never know..." or "Everyone has a birth plan, but things go wrong."
In America, we tend to treat birthing as an illness, instead of a God-given gift.
The absolute best to you as you prepare for your little one.

MJ said...

having a natural birth was for my son was the BEST decision i ever made. like you i figured i would be the first to ask for pain medication ... after doing some reading natural birth was the only way for me. our bodies were made to birth children and it knows what to do. having that mindset really helped through the contractions. and really they weren't anything that i couldn't handle ;) good luck and you look fantastic!!

Natalie said...

You sound like a perfect student of The Bradley Method! I took the classes for my first son, had a great natural, med-free birth and loved it so much that I became an instructor myself. They are the most comprehensive classes out there- you will feel so prepared after taking them. There are lots of teachers in DC- check it out at www.bradleybirth.com and be encouraged, you are making a wonderful choice for that little guy!

kelseywilliams said...

i think that's awesome! i hope you have a beautiful, natural labor (it sounds like that's what you want!) and will be able to share your birth story with us so we can learn more. i, too, want a natural labor.

Marjorie said...

I had natural deliveries with both my sons and glad I did. The recovery is definitely easier. It is a very painful experience, but doable if you are determined. One thing that got me through was knowing that when I was in the worst pain it was almost over. Did you know that most women request epidurals only 2-3 hours before the baby is born? Knowing that statistic really helped. Good luck!

JessicaLynn said...

I toughed it though both of my births and at the very last minute when I really couldn't stand the pain any longer it became time to push and then the pain disappears though the pushing. I'm sure that you can do it. Breathing techniques are amazing I tend to use them in everyday life now LOL

EC said...

I've been reading since you started this blog and it has been so exciting for me to feel like I'm going through this whole process with you. When you finally posted about being pregnant, I literally "WOOP!"-ed around the kitchen, doing a little happy dance for you, Tyson, and the little guy (who at that time I was secretly hoping was a girl, sooooorrry). I love feeling included on this journey, because you have really become a role model for me and friend in some ways. If I have a bad day, I know I can log on and read some old posts and still crack up right along with you. Awkward and Awesome Thursdays get me every time!

christine said...

That's awesome that you are reading into natural birth options. If you can do it, more power to ya! I tried with my first one, I had read several books on natural birth (bradley method etc.), me and my husband practiced for weeks etc. I ended up being induced and was in labor for 24 hours, had the worst back labor in the world because she was face up so all that went out the window and I got the epidural. With my second baby I got the epidural but it didn't work so I ended up doing a natural birth against my will ;) It was rough, but I survived and I'm proud of getting through it!! Best of luck during this exciting time!!!

MellyB said...

Definitely want to be more prepared for my next birth. I went the all natural route but I hadn't read a single book or taken a class (I was getting to it...) and then the stinker came six weeks early. My sister is doing the Bradley Method this time around and I've been reading right along side her to be an additional coach.

I'm also pretty convinced that hypnobabies is something to look into. My babies birthday was my favorite day ever. So exciting!

Rae Veda said...

Way to go! I admire you for looking into all options instead of just going with your original plan. I hope your birth experience is everything you hope for. You're very blessed to have Tyson by your side.

What was the book you were reading?

xo, rv

http://aneclecticheap.blogspot.com/

Lauren {love,lulu} said...

I wanted to birth my baby naturally too! I'm 100% percent positive that you can!!! I looked into Hypnobabies and learned as much as I could on the internet..it all just seemed silly that you had to invest SO much for their books and recordings and stuff. I didn't end up doing it naturally which turned out for the best because the doctor had to use forceps and the vacuum to get the baby out so I was SOOO SOOO glad that I was numb!
My advice is that if you're going to do it at the hospital...get the epidural. Because the doctors have so much control of what you can and can't do, it would likely end up a nightmare if you did it natural there. If you want to go natural, do it at home or at a birthing center. Because they're all about natural at a birthing center and will help you out! whereas they're NOT at hospitals. They just want to get the baby out ASAP.

Sarah Zook said...

Let me preface this by saying, I totally 100% support your decision - below isn't to say you should change that. But I did just want to comment on the "loving God, painful labor" comment. Because let us not forget that is our curse - pain in child birth. Still doable? Yes. But I think the point is that God would have made it super comfy. It was our disobedience that made it this way.

Katya said...

I am one hundred percent in agreement with your decision. Embrace it, and don't let the pain scare you! :)

xoxo
thistimeisacharm.blogspot.com

Katy said...

So exciting! I've never had kids, but the more I hear about natural births, the more I want to do it. I understand!

Meagan Shack said...

I loved this. I'm engaged and my fiance and I have been talking about kids more and more. I want to have a natural child birth and he thinks I'm crazy. He tells me things like, "just because you CAN do something doesn't mean you have to." I just love the idea of seeing what my body is really capable of and what I am willing to go through for my (future)children. Between this blog and all the comments (wow) I feel so encouraged.

Heidi Rose said...

This story sounds similar to mine! We're going to do a natural birth in just a couple weeks and we're very excited about it! We've also been doing hypnobabies which helps you prep for a natural, easy childbirth - it's amazing, look into it!

Rachel said...

Love your blog, but I guess I'll be the first one to say that I LOVED my epideral. The shot didn't hurt at all and it made the whole process a whole lot more enjoyable since I was in so much pain beforehand. I agree though, it is a personal decision, but don't feel bad if you do change your mind later. I have quite a few friends who did because it was too much. You'll do great with whatever happens!

Deveny said...

Kudos to you for wanting natural child birth! One thing I learned when having my son & talking with others is take a birth plan & throw it out the window. While you may have plans on how you want to bring a child into the world, don't put your eggs all in one basket because then if something comes up, you won't be disappointed.
There are so many birth stories out there & all so different I'd hate for you to feel bad if you were induced/used epidural/had a c-section, etc.. I didn't plan on having my son through inducement, not having breaks from contractions so had morphine, an epidural, then pushed for 3 hours. Yes, 3. And then had he come via forceps. However, because I didn't put any expectations on myself or the birthing process I felt fine through the whole thing. In the end, it doesn't matter how they come, just that they're healthy & happy. :)

Jenn-Neal said...

Check out:
http://banned-from-baby-showers.blogspot.com
and http://birthwithoutfearblog.com/

they may provide the information and support you are looking for.

Best Wishes,
Jenn

Natalie Suarez said...

love u! and i need ur boots hehe! :)

xx

natalieoffduty.blogspot.com

Ana Magdalena said...

go you, I was watching a documentary on discovery channel about this & it changed my thoughts about what birthing should be like. Can you tell us the book's name? I have a friend who's pregnant and I would love to give her this book.

Whitney & Devin said...

Thanks for your insight! While I am not pregnant and haven't ever been my husband and I have talked about "going natural" or not... because... well... someday we will have kids...

Sara said...

That is awesome that you want to do natural child birth. I love that you said it's a personal choice for everyone. I wanted to have a natural birt as well but that was not in the cards and I ended up having a c-section. I had heard horro stories about them (from my own mother...thanks mom)It wasn't that bad and the guilt I made myself feel was much worse. I got over that as soon as I held my daughter. I realize now that she won't need therapy 20 years from now because I had a c-section. Best wishes on your little boys birth whatever way he enters the world.

Heather said...

I had 6 of my 7 kiddos naturally and Im not a big girl for the average peanuts that came out. After my first born son was delivered I remember thinking that I couldnt be done yet cause I hadnt died and it really wasnt bad at all. I decided that labor is like riding a rollercoaster- first you stand in a long line and you wait and wait in excitement- (pregnancy) then its finally your turn and you are all giggles and smiles. Then you hear that chain click into place that pulls you to the top and for a split second you think "Wait a minute- maybe I dont want to do this" as you start lurching towards the top.(labor starts).Then you catch the first glimpse of that inital drop and you silent scream in your head- "no no no I wanna get off...." but its too late- there is nothing you can do about it now. SO you twist and turn and drop and spin enjoying the speed and the wind and the excuse to scream and laugh at the out-of-your-control experience that is happening.(the rest of labor). Before you know it you are jerking to a stop, scrambling off, declaring THAT WAS AWESOME!! and before you know it- you are more than willing to get right back in line to do it again:)- For me the hardest part was mental- allowing this thing that was happening to my body without any consent or control from me to just do its thing- like ocean waves just relaxing as the waves rolled over me and not fighting it. As SOON as I focused on that, and didn't fight it, 90% of the discomfort went away and things just clicked and you get in this zone and its all good. My 6th baby was breech, and I have fast fast labors, so she was an emergency c-section. That was ALOT after 5 kids with nay a tylenol. I also ate well, and was working out up to delivery with all my pregnancies, despite last month preterm labor when it was just yoga. You will do FAB!! In the end its not HOW you get to where you are going that brings you peace, its in the way that you get there. If you are happy with it, if you are proud of it. And that my dear is completely in your control! Happy birthing!!p.s.- I think having a boy first is the bomb-diggety. So double congrats there pretty

Erica Madden said...

Could you share what books you have been reading about natural birth? I listened to a great NPR story on natural birth with the author of "Birth Matters," Ina May Gaskin. But I haven't bought the book yet...wondering what ones you would recommend!

Kayla said...

I really hope you get the natural birth you want! Just make sure you learn some kind of pain management technique beforehand because I went in like, "Bah, it's NATURAL, I can do it!" and then I was so completely unprepared for how badly it hurt that I was screaming for an epidural before I was a 3. It was not my best moment.

You can do it!

Rachel said...

I am sure that was a tough decision and change of mindset for you.

I have not gone through the experience myself but my mom had 5 kids all natural. My sisters in law have all had 3 kids each (so far) and each had at least one with meds and at least one natural and all three preferred the natural. I say this to encourage you as you go through this, you can know so many have gone before you.

If you haven't seen it there is a documentary called the business of being born (and another called pregnant in america)... they might also serve as encouragement to you.

A tough choice but a great one from all I know who have done it.

ShelleyW said...

I went for the Bradley Method (natural childbirth). It really prepares you for all aspects of childbirth and everything that can happen. Creating a birth plan was the smartest thing my husband and I did in preparation for the birth of our son. After 12 weeks of classes I was ready! My son was breech and I had a c-section, but I was prepared because of the Bradley Method classes. I highly recommend! It is a participatory class for both mother and father.

The Durr's said...

All I have to say is good luck! One of my best friends wanted to do hypno birth and had a very bad experience with her midwives. Basically they broke her water very early (without telling her, they just told her they tried to break it) which then led to an infection, a trip to the doctor, and an emergency c-section. So all that prep for hypno birth went to waste. Just do what is safest for you and baby!!

Sydney said...

Ladies!! Gosh! Thank you so much for all your support and feedback! This is awesome!

For those of you wanting to know what book I was reading, it's called Hypnobirthing - The Mongan Method. Highly recommend it for anyone seeking additional insight and support for natural birthing!

{jaclyn} said...

ah yes! i read part of 'your best birth' awhile back and that helped take some of my fears away. because hey - our body was designed to do this and i don't need to be afraid. definitely intriguing. could you share the title of the book you read?

Brittany Rossman said...

I'm new to your blog and absolutely love it!! You are the most stylish little pregger lady ever!! I'm so curious about what the title of the book was?? It's so nice to read encouraging words saying you can do it natural...whenever I tell people that is our plan they are very quick to tell me I'm crazy! Good for you!!!

n.davis said...

I say do what you want. I studied out natural births and zen breathing and all that, and when it was here I had the biggest 'inspired' moment to get an epidural. The pain you feel isn't pain, it's like a burning, tingling feeling. Nothing like cramps, it doesn't hurt just feels way weird. I knew I could do natural, but when my 9 pound baby came out I was so glad I had that epidural. Ha. I laughed and made jokes through my whole delivery, it was seriously the best and easiest experience of my whole life..and pregnancy. Both are amazing ways to have baby come to this earth, do what is best for you. And enjoy every second of it, it is the best day of your whole life after all. :)

anna olivia said...

Wow, good for you! Natural childbirth is the way to go. My mom, sister (20) and myself (18) have discussed it a lot, and we both plan on doing it this way once we're married.

So, good for you. =) I'm excited to see pics of the little guy when he arrives!!

Amanda M. said...

All three of my kids were born naturally with no pain meds. {Not by choice ~ they all just came so fast, I ran out of time!} But, in the end, I wouldn't have had it any other way. My recovery was so quick. And thankfully, the mind helps you forget the worst part, especially when you have that little guy in your arms!

Mejia Mamma said...

PROPS to you girl if you can make it without an epi...TONS of women do, so it's definitely 'do-able'. BUT...pleaseeeee do not be hard on yourself or feel in the least bit guilty IF you decide in the end to get one...no one wins any kind of mom of the year award, so if the pain is just too much to handle... just go with it. You may be surprised to see how much more you'll be able to RELAX (maybe squeeze a nap in...ahh joy - it'll be your last nap ever, lol) and enjoy the birth - not sayin without an epi that you won't enjoy it though. Plus, any pain you do feel (with or w/o) will immediately disappear once you see, hold & hear you're little miracle - I swear. But for me personally, I felt totally in control and aware (with an epi), I could still 'feel' what was happening & it was simply beautiful. Since I was able to rest for a few hours before the pushing started, I felt I had more energy - than had I forgone the epi - because those contrax, omg, they will wear. you. OUT! However, it will seriously be the most magical day of your lives. ahhhh I loved being pregnant!! Good luck girl - moral of the story, just don't feel bad if you decide on an epi, that's all! xoxo from San Diego!

~Mejia Mamma~
www.mejiamamma.blogspot.com

Lindsay R said...

I figured you get some lengthy comments on this post.
It is truly incredible what your body can do. It's a lot of mental prep before hand and realizing you shouldn't waste your energy on freaking out. I loved doing yoga during my pregnancy- it helped me to practice meditation and relaxation.
Good luck my friend, and don't get down on yourself if it doesn't work out exactly the way you want it. Everyone is different.

Julie and Stephen Barnes said...

Don't be fooled in to thinking Natural is comfortable. You are supposed to be in a lot of pain. (at least that is my opinion) I did natural with my second boy (9 months ago). It was the best thing I ever did. I had an epidural with my first and it still wasn't pain free. I agree, natural is the way to go; however, it is VERY painful. Just know that the pain ends when the baby arrives. :)

Kirsten said...

Lots of comments on this but I will add in my two cents. First, medicine or not childbirth is hard and I support every woman in doing what is best for her and baby. I did natural child birth 16 months ago and it was the best experience I could have asked for. It is hard work but beautiful. The best advice I could give you if you are wanting to go the natural child birth route is to quite thinking of it as pain. Pain makes us afraid and in turn causes our bodies to tense. Is labor, even natural child birth (I did hypnobirthing) uncomfortable? Extremely! I have never worked harder at anything than I did when I was in labor (including multiple marathons). But painful? Sure I guess you could call it that. But I knew my body was doing exactly what it was supposed to so I could relax. Nothing was wrong. It becomes instinctual. My little one ended up faced the wrong way, upside down, so I pushed for 4 hours. HARD! But I did it all naturally and did great. And I will do it again with the next one.

Good Luck!

Brittany H said...

I want to know the name of that book!

katie [the bright life] said...

What a beautiful woman you are, Sydney! I really enjoyed this post, even though I don't have kiddies (yet). It's great to hear about the decisions you guys are making and how you're making them. Bravo! Xo, Katie

PS...your belly is ADORBS. a sure sign that your little guy is a cutie too. :)

Adria Gillmore said...

thanks for thinking...i always enjoy your thoughts.

Kennedy Wife said...

I had my little boy naturally. It was a wonderful experience, and when you go through that, you feel as if there's nothing that you shouldn't be able to do. A couple things that helped me were these: God said that in pain we will bring fourth children, so that part is a given. He also said He will never give us more than we are able to bare. The other thing, The only time that you are in pain is during the contractions. In between contractions you get a little pain free resting time. Good luck to you both! I wish you the best. Doulas are awesome, if you plan on having one!

Mr. Taylor and his Lady said...

wow, what is this book?!? and your husband is just the sweetest! look at that belly grow! too adorable!
Xo

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Jessica said...

like many of these other women who have commented before me, i also opted to have a medication free labor & birth with my two babies. i just kept telling myself it was pain...but nothing that i couldn't handle and that women do this every second of every day and survive. you can do it (and if you can't, that's okay too!)

Tiffany Harper said...

I am so for natural birth! With my first born I was induced and I highly recommend NOT getting induced if you can at all avoid it. I realize that there are cases when it is necessary, but usually your body and baby will tell you when it is time =). With my second, I went as far as I could naturally but things just didn't work out like I had planned. But that is okay! I wouldn't have it any other way. My body did what it could. I am excited for you!

Annie Green said...

News flash--it's going to hurt. Don't go into it thinking you can "think" your way out of the pain or that the pain will somehow feel good. It doesn't. It's excruciating. I got an epidural when I was at a 9 and guess what, I still had a great birth experience and still love my baby more than anything even though I didn't feel the pushing.

e.day said...

i am not pregnant, nor will be anytime in the foreseeable future, but this is a remarkably insightful and beautiful post. thank you for sharing the reasons behind such a personal decision! i hope it helps other women decide what is right for them.

Sherrel said...

I have not had a baby yet but plan to do a natural birth. What helped me get to thinking about it were two documentaries; you should watch “Pregnant in America” and “The Business of Being Born.” Seriously, must watches before giving birth!

Who is G? said...

You and Tyson are such a great couple and can totally do this! I'd suggest looking for a Bradley Method educator in your area and taking the course, talk to some doulas. It's good to know how you handle pain and how Tys can help you work through that in labor and practice methods now. I gave birth to both my babies in a non-medicated way. You experience pain, no getting by that, but it's totally manageable and do-able. The Dr. also told me that most of the time it's the least painful way because having a medicated birth you have painful side effects afterwards. However this lil boy comes into the world will be wonderful, but it's definately empowering knowing that you don't have to be affraid of it happening.

lori said...

you continue to impress me, sydney! i am not yet a momma myself, but planning on it in the next few years so i am so excited to read about your experiences.

i have always assumed i would use the meds (i am a wuss), but i am open to options so i look forward to reading and learning more through your decisions!

Kari said...

The best advice I was given was to
"prepare to be unprepared."

Um, I have a Word document saved to my desktop called, "Life Plan," so this wasn't the easiest advice to embrace. Seriously, I like to be prepared. I'm pretty much like a boy scout.

Anyway, I decided to take the advice because I didn't want my heart set on natural birth and then feel defeated if I decided to get an epidural...AND I didn't want my heart set on an epidural just find out that things were going to fast and I'd have to do it all natural.

And one last thing...I almost died while giving birth. So my biggest advice would be to have FAITH and trust in the power of the Priesthood. I know that my life was saved because my husband gave me a blessing and I believed in what was said. You can read about the whole thing here:

http://kariandnathan.blogspot.com/search/label/Adam%27s%20Birth%20Story

Love,
the girl who lived

....yep, totally just compared myself to Harry Potter...go with it ;)

KatherineBlayre said...

After reading Pushed, by Jennifer Block, my conception of all things pregnancy has changed considerably.
Ricki Lake made a documentary called 'The Business of Being Born', and she actually chooses natural childbirth and films it! Pretty amazing stuff.
You will do whatever is best for you and your little boy- and it will be the right decision :)

Allison said...

What is this book called?? I also over-use bandaids and it sound wonderfully reassuring!

braybrigade said...

Attitude plays a big part in childbirth! My daughter was a week late, so I was induced. The day before the appointment I made sure everything was done so I could spend the evening relaxing and getting into the right mindset. Of course, I know that most women don't get that chance when they just go into labor on their own. As long as you remember that the contractions are meant to be productive you'll feel a lot better about the whole thing. I heard horror stories about going natural while being induced (Pitocin in my case) but honestly, my mind did not interpret any of what I felt as 'pain'. Pressure, YES. Extreme discomfort & hard work, HECK YES. But your body really does know what it's doing. Trust it, don't fight it, enjoy the ride. I really like Heather's rollercoaster analogy. The rush when you are holding your baby is unreal, I loved being 'in the moment', just me & my girl, unaffected by meds. Even though I had just spent 15 hours in heavy labor, I was up half the night on the adrenaline! I feel like a psycho for admitting this, but I kind of wanted to do it again, pronto.

Of course it's everyone's decision to make for themselves- you know best how you're likely to perceive/react to the experience so do what you need to to enjoy it, no shame in taking advantage of the awesome technology & medicines we have access to, if that's what works for you. I know that personally, natural birth is going to be my first choice from here on out.

The books that helped me the most were Bradley's Husband-Coached Childbirth, and Hypnobirthing: The Mongan Method. The latter sounds supremely corny, shady, and weird- but the visualization exercises were really useful. I ended up humming a lot during the actual labor as well, it helped me to keep my breathing even. This video is what introduced me to Hypnobirthing, it's maybe a bit of an extreme example, but the principles are sound and worked great for me! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v536xaNBMh4

AJD ∞ said...

Aw! Good for you. My husband and I are going to start a family once he returns from his deployment. I've always thought I would do a drug-induced birth, but I recently watched "The Business of Being Born" and it totally changed me. We were made for this! Crazy! I hope you continue to find peace in your decision, it's so exciting!

Ashley said...

I completely agree! I've been reading Katie's birth story's on Wellness Mama and I had a lot of the same thoughts. I highly recommend pursuing her site. :)

God gave us amazing bodies, capable of so much, so you go girl!

LisaFitts said...

Cute outfit as always! Congrats on your decision =)

Alycia (Crowley Party) said...

My mother had all 6 of her children Natural and she a big advocate for trying it Natural. God made our bodies to do amazing things, and women have been doing it natural for thousands of years. The selling point my mother gave me when we were talking about it (even though I am not pregnant, you know, just planning for the future!) was that when you aren't hopped up on drugs you can fully experience every push and every part of the birthing process. You don't need the doctor to tell you what to do because your body is just doing it! You are fully aware of it, and she said it is a spiritual experience. I hope to do them natural someday, so I can have an experience like that!

geri e. said...

Agreed. and what's the name of that book? I wanna read it someday in the future..... :)

Happy Wife said...

You go girl!

Della said...

Not having any experience in birth (except in helping my goats, but I really don't think that counts!) but knowing that my mother had all seven of us at home naturally and she is perfectly normal and never required therapy comforts me greatly.

Rachel Jenkins said...

Sounds like you read Hypno-birthing by Nancy Mongan! That's the method I chose to go with for both my babies. It really works! Their births were a relaxing, calm, wonderful experience - free from any complications. I wouldn't do it any other way. You can absolutely do it!

Andrea Larson said...

With my first I was planning on going the natural route with my labor, I actually have a high pain tolerance and I thought it would be cake. Unfortunately the pain got unbearable and I was told it's just the beginning of what I would experience when I started pushing so I "chickened" out and go the epidural. I wish you much luck through you labor and delivery when the time comes! I'm sure you'll do great and either way the prize at the end is AMAZING! ;)

Haley K said...

sydney you are awesome to be researching different options :) And you are absolutely right...God created our bodies to bring children into the world...even before epidurals came into the picture ;) One thing I would say is to be ready with a plan, but be open to something different happening...for example, my sister-in-law was all about going natural, but sadly she went way over her due date and had to be induced and therefore got an epidural. And with my birth, on the other hand, I was all about getting an epidural (i planned on reading and playing board games with my husband while we watched the contractions happen on the hospital monitors), but my little guy came too quickly and I got to the hospital too late to get an epidural, so he came el natural. And i wouldn't have had it any other way :) The Lord has a plan for you and your sweet boy. And let me tell you, being able to be in control of your body and feel your baby enter the world is the most empowering, humbling, beautiful thing. ever. :) And I'll have to check out the book you shared! thank you :)

Haley K said...

sydney you are awesome to be researching different options :) And you are absolutely right...God created our bodies to bring children into the world...even before epidurals came into the picture ;) One thing I would say is to be ready with a plan, but be open to something different happening...for example, my sister-in-law was all about going natural, but sadly she went way over her due date and had to be induced and therefore got an epidural. And with my birth, on the other hand, I was all about getting an epidural (i planned on reading and playing board games with my husband while we watched the contractions happen on the hospital monitors), but my little guy came too quickly and I got to the hospital too late to get an epidural, so he came el natural. And i wouldn't have had it any other way :) The Lord has a plan for you and your sweet boy. And let me tell you, being able to be in control of your body and feel your baby enter the world is the most empowering, humbling, beautiful thing. ever. :) And I'll have to check out the book you shared! thank you :)

Shanna @ Yellow Pocket Boutique said...

I was set on having a natural birth with my son. Honestly, I forgot about any pain or discomfort immediately after I saw him. I'm planning on a natural birth this time too. I think if you prepare yourself and think of all the positive things from your decision, it makes it a lot easier.

Tarah said...

awesome! i'm prego with number 2 and want to go natural too! i've heard that recovery is a breeze when you do it naturally...hope so!

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My SongBook said...

Is this book of yours Hypno-birthing?? I am willing to bet it is. I tried that method, and it didn't work for me, but I didn't practice very much, and I also was afraid of the pain (which hypno-birthing says not to be). So I really hope it works for you! I'm sure it will if you dedicate enough time to practicing and meditating. Even if you feel pain however, I personally believe that non-medicated births are much richer because you know exactly how hard it was to get your little bundle. But that's just me. Every one has their own way, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Griffin and Gretchen said...

sounds like hypnobirthing!!! that's what i'm doing!

Sammy said...

Hooray I am so happy you have found natural childbirth! The book your sister got you sounds wonderful-- what is the title? The female body is a beautiful, awe-inspiring, powerful thing! You were born to do this and everyone should have the sense that they are CAPABLE! So so happy for you and your hubby and baby xx

Mrs.B said...

From the start of my pregnancy I was all about natural medicine free birth. And that's exactly what I did.. After 20 hours of labor my beautiful 8 pound 3 ounce baby girl was born. You CAN do it.

Linda Z said...

Childbirth hurts... there just isn't any way around out. But labor doesn't last forever, and you are suddenly so happy to hold your baby... a whole different focus.

Sounds like the method you are looking into is like the Bradley Method... I really like Bradley. It helped me know what my body was doing and work with it. Lamaze did nothing for me.

sarah jake said...

i'm so excited that you took the time to learn about the different options. i've had 2 boys, 1 with an epidural (complications made it nessesary) and 1 totally med free. both were wonderful experiences & i'm so thankful for my boys & the chance to carry them and deliver them.

p.s. i will tell you that laboring med. free is totally manageable, while actual delivery is very intence & most women hit a "what was i thinking?!?!" moment. but that moment passes quickly & before you know it you will have a beautiful little one that takes your mind off all the hard parts and leaves you blissfully tired and excited about this new phase of life.

God bless!
Sarah J.

ElisabethCS said...

I highly recommend special Beginnings birthing center in Arnold MD. I had both my boys there! http://www.specialbeginnings.com/

Had my daughter at a hospital with a very open-minded Dr in CA... went natural with all my kiddos. Would never think of doing it any other way. Husband Coached Childbirth is a GREAT book!

The Happy Yoga Mom

Mrs. Ham said...

i have a friend who does way better with natural births and is back on her feet in 1 day no problem. i love that you didn't judge which is the right or wrong way. heck go natural, you can always change your mind durring it if you want! you're lovely Sydney! that boy is gonna be a lucky guy~

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Adrienne said...

There is pain in childbirth because man sinned. It's in Genesis. Yes, God is completely loving but this was a punishment for sin. We can't understand fully why it had to be that way because God's ideas are so much bigger and better than we can ever imagine. So yes, God is a completely loving God, but He allows pain in childbirth.

Michelle said...

I originally planned to have a natural birth with my child, however sometimes things just don't work out.

I was doing really great, however, my labor was progressing rapidly (seriously, my water broke at 6 am and I was ready to push at noon). I preregistered for the hospital (something I REALLY recommend looking into), but there was still a stack of paperwork that I needed to sign. So, while I was trying to focus on my breathing, I was having page after page after page of paperwork put in front of my face to sign (and this was in this hospital room...the nurses just kept giving me the paperwork and they wouldn't stop).

Well, the nurses decided that they were going to get me an epidural, which I was a little peeved about for like a second. But, I am really short and I was having really painful back labor. So, when you are in that amount of pain and someone offers some sort of relief, you don't really think twice about it.

After I got the epidural, my parents came in the room and we hung out in a nice quiet controlled atmosphere, until it was time to push. My little girl had been head down the ENTIRE pregnancy and when I came in to the hospital she was still head down. However, at some point she turned around. Right before I started pushing, the checked me and found that her little leg was coming out first. So, I ended up having to get an emergency C-section.

In the end I had an epidural, anesthesia for the operation, and "something to calm me down" because I was sobbing uncontrollably when they told me not to push and they were going to bring me in for a C-section.

Why am I telling you this? I'm telling you this because you should know that things change. The best thing you can do is educate yourself about EVERY possibility out there and plan for the best, but prepare for the worst. I was so happy that I had spent hours researching c-sections, because when the time came, I didn't have swarms of nagging questions.

Also, when my baby was born, she wasn't breathing and she was blue. Luckily I was with a bunch of doctors and nurses who knew what they were doing and she was brought back. Now, she is a beautiful 3 year old. She is very small for her age, but my birthing process had nothing to do with that...her mommy and daddy are short, and she doesn't like candy (her favorite food is broccoli). ANYWAYS! She is very small for her age, but she is advanced for her age. She is able to do a lot of things that other kids her age can't.

So, the fact that I was doped up (I mean REALLY doped up) didn't change much as far as my baby was concerned. I did take a week to recover, but I just kept active and walked a lot and I was back to "normal" within a couple months of the surgery.

P.S. There are some funny stories of me being doped up, but I have written a long enough post :P

Kaycie said...

Wow! What book is this?! I'd love to read it.

Sarah said...

You go momma! I did it natural w/ my first....It was amazing! Can't wait for the second one!!

Morgan -Ing said...

You can totally do it. I've had four unmedicated births. Each one different, some more painful, others more discomfort, but all totally doable.

Can I gently suggest hiring a doula? They are AWESOME with natural childbirth. She'll help you and Husband get the birth you want. YOU'LL do it together, but she'll be there to help you navigate the hospital and all the interventions. Did I mention doulas are awesome?

And I didn't look at the other 104 comments, so if someone already suggested that then, just let me say "ditto."

You can do it.

Rin said...

Wow, I applaud you. I'm such a wuss and so terrified at the thought of pregnancy/childbirth/the aftermath that I have completely turned myself off the idea. I look at women like you in amazement, because I don't think I could do it.

Pacha said...

I'am real happy to read that so many people are having natural births :) Thats the plan for me any day now, so nervous, but will all be worth it in the end :)

Morgan -Ing said...

Okay, I read the comments. So, now I will add,

Don't let anyone scare you with their horror stories. They will say things like, "OH really, well my SIL tried it natural and ended up almost dying because of XYZ..."

Smile and nod, but ignore them. Everyone's experience is different. Of course you should be open and ready for whatever comes, but that does not mean that horrible things are going to happen to you.

Secondly, I have attended births where the mom said it WAS NOT PAINFUL. (I have been to a lot of births, I'm a doula.) And it does not have to be a horrendous experience. Even if it does hurt, that doesn't make it BAD.

I'll say it again: You can do it.

If you have any questions, I'd be happy to help. You can get my email from my profile.

Shamini said...

ooh! could we have the name of that book pretty please Sydney?
Thanks for sharing your thoughts about all this... it helps me think am not the only one thinking of weird things

Trissta said...

Wow, Sydney. I'll admit that when you first announced you were pregnant, I had a mild panic attack. I'm one of those people who hasn't quite embraced motherhood or the fact that one day I'll have a family of my own. I know I will, but every time I see a screaming baby or a little kido having a panic attack, I don't know what to do or how to gain control of the situation. It creates so much more than what it is in my mind that I lose it. So, I say good for you for embracing a new change and something that could ultimately change your life for the better (even if it is just how you birth that baby). It's something you never thought about doing and I'm proud of you for doing it!

Much Love,
Trissta
Living on the Chic

janel said...

I had my last baby naturally and my first with an epidural. Let me emphasize the difference to you: With my first, I was in bed sick for most of the time after giving birth. My labor lasted about 11 hours, and when it was time to leave I was wheeled out of the hospital holding my baby (who was strapped into her car seat) in my lap. Then with my second child, I was up out of bed within hours of giving birth. In this case, I was in labor for 3 hours, and I walked out of the hospital carrying my baby (again, in the car seat). Giving birth naturally is really hard but, if you can do it, it makes a world of difference! The second time around, I was able to manage the pressure better, which helped. Also, the last fifteen minutes are the worst, so if you can get through that, you're all done! Good luck, and enjoy your stay in the hospital (that's my favorite time, getting to know the new baby)!

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nestmeg.com said...

I'm going to reiterate what other commenters have said: You MUST watch The Business of Being Born if you haven't already.

I had the exact same mindset as you did before watching it. No pain, no pain. But you'll feel even better about your decision after you see that documentary.

Also, GOOD FOR YOU!

Tedi said...

I had one of my friends tell me to have a plan and then practice it! Whether it's hypno-birthing or lamaz. Practice.

My mom recently gave me a book called "Husband Coached Childbirth" by Robert Bradley. I haven't read it yet, but my mom had 2 out of 3 kids at home.

Another tip that she gave me (no kids yet, but I ask questions about it all the time) is whatever you do DON"T SCREAM! Screaming creates tense muscles, you want to be relaxed, that's why breathing is essential. Good luck! Practice!

Rebekah said...

I don't have babies yet, but my sister has two. With the first one, she didn't go natural because she was terrified. Before her epidural (because I wanted to get an answer before all the happy mommy hormones took away the memory of the pain) I asked if this was really the worst pain she had ever felt. And she's had pretty much any injury possible. She gave me a withering look and said, "Get out."

That said, she gave birth naturally with the second one, who really was a little too big for that. (We're tiny girls. But her daughter was not.) And she said it was a great experience aside from the baby getting momentarily stuck. She was just really tired because it was a longer labor.

I'm not sure she would do it again, and she told me I definitely should get an epidural. (Like you, I whimpered at even a mosquito bite.) But pregnant women continually surprise me with the strength and determination they develop as they grow their babies and bring them into the world.

Best of luck to you, whatever you decide to do. There's no shame in either -- whatever is best for you and your little boy. And if I look half as cute as you do when I'm pregnant, I will consider not turning frumpy a success. :) I love reading your blog. It's so open and beautiful, and I feel like you're just a friend sharing something deeply personal with me -- the mark of a good writer.

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Ashley said...

I delivered a 9.6lb baby boy and 2 years later an 8.4lb baby boy, both drug free. I can't believe what a wonderful, empowering experience it was. Wishing the same for you and your baby boy.

Katie said...

I am sure you don't need any more advice, but I just wanted to say that when I gave birth to my son(8 lbs. 14 oz., hugest head ever) that it was the most empowering experience that I have ever had. It was such a hard birth(natural) but after I had gone thru it all, I knew that I could do anything. It was quite the super woman feeling and I got the same feeling after my second too. Whatever you do, it's amazing. I hope you get to have a great experience. Good luck

The Petersons said...

This is probably nothing someone hasn't already told you in the many, many, previous comments, but I'll put in my two cents anyway. First of all, pain in childbirth is a result of the fall. So that kind of answers the God question in that book. And I am not sure that "comfortable" is the way I would describe childbirth in any way...when you think about what's actually happening during the process it makes a lot of sense that it would be quite uncomfortable!! Haha. All that being said, I gave birth naturally to my son almost a year ago. I didn't start looking into it until later in my pregnancy, also having always thought I'd go the epidural route. I didn't take any classes or anything (not even the regular hospital ones!) I just talked to people who'd done it naturally and read a LOT. By the time it was close to the due date, I felt ready and even just curious to see how it was going to go! I was blessed in that my labor was fairly short (less than 7 hours!) and I labored mostly at home, since my son was also almost 2 weeks early so we were SO sure it wasn't real labor for most of the time. Anyway, if circumstances were different (a VERY long labor, back labor, etc.) I can't say for certain I would have made it. Who knows. But I am very glad I did it, plan to do it again the next time around, and think natural childbirth is way more doable than most people think! Myself included a couple of years ago. So if you feel led in that direction, definitely go for it! The benefits for you and baby are many, and it's a great feeling of accomplishment, to be quite honest! :)

Gertrude said...

I cannot say that I know that it means, but wow I feel SO SO excited for you :) xo

Colby and Jessica said...

Sydney, I am so happy your sister gave you the Hypnobirthing book. I read it too, and I am actually studying the Hypnobabies method (a branch off of Hypnobirthing that is said to work a little better.)It's a 5 week home course you do yourself. (There are also classes, but there were none in my town.) Not to toot my own horn, but I am documenting my progress with it each week on my blog if you are interested in hearing a little bit about it from someone else. I am 37 weeks and waiting for my little boy as well. Like I said, if you're interested in reading, I have found that it's always nice to hear other people's insights. Isn't is so empowering?? Good luck with everything! You will be great!

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Sarah said...

I am also pregnant and plan to have a natural childbirth. I read the book "Ina May's Guide to Natural Childbirth" by Ina May. The first half of the book is about positive natural birth stories which has really helped me feel like my body is capable of giving birth naturally. You could also check out a Doula, they are an advocate and non-medical support system for you before, during, and after your birth.

annacgrant said...

I have enjoyed reading your blog for quite some time now. I look to it for inspiration and smiles and when I learned that I was pregnant and just a few weeks behind you I looked to it to hear more of your witty stories. We were also planning to have a natural labor.. Last week at our 20 week ultrasound (our very first time seeing this little being that I have grown to love so much) we heard some very devastating news. Our baby had a condition called Trisomy 18-a fatal diagnosis and less that 10% live past 1 year of age. 4 short days later I suffered a miscarriage and this tiny, beautiful baby that I had grown to love so much would never make it home to see the perfect nursery we had put together.
I still find it strangely comforting to read your blog and watch your pregnancy progress so beautifully, it gives me hope that my husband and I will have a happy healthy family in the near future.
Congratulations and thank you for helping to put a smile on my face when it doesn't seem possible.

Kimball and Shay said...

Hi! I am a 26 year old mom of two! I had both of my babies natural at home (crazy right!) I wouldn't do it any other way. Contractions are tolerable. The very hardest and painful part is pushing, but by then your pushing and your almost done. I took a hypnobabies class and it really helps you to relax. Good luck and it is worth it going natural! Oh, and the water pools are really relaxing!

Aynna banahna said...

This is a wonderful discussion to start! Natural childbirth is a very beautiful, wonderful, REALISTIC thing. It doesn't have to be painful. And even if there is some, the love and relief and emotion you feel as soon as you give birth to that beautiful newborn overshadows all of it. I'm pregnant with my second baby and am due in less than a month and have been planning a home birth pretty much since I got home from the hospital with my first baby. If you go to my blog, I have some really good links about having babies naturally. And of course every woman's experience is different. But God wouldn't make it so we can't do it on our own. Our bodies work the way they do because we have a perfect design, made in his image. And giving birth naturally I think is about the closest you can ever feel on this earth to being a Queen and Priestess, just like we are promised to be.

Kaitlyn said...

Also, here's a link to my second son's birth story. http://craitlyn.blogspot.com/2010/10/charlies-hypnobabies-birth-story.html

theanthropologieconnoisseur said...

You might want to take a look at this "reflections" video on Project: Baby (http://www.projectbabyblog.com/post/8958269337/birth-story-part-3-reflections-part-1-part-2). It is around 15 minutes, but I think you'd find it helpful as Kristin talks about her feelings on how the birth of Tinsley went, and what she hopes for future births. She wanted a natural birth with Tinsley, but due to complications didn't get that. She dicusses how she doesn't regret some of her decisions, but she still might hope for a natural birth with a future child. She also emphasizes hope. Good luck!

Kim & Clay said...

I was comforted when my midwife told me that choosing to have a natural birth is not about whether you have a high pain tolerance or not.

I had my baby girl without an epidural and it was an amazing experience. A challenge, for sure, but just like running a marathon would be. Ify ou prepare for it mentally and physically, you will be fine!

Good luck. I'd love to know the name of the book you read! I might have to e-mail you for that some time.

AlishaLoren said...

Hi Sydney, I really felt compelled to write in response to your post - you are well ahead of your years and have one very wise sister in law.

You're absolutely right that everyone does it differently, but after giving birth twice, you're also absolutely right that, without fear, and with a resolute feeling of 'I can do this', the pain is absolutely manageable.

Painful, yes. Uncontrollable, no.

Even during the same contractions when my mind was saying 'I can do this' I was fine, but when it switched to 'I can't do this', the pain was so much worse, nearly unbearable. But the beauty is, you can do this. It is what you were born to do.

Mand@ said...

good luck, i hope it's everything you dream it will be.

mloujensen said...

I had my son naturally at a hospital and I loved my birthing experience.

Saying "Of course the health of my child is paramount, but can we try a few things before....(inducing, epidural, c-section)?" got me exactly what I wanted, at a hospital, in a not so simple labor and birth with an unfamiliar doctor.

Good luck! The pain of birth is nothing compared to rush of love that comes with a babe in arms! You are going to love it!

Tara : Damon said...

Good luck girl!!! I had a natural birth in a hospital (hard, because of the nurses/doctors) my best advice is to read lots of those books- they are uplifting! and plan out what you want with your husband- he will do a LOT of work! (mine pushed HARD on my back the entire 13 hours- he was sore for days and i had bruises) Also, have or find a doctor/midwife that will work with you and really really really knows what you want and is committed to working your birth plan with you. It was hard, I tried hypnobirthing and read bradley method books also, and well, the pain is there, it hurts. But if I could do it, it's doable! And also, it was amazing afterwards- you are invincable, and also the recovery is easy peasy... I was walking around afterwards and wasn't sick from IV's and medicines, and was doing normal things when I left the hospital... I will do it that way every time- hopefully at home from here on out- hospitals aren't my thing.Here is my birth store if you are interested... =)

http://picturemywords.blogspot.com/2011/02/ellis-michael-demars.html

Erinn said...

Child birth is the most amazing experience and I hope that yours goes exactly the way you want-no matter which way you choose.

I had a medicated birth and I loved it. I don't feel like I had less of an experience because I couldn't feel everything. My son was born healthy and my delivery went great. My researched my doctor and the hospital I wold deliver at. I found that some hospital's in the area tended to push c sections, I stayed away from those,

Best of luck! We're expecting baby #2 in December!

Erin said...

Everything about this post makes me laugh. I think you are adorable.

I hope your experience is Great.

And when you think you are going to die and want to ask the Doctor for Drugs, don't be ashamed to abandon your plan.

Because you might want to. And it will be okay if you do. Just saying. We won't point fingers.

Morgan said...

I had a natural birth last november. I had planned on an epidural but there was no time (total labor only 1hr 54min, only 15 of that at hospital). It was not nearly as painful as I expected. I do wish I had taken a class because I was petrified when I found out I was completely dilated. I was at the doctors office and I was unsure if I was even having contractions when they checked me and found I was complete. I believe the experience would have been amazing if I had been prepared, but I was not, and the fear was overwhelming. I had no pitocin and my water did not break until pushing and I believe that made a big difference. Take a class, good luck!

Naomi said...

I studied the Bradley Method, practiced, and had my second child naturally with a midwife at home - and it was still excruciating. Every woman's body is completely different, and birth is definitely much more than muscles contracting (I was actually very disappointed in how misleading the Bradley book I read was in that regard. It gave the impression that, if you can simply relax your muscles, there's nothing else in your body that would hurt). Honestly, the only reason I had my daughter naturally was because I knew I was past the point of getting in the car to get an epidural at the hospital. That's not to discourage you. Some women experience more "pressure" than pain... but I believe that pain is what God's ordained as the norm, to remind us of our past. And I definitely echo what some others have said: no matter what method you use, you're still getting a beautiful blessing out of it!

Emily said...

I agree, it's totally different for every woman, I just had our first baby 6 weeks ago, and I went all natural - I wanted to feel my body do what it was made to do and it was an amazing experience!
It was definitely hard, and different then anything I have ever done, but so worth it. Knowing my baby was drug free, and I felt better so much quicker.
You can do it! Just think positive and pump yourself up. Also, have the hubby by your hospital bed holding your hand, fanning you, pushing on your lower back for counter pressure (lower back pain was the worst part of it for me), whatever you need :) Good Luck!

Emily said...

p.s. i did hypno birthing and totally recommend it. The class and book are amazing, and you teach yourself to relax to music, which is so nice to have as you welcome your baby into the world!

JMP said...

Whatever you do try to avoid being induced. The contractions are so much more painful because they are artificially induced. I had to get the epidural. With my second I was not induced and honestly the contractions were not bad at all. Much better recovery with no drugs. Watch the Business of Being Born. In fact buy it- you'll want to watch it again as your due date comes closer for encouragement.

Casey Turner said...

Don't forget Eve sinned therefore childbirth was to be "labor" and painful. I had 4 babies and welcomed the pain meds but you do what is best for you. Good luck!

Kacie @ A Collection of Passions said...

I had a natural birth with my daughter and I'm so glad I did. It's a scary process but I am so proud of it. It was very bonding for me and my husband too.

Kacie
http://www.acollectionofpassions.com/

debbiecutieface said...

oh I've always been so terrified of giving birth some day! I'm glad you're looking at labor from a new perspective! How exciting :)

[ker-AND-uh] said...

I had two natural births and I'm a fast laborer...meaning there's no break for me in between contractions. both babies came out in two hours. lol that being said...it's intense, but SO SO worth it.

a lot of moms forget that after the pain is over, they'll still be numbed, there's a chance the baby will be a little "out of it", and pain with the epi site. none of that was worth it to me so i opted out.

and i agree with other commenters, avoid induction as much as possible if you want a natural birth. that's the quickest way to an epidural and an unwanted csection. pitocin makes contrax a lot more painful and whatnot. yea..maybe you can tell i'm a natural birth guru. lol

in any case, good luck and stick with your guns no matter what you choose. people will try to sway you but only you know what you want to do. but as an added bonus- soldiering through with your husband on your side is the greatest bonding experience there is. lol

Shelby said...

Hi Sydney!!!
Ok two things:
1. What is the name of the book your reading? I am a total pansy! And a little overwhelmed about the road ahead.
2. I'd like to request a follow up to this post after you deliever... I'm gonna need some more reassurance...

Ashley said...

You go girl! I agree that each woman's experience is different and personal. Good for you for having a plan and preparing. After giving birth twice, I know that the epidural is the way to go for me. Both times it relaxed me enough to get up the strength to deliver, and I wouldn't have done it any other way. Regardless of your "method," it is AMAZING. Just you wait. ;)

srbushman said...

GOOOOD LUCK lady! Being a 3 time scar victim (c-section) who planned on natural, regular deliveries, I say go for it! I can shout praises for modern medicine, because I would have died on the prairie or in the rice paddy trying to deliver a baby. You are mentally prepared for whatever kind of child birth method you use.

HOWEVER, no one warned me of the milk coming in pain!!! It is excruciating. If you think your belly feels like it is going to pop when you are 2 weeks over due, it is nothing in comparison to when your milk comes in. Holy Hannah. Start doing some breathing exercises for that one. I warn out of love!

Camille @ NeverNaked said...

Your post actually got me the motivation to watch the business of being born. I read about it about a year ago in a magazine. It was in an article about these horror stories of hospital births. I am years away from having a baby but I think this topic is fascinating. I actually followed Kandee Johnson's story of the home birth of her daughter pretty closely (http://kandeelandkandeeland.blogspot.com/2011/02/baby-what-home-birth-is-like.html). I personally find it scary to want to drug your self for something you were born to do. If we weren't meant to have children naturally, the era of humans would have ended a long time ago, I find it appalling that it is left to someone outside of yourself to decide. imo
I wish you and your baby a happy healthy delivery no matter what you choose, I know you will be guided!
-Camille

sisters4saymoreismore said...

oh beauty good for you! i will say i have had it both with and without the blissful drugs... without them was a faster recovery for sure but i was pissed! my birth plan was an epidural and a Vogue, ya know?! any who, it helps to have plan A AND plan B... just in case you get half way through and decide this natural stuff isn't gonna cut it OR if, like my sis and best friend, complications happen and that perfect birth plan gets a wrench thrown in it... you are gonna do great! no matter how you get that baby out, its still a major achievement and a miracle! you are gonna be a great momma!
~selina

Sonja Lise said...

I'm so happy you are doing this! I would be so afraid! But lemme tell you, my mama had a natural water birth in our home when my little sister was born. (and she was 41 years old and had had 4 other children all born in hospitals) It was so amazing! Not only was it comfortable for her, but it was truly amazing to watch such a miracle happening in our very own home. It was very special. I hope all goes well for you and the way you choose!

http://sonja-carlson.blogspot.com

Stacy said...

5 months ago i gave birth to my second little girl naturally, never feeling any pain at all, and it was the most amazing experience of my life. you can do it, go for it!

Trina said...

GOOD. FOR. YOU! both mine were emergency c section. so i've longed for a natural birth for years. (now that i'm getting divorced...) anyway, This lady here is my hero. you'll love her birth stories. she's amazing, so emotional and so special! good luck!
http://theburkmans.com/SimonsFullBirthStory.pdf

Christina said...

Pregnant in America (which is on netflix) is also a great documentary to watch - although it was quite biased. I found it super interesting though.

Mrs. SE said...

I'm so excited for you. Natural birth is something wonderful and I agree with you in saying it's something that our bodies were made to do. The female body is an amazing thing and I can't wait to hear how it goes. Congrats! Also- what was the book?

Angela {fussycut} said...

I recommend the Bradley Method, by Dr. Bradley. It is natural, husband-coached childbirth, and it is amazing. I used it with all three of my babies. It sounds like your husband is very supportive, so this might be perfect for the two of you. Best wishes! :)

Rachel said...

I recently read the Hypnobirthing book as well and loved it! I wasn't into natural birth (much like yourself) until I spoke with my female in-laws. My sister in-law did two natural births using hypnobirthing and she has awesome stories from them. You can read them here: http://casteluzzo.blogspot.com/2005/02/we-were-twelve-days-short-of-babys-due.html and here: http://casteluzzo.blogspot.com/2007/06/rajs-birth-story.html/ They helped me to convince myself that I could do it. Good luck!

Mrs. Muffins said...

I'm so happy to read about your new insight! I unfortunately had my eye-opening AFTER I gave birth. I realize now how much danger I put my daughter and myself in by inducing labor and using the epidural. Thank God we're okay but the circumstances could have been much different and it's just not worth it, especially when our beautiful bodies are perfectly capable of so much. xx

Sarah said...

Hi Sydney, I had my son over a year ago and am envious of the excitement you feel right now. However, I know the fear that comes with that excitement. I had similar plans that you do, but after two full days of labor, I was given a c-section. All my plans went out the window. My advice is to have a plan and be VOCAL about it. The nurses are trained to do their thing and if you want something different, you have to tell them. Also, you have to expect the unexpected and know that nature is unpredictable. The cord was around my lil one's neck so each time he descended into the birth canal, his oxygen was cut off, which is why my labor never progressed. Nature is amazing and will take care of itself, as it did in my case. While I don't agree with modern medicine in some ways, my babe wouldn't have made it without that surgical team and I'm thankful each day.

Laura:: said...

i would recommend the movie Pregnant in America if you have netflix. It opened my eyes a lot to natural child birth and different options women have.

Caryn said...

You can totally do it! I will tell you the success of natural childbirth depends a lot on your mindset, so if you and your husband are committed to it and really learn how to do it, it can be a great experience. I had both my kids with epidurals, but I'm now in nursing school and just finished my OB rotation. I've helped women through natural childbirth, and now wish I'd have tried harder to go natural. I have heard great things about the hypno-birth method from the midwife who was my instructor.
http://www.hypnobirthing.com/
Best of luck to you!!!

The Reader said...

Boy did you open a can of worms! LOL Everyone has their own birth story to share and usually you don't hear the good/easy ones. Those people don't have much to say about it! LOL Some people go so fast the kid arrives before they realize they are in labor. Sometimes the kids stays in so long the doctor pulls it out. Some people are at a 6 for 6 weeks and others have a rock solid cervix that just won't give an inch (or millimeter in this case). Just remember it's not about the actual birth and all about the little kid that enters your life. As soon as you see that face you stop thinking about epidurals, natural birth, c-sections, etc. After my first, I felt jipped that I had to miss the who birth experience cause I had to have a c-section. How stupid was I! I should have just felt blessed that I had a baby. People feel so stongly that their 'birth way' is the right one (it's just as bad as politics). There is no one right way. In fact, each child is different from the last one too. You never know what to expect. It's the same with breastfeeding so be prepared for people to press their opinions about that onto you too. Just remember that no matter what the circumstances you have not failed your child so long as you love him and keep him healthy.

...I Thought I Loved You Then said...

I didn't have a chance to skim over all these great comments but from what I did see I DEFINITELY agree that you should watch "The Business of Being Born" and as a Chiropractor's wife I think that starting chiropractic care while you are preggo (if you haven't already) would be a really great idea to make sure that your body and the baby are in the most natural position to ensure a safe, healthy, easy (comparatively, of course) delivery! There are some great resources and research links on this website: http://www.atlantabirthcenter.org/

Love reading your blog, best of luck to you as you week thru all of the info that is out there! Feel free to get in touch if you want/need more resources about pre/post-natal chiropractic care for you and Baby :)

- Emily

www.ilythen.blogspot.com

Jenni Austria Germany said...

This makes me so happy! My mom had all of her kids naturally and has always highly recommended it to all her daughters. One of the biggest advantages she experienced was the recovery time - feeling alert after the birth as opposed to feeling drugged or disoriented for hours - which I see so many other women have commented here to you, too. I am already excited to read your birth story and see how this plays out! :))

MON said...

I will love to know the name of that book.
thanks
Mon

heather.michelle said...

genesis 3:16a

Julie said...

Lots of people are going to give you LOTS of advice whether you want it or not. Always go with your instinct and stick to it even if everyone else is telling you something else. It took me a long time to figure this out and a lot of second guessing myself. There is a reason that God gives us that little voice to guide us along the way. Stick with it and as you already know it won't lead you astray.

I wanted a natural birth with my son and I was able to labor for a long time without interference. We were opting for a home birth but at the last minute something told me to go to the hospital so that is what we did. It turned out that my childbearing hips weren't all the terrific at childbearing and the little guy had to be delivered by emergency C-section. Thank goodness everything turned out fantastic and I went with God's message to abandon my original plan.

Sincerely,

Julie

Cate said...

Hi!

We were at BYU-Idaho at the same time and by judging by the background of some of your old photos I think I was my husband and I were in the apartment complex not to far from you two :)

My little guy just turned a year in June. I decided to go natural as well. The book I loved the most was the "Husband coaching child birth" using the Bradley method.

I posted my birth story here

http://withatouchofpretty.blogspot.com/

it is always kind of fun reading other peoples :)

have a great day

The Eshbaughs said...

what is the name of the book?

Jessica Kettle said...

i love that you are open to the idea of a natural, enjoyable birth! my first baby i had an epidural, and it was all fine and dandy, for my second i went with hypnobirth and LOVE LOVE LOVED the experience. it sounds like it goes right in line with everything you're reading- birth is natural, perfect, and if you go into the experience without fear and anticipating pain, it is great! i would say it's very hard work (like running a marathon or any other challenging WORTHWHILE venture), but i never thought i wouldn't make it or wished for an epidural! it was peaceful and amazing. even though they DID break my water right away and i had pitocin because i had to be induced for medical reasons. so my labor that should have been EXTRA painful was STILL great. ;) my birth story here if you're interested: http://dannyandjess.blogspot.com/2010/08/lucys-birth.html

Jessica Kettle said...

p.s. HIGHLY recommend hypnobirth class
p.p.s. be prepared for lots of annoying comments like the one someone already made... "don't kid yourself into thinking it's not going to be super painful..." people don't get it. but do what YOU think is best for you and ignore the horror stories!

jennawinters said...

Both my babies I had epidurals with and they were totally healthy, alert, and normal when born. I totally support anyone who does natural birth but some people think that epidurals harm the baby and they don't :) I hope you have a wonderful rest of your pregnancy and smooth labor, delivery, and recovery!

Nanda said...

A birth experience is one of those key experiences you'll keep forever. I have always been bummed out by peoples' traumatic birth experiences, and knew I didn't want one of those.

I birthed my little Jane, naturally, 4 months ago. I prepared through the Bradley method (I HIGHLY recommend this investment of time - it literally made the world of difference for my birth experience). Early on, I watched the Business of Being Born - I'm yet another proponent of this documentary.

Whatever your choice, I wish you the best of health, as well as for your boy. Listen to your mama instincts, and remember that your body was BUILT to do this work. We delivered babies long before hospitals were around. :)

Nanda said...

Oh, and forgot to mention - I love that you talked about "feeling" the birth experience. I feel so close and so much more bonded to my baby girl from being able to feel every muscle do its thing during birth. The body knows how to give birth, and learning to relax and not fight the birthing process is not only effective, but easy to do (especially in Bradley classes). Xoxoxo

Ash said...

I'm actually a midwife working in labour ward so i deliver babies every day!! I love your attitide towards birth, I always tell my 'mother's' to come in with an open mind and take it step by step, as you say, women's bodies are designed to do this, and any fear or anxiiety can inhibit labour from progressing!
Positivity (and gravity) are your best friends when it comes down to the baby-popping time :)
hope you have a great birth experience and a good midwife to support you!
xxx

kiley wilkinson said...

Hey girl, just came across your (very popular!) blog!! Congrats on your little boy he's going to be so precious! I had an epidural 6 hours into labor and it only worked for an hour, and my labor was 19 hours long. I'm not going to lie to you- Natural hurts LIKE HELLLLLLLL. I got 40 stiches and felt everything. I mean, everythinggggggg. It's not the pushing of the baby that hurts, its just the contractions. But if you have a focal point you can breathe through them (I did) and you have a way better high afterwards!!!! You can do it!

kadie dahl said...

Ahhhhh! I just went through this last week! Granted I'm not pregnant, but we've been thinking about it. I'm terrified of pain and everything that brings it. So I figured labor was going to be hell and I was gonna have to be knocked out to have a baby. Then I thought of all the shots I was gonna have to get to be knocked out and that scared me more : ( I started looking up midwiferies in my area and they had so much wonderful information about water births! After reading that and seeing that these midwives are trained to manage pain in other was than knocking me out made me sigh with relief! Now I don't even worry about the labor part, I'm no longer scared : ) Thanks for sharing your story...now I don't feel crazy anymore!

Michelle said...

I just read through some of the other responses and someone (sorry can't remember who) said something about horror stories. I *think* she might be referring to my comment-the super, super long comment.

So, I don't want you to think I was telling you a "horror story". Every birth is different and I don't think my birthing story was a "horror story". My baby and I was fine.

Looking back at my birth experience, I really, really wish that I could have done a natural birth. Seriously, I look up to people who do it. However, I didn't have too much of a choice in my matter. The nurses pretty just got the epidural guy without asking me if that was what I wanted.

However, I personally liked the epidural. I thought that next time I have a baby I would do a natural birth. But because of the complications and having to get a C-section, I can't have a natural birth next time. There are no hospitals in my area that do vaginal births after a c-section.

So, I'm sorry if my story scared you in any way, I don't consider it a horror story.

Make sure that your husband knows what you want (in detail), so that he can fight for you. You should be focusing on the labor, not signing paperwork and trying to tell the nurses that you don't want an epidural.

audrey said...

Good for you! I've had both of my children naturally and will do it again next time as well. Fear is what makes the experience more painful than it needs to be. I was terrified with my first and labor lasted 9 hours and i was in a lot of pain. But with my 2nd I wasn't scared at all. Labor was only 2 hours and honestly not very painful - and my baby was 10lb 1oz and I didn't even tear (sorry if TMI!) I also think lots of exercise and taking Dr. Christopher's Prenatal formula for the last 6 weeks helped a lot too. If you can afford it a doula is an excellent investment. And your provider makes all the difference in the world. Midwives rock.

Brandy said...

I know you're a Mormon and all, but all of the Bible comments are super inappropriate. I don't subscribe to that kind of thing, so I won't open that can of worms, but birth is different for each woman, each time.

My SIL had her son last December and read the same book, did prenatal yoga, hypnobirthing, etc., and said that it was AMAZING. She said there was pain, obviously (which apparently made her use words we've never heard out of her mouth), but going in with the mindset that birth is beautiful, wonderful thing did wonders for her. She also had a bar to grab onto, and said that if your doctor tells you to give birth on your back, walk out the door. The back is the most common, but usually not the best. Find a doctor and hospital that you're completely comfortable with, and if you can, get a midwife and/or doula!

Jessica said...

You can totally do it! I wouldn't describe my natural birth experience as "comfortable" but I am glad I did it. Having had medicated and now an unmedicated birth (just 3 weeks ago, you can read my birth story if you want here: http://chapmanfamilyadventures.blogspot.com/2011/08/jacobs-birth-story.html) I prefer the natural birth, it's just better to feel part of the process instead of numb. Much more emotional. Good luck to you!

hm said...

Hi Syd, you're adorable btw... But, just wanted to let you know that I have 2 children, the first one with epidural and the 2nd on without, and I prefered the one without. The epidural stalled my labor the first time, so even though I had drugs, it took like forever (23hr). The second one was really fast and I didn't have time to get the epidural (3hr) but looking back I was happier with the 2nd birth... Just my 2 cents. BTW, I am a super wimp and am even afraid of the IV in my arm so...

Best of luck!!! You can do it!!!!

Hailey Broadbent said...

I highly recommend the Hypnobabies home study course (http://www.hypnobabies.com/mylink.php?id=3812). I did it with my little man in January and it was the best thing ever. I ended up being induced because I had PUPPPS (itchy pregnancy rash-worst thing ever), but I was still able to give birth without pain meds. You can do it!

My other tip would be to have plenty of support people. I had my sweet husband, my mom, and my sister in the delivery room to help, and I needed every one of them. I seriously could not have done it without them.

Sheryl said...

I am a labour and delivery RN, see births every day, and also gave birth to a 10lb 1oz boy after 24 hours of unmedicated labour. It hurt, sure, but I didn't suffer, and there is a big difference there.

You can do it, but just prepare, like you would to do a marathon. Expect it to be very hard, but surround yourself with positivity: I highly recommend a doula as well as positive friends/family (don't bring someone who is scared of birth as that could affect you when you're there doing it). Of course I'm sure your husband will be there and he'll be great, but depending where you give birth your nurse might not be able to be in the room with you, and you need someone who has supported women through this experience many times to guide you through it. A good, DONA-certified doula will add to your ability to accomplish "natural" birth immeasurably.

I also wanted to comment on the posts regarding God's punishment of "pain" in childbirth. I have read that that may actually be a mistranslation of the original text, and that it may have originally meant more like "struggle" "hard work" "travail" "toil". There are many discussions about this online if you want to check it out. I just think we shouldn't resign ourselves to a painful experience because God intended it to be so. He also gave us endorphins to help us manage it, and many other tools if we choose to use them.

I wish you the best and can't wait to hear about it!

Mrs B said...

i was totally the band-aid for a sneeze kid too and i have had two babies in my own home with no pain medication or drugs of any kind (and i'm not a hippie - not that there's anything wrong with being one, but i'm not). and i can attest to the fact that birth is magical!! there is a short period of intense pain, but pain is like 10% of what birth is all about. the rest of it is like the biggest adventure in the world. and at the end of it all you have a child and you are a mother and your world will never be the same again :)

really... said...

I used hypno birthing for Fae, and it worked out fine for me, it hurts, but it's worth it. thats all I can say it's a feeling that I can't describe, but its one I would never have not wanted to feel.

k.dubois said...

I agree that the idea of natural child birth is fascinating and exciting! (And I'm the Band-Aid over user type too) :) I did want to comment though on God's design in childbirth. Totally agree that our bodies are designed perfectly by Him, but He also gave the pain of child birth to humanity in Genesis 3, and He is still perfectly loving. So three cheers for natural child birth, but I wouldn't expect it to be pain-free because the pain is also by design.

Kaleigh Meduri said...

This is a beautiful post! I'm so happy for your plan and that you've decided to educate yourself on natural birth. I'm studying to be a doula and would love to help (over the Internet) anyway I can. I have posted many natural birth stories or great research on my blog. I'm also open to any questions :) so excited for you and your journey!

Alicia said...

Good for you! I love to hear about women realizing what their bodies are capable of! Every woman is SO strong. We are made to birth babies and it is exciting, amazing work getting these little guys here. I had my three kiddos at home and I treasure those experiences. You might enjoy reading "Babycatcher" by Peggy Vincent...it's the book that hooked my sister and I on natural birth. A really fun and uplifting read.

Kristina said...

I did hypnobirthing, which is a relaxation technique during labor. It was such a beautiful and spiritual experience for me. I listened to island music and focused on calming my mind so my body could do the work. I think your birth will be so sweet and beautiful, you and your hub are adorable, and I enjoy the blog :)

RubysNPurls said...

Syd, I had a similar experience, started out with OB/GYN and told them I wanted natural childbirth. They looked at me like I had grown 3 heads in two seconds flat! Needless to say I found an amazing birthing center and labored at home until my water broke. Things went really quickly after that and the actual pushing wasn't even that long.
Like the first commenter said there is pain, but it's more pressure and its definitely nothing you can't get through. It was amazing being able to look at my baby boy who was clear eyed and alert. It was amazing feeling like I'd just run a race and totally had the adrenaline rush you get afterwards. Of course ever woman's story is different, but like you said birthing without fear is what God intended childbirth to be. Your baby was made naturally, with just the two of you, so my belief has always been your baby should be brought into the world naturally with just the two of you - OK and maybe a few professionals too! LOL
Good Luck and we can't wait to meet him!!

London said...

Sydney, I am really interested in the name of your book. My baby boy is due at the end of Oct and am more and more inclined to really give natural child birth a look. there is a web birthing class I have heard of and will pass on the link if you are interested, but it sounds like your book has it covered.

Nikki said...

You ROCK mama! Yes, you can totally do this. Natural birth is amazing and I was so surprised at how little pain there was with the birth of my first child. The contractions were intense but with God and my amazing husband right beside me, we got threw them together. The only pain I experienced from pushing, was when her little head was crowning, but that didn't last long. I was excited, not scared and that is key. You got this!

JewishGirlBlog said...

It seems like the Business of Being Born has already been recommended to you a number of times, but let me chime in as another voice---it's spectacular!!!

Amy said...

i've had two babies one with an epidural and one without. both are amazing and beautiful. i feel like whatever you can do to bring your little one safely into this world is the way you should go! good luck :) babies (especially boys) are truly a blessing and miracle :)

ppp said...

Just wanted to chime in (a little late her but whatevs) and concur that the bradley method sounds like a great thing for you guys! My hub and i did it and i had a successful natural childbirth with my daughter; it was painful as all hell but with the help of the bradley method, i was honestly able to get through it without ever once thinking of getting an epidural. I will say if you are planning on a natural birth, i think it is important to truly prepare.... its more of a mental thing than anything and you (and Tys) need to be ready to power through. But i have faith in you and i know Tys will be a fantastic husband coach! <3

Shilah said...

Hey fancy lady! I adore you and your blog, especially on Thursdays of course. My husband and I are a YOUNG lds couple and we're expecting mr. baby squirt in February and I've been sucking up so much comfort and inspiration from your blog the whole time like a borderline obsessed sponge. I just wanted to bug you reeeal quick because I'm super excited about this whole natural birth thing because in my head I'm like "yeeeeah pain is AWESOME!" Not really though, I just feel like if us women are supposed to pop these babies out for the duration of earth's existence then God must have meant for it to be possible. Plus giant epidural needles in my spinal cord sounds more terrifying than days of painful labor, so one natural childbirth to go please. But I honestly know nothingggg about it and I reeeally feel like I need to read SOMETHING, I'm 18 weeks and I haven't even considered birthing classes or read a single book except for maaaybe the first 20 pages of "what to expect when expecting." I just figure hey I'm like already 19, I waaaay know ALL about babies by now, who needs to read? But this book, this glorious book you speak of sounds AMAZING! Natural AND comfortable child birth?? Yes please, I would love to read all about how capable I am. I want that. And it could just be my pregnant brain failing me but out the three times i read this post of yours I didn't see the title of that magical book anywhere. If you find a sec could you just shoot that title my way so I can waddle to the nearest library and figure out how the heck I'm getting this baybay from my uterus to my arms? Thanks =] you're a doll, I love you guys.

qadesign.jenna said...

i had my first baby with an epidural & just had my second naturally.

i can't really begin to describe what a powerful, intense, incredible, amazing experience it was! for once i felt like i fully understood what my body was capable of & what my heavenly father had blessed me with. not only that but my husband called me a rockstar {verbage he doesn't tend to use but i fully soak in!}

good luck and i'm sure you have a lot of people to talk to but if you ever have questions i could talk about natural labor for HOURS!!
qadesigns.blogspot.com
qadesign.jenna@gmail.com

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