working mom

Tuesday, June 28

I've been thinking lately about working moms. Mostly because I plan on being one of them. I feel blessed that my particular field of work in design will allow me to work from home while still being able to spend the day with our sweet baby AND develop those domestic skills that are essentially an embarrassment to women everywhere.

But sometimes I wonder if I'll ever miss "going into the office" or working in that creative space and bouncing ideas off those creative minds that I've enjoyed so much during my college career.  If that would be fulfilling in other ways that working from home, propped up on my laptop for hours, isn't. {You know, not that bouncing ideas off myself isn't awesome. No one can rate me on the lame idea scale from 1-10}

OR 

If maybe it will be enough. More than enough. And I'll be so happy at home that I won't even have a second thought about it, and I'll be a domestic mommy queen whose propped up laptop in bed is the best thing ever because it doesn't require any pants. Office Shmoffice. And I'll look back on this post and say "what poppy-cock!" in a very British accent.


what say you working moms? stay-at-home moms? future moms?
spill.

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Liz said...

I'm sure some days you'll love it and some days you'll long for some office mates. Either way, you will make the best Mama, so don't worry too much :) No situation is positively perfect!

Sarah said...

you'll be a great mom at home or at the office! :) congrats on the baby boy!

RosyRilli said...

Well, first and foremost, I'm so jealous that your profession allows you the flexibility to work from home! Count it as a HUGE blessing. I don't plan on starting a family for a few years to come but my dream is and always has been to be able to stay at home those first few years. I can't imagine missing first giggles, words, steps etc. The thought of working a 40 hour week and then lugging my poor kiddie to and fro daycare breaks my heart but financially it may be the only option. With that said, ENJOY it! At the very least for all of us one-day-mommies who may not be able to afford the luxury!

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Ash said...

aww you'll find a balance I'm sure. As for me? I could care less about working once I have kids. I intend to stay at home and be wife/mommy- my mom worked and I hated it...but that's just me :)

Marjorie said...

I work from home. It isn't always easy, but I think the best of both worlds. I get to work/interact with people and be with my kids. Saves money on daycare. Win-win, but some days are definitely tough!

Amanda said...

I was able to stay home for about a year with my third little one. I enjoyed every single minute of it! I've since had to return to 'the office' and while I miss my kiddos during the day, our nights together are so special! You make the most of your own situation ~ and no one can tell you what's best for your family! <3

Mr. Taylor and his Lady said...

While I'm not a mom myself yet, I definitely have always seen myself as being a working mom. I can't imagine being cooped up in the house all day. Although I think it's really important to spend time with your children (particularly in their early developmental years) it's also essential to have your own life outside of the house. I say enjoy these first few years with your little man while trying to maintain a career from home so you don't loose those ties, but as soon as school starts up, you need to get back out there and mingle and continue to educationally grow with your fellow peers! Just my own thoughts, hope this helps :)
Xo

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CB_Wilson said...

I have a 14 year old stepson and a 7 year old biological son. I work in an office Mon-Fri. I like my job. I regret not being at home with my boys on a regular basis. However, I know that I was not made to be a stay-at-home OR a work-from-home mother. There are very special ladies (and men) that able to do that and it works for them. I wish it could work for me. In addition, I believe it takes an incredibly organized, self-disciplined woman, or man, to work at home AND keep the kids there. My husband actually runs a business from home and it's truly difficult for many reasons. Since our kids are in school, the time with them there is very limited. His office being at home makes it so that other things can work out for us, but I think his job is WAY more difficult than mine! Worst thing that happens is that it doesn't work for you, you figure out another option and your child is still better off for the extra time you got to spend with him while it lasted! Or... it works out and you LOVE it and all is still well!!!

Griffin and Gretchen said...

o i can't wait to be a stay at home mom. i will probably have to work too a little bit. but i can't wait to be a full time mom. although i do think it's important to have some hobby or something out of the house to take you away from that for a little bit.

Katie Blacker said...

I love working from home. love. I am not a mama (yet) but I love the ability to make my own schedule. I can run errands and eat a sandwich and be social when *I* want to and not when someone else tells me I can. For me, it is all sweet and not sour. But, then again, I had some lousy day jobs...

Julia said...

You'll miss adult interaction some days. You might realize that the only person you had a face to face conversation with that whole week (besides your husband) is the cashier at the grocery store. But for me, being a stay-at-home mama, is more than enough. And I am busier than I have ever been in my whole life. Ever. And I am also happier.


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Sean and Sierra said...

My mom was a working mom, so I always thought that I wanted to be one. Well...once my baby was born in December and I had 8 weeks off with her, I did not want to go back to work. BUT....I had to. It was horrible. haha. Now I have to work and I am trying to enjoy it but I would much rather be home with my little doll. We hope to get me home soon (once hubby is done with school) but until then, I will be a working momma. I'm guessing that your opinion will change once you see that gorgeous little face! =)

Molly said...

my co-worker had to come back to work after a 10 week maternatiy leave and everyday is a struggle to get through the work hours with out crying... it breaks her heart to be away from her sweet boy. being a stay at home working mom will be hard (very, very hard) but you will get to cherish precious moments most real working women miss out on (first words, steps, snuggle time, etc.). good luck!

janel said...

I love staying home with my kids! It's a lot of fun, but it's hard too (they drive me crazy sometimes). But I feel lucky to be with them. When they're a little older I think I would like to work.

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sheena said...

i'm a stay at home mommy and i get to work from home too! (you can search what i do on fb called... Queens of Green.)

i LOVE being a mom more than anything in this world... and to be able to work from home, help with the income and get to still interact with lots of other fun women and have lots of fun events makes it the perfect job for me! i'm a social person, so it's a great fit!

i love that i don't have to put my child in daycare. and pay for the blasted daycare too.

i get to be here for everything.

and like today... we can take a pool day ANY day we want and not have to worry about anything!

you'll find your balance and what works best for you.

good luck!

you'll be an amazing mom soon!

Nancy said...

I wanted to be a stay home mama, but my job isn't flexible enough to do that. But now that I've got 2 kids (less than 2 years apart), I think that I would go crazy if I didn't get to go to work. Don't get me wrong, I love my kids, it's just that a little time away everyday helps me to keep my sanity so I'm a better mommy.

Linda Z said...

Just know that "having it all" is a myth. It's good to think of your life in seasons. You'll have seasons to be creative and seasons devoted to the well-being of your kids. Sometimes those seasons will overlap and sometimes they won't. You can have it all in your life... just not necessarily at the same time. That's perfectly ok!!

And in the end... just remember your relationships are what are most important.

I saw an interview with an actress a while back. The host asked her how she "did it all" with traveling, acting, kids, etc. She said something like, "Well, I couldn't do it all... something had to give, and I guess it was my husband." She had recently gotten a divorce. I just thought that was so sad that he became the expendable part of her life.

And lastly... mothering is a huge blessing, but it can get lonely & monotonous sometimes. That's why we need girlfriends to encourage us and playdates to keep us sane!

Congratulations on your little one!

jamie @ kreyv said...

I worked in the corporate world for five years before Stella. I'll admit it, I loved it. I loved being around people, and I loved dressing up for work. BUT, being a mommy is a million times better. I love knowing that I am raising my daughter, and that I'm not missing all of the new things she does. Seriously, it is the best thing ever.

Some days, you might get a little stir-crazy, but you've just got to make a point of getting out of the house. Play groups, Gymboree, going to the mall, or even Target can be just the fix you need. And, the best part? You get to take your little baby with you everywhere you go. (If nothing else, it definitely boosts the self-esteem to have everyone oohing and ahhing over your baby!)

Catherine Anne said...

I've always wondered about that too...if once I'm a mom (in the very distant future), I'll be sad about not working and sitting in my cubicle all dressed up and cute. But my career (speech therapy) will also be one that I can work around my schedule and stay at home and do out of my house or in schools once my kids get to that point. But I do believe that the joy of being a mother is incomprehensible and that it will be the most fulfilling thing ever. So happy and excited for you!

Theresa said...

I don't have kids, but as an academic I can pretty much choose whether to work from home or go to the office. While I think the flexibility is great, I really do miss having my colleagues around and talk to someone other than my man at least occasionally when working from home. What has worked best for me is to have ppl with similar situations and meet up with them regularly for work lunch or coffee (maybe you can find another work from home mom in your field?). This way you keep all the flexibility of being home with your kid, but get some of the perks of having colleagues to talk to!

Karri said...

I think its different for EVERYONE and there is no right or wrong and you need to figure out what situation works best for your little family. For me, I was a working mom for 15 months. I thought I wanted a career. We bought a huge house based on a dual income. I pursued my MBA and finished it 2 months before having my first baby. I NEVER thought I'd want to stay at home. I thought I was fulfilled.
But I wasn't. Maybe it was because I really disliked the company I worked for. Or because I ended up not being passionate about my chosen field. But in the end, I ended up leaving my career and becoming a stay at home mom when I was pregnant with my twins (and had a 15 mo old. ye haw). It wasn't paradise, either. It was a total 180. And we had to downsize our house because we no longer had my nice sized income (but we did have a giant student loan and 3 kids on the way). For awhile, I tried working from home and failed at that. I couldn't balance my work/home/kids thing. But I have finally found my groove and I am happy. I am happy that I got to see my kids grow up and I am happy that they can be involved in any activity they want because my schedule allows to take them anywhere. I am happy that I can have kids over anytime to play and that I have time to make sit-down meals for my family every night.
But to each their own. I have friends totally satisfied in their careers. So...

Britney said...

I just had my baby after graduating from the nursing program at BYU-I and need to start doing some kind of work before I have more kids so I can gain experience. When I was pregnant I really thought that I would NEED to go to work for myself and that just having a baby wouldn't be enough for me--meaning I would need some kind of outlet. I have to say that having a baby will change some aspect of that. I am DREADING the thought of working...well more like having to leave him for any reason. He depends on me so much and even though he won't remember me working it makes me feel so sad to leave him even for 3 days a week. Anyway, I think this will wain a little as he gets older, but I think you'll be just fine once you and your baby get more attached. I totally support moms working when they need to. I'm just saying that I don't think you'll be pining to go to work like you may think and that you'll find spending time with your baby all day everyday very fulfilling and rewarding.
Hope this helps :) Sorry about the novel <3
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jenny said...

I'm not a mom yet, but I work from home because I wanted a career where I could set my own hours and get lost in my own thoughts.

I didn't realize that working from home could be a little lonely. Actually very lonely. Though I do have a pug to keep me company and entertained, it gets a little slow when no one is around for bouncing ideas. In college I worked in lots of groups and its a great way to innovate, so I'm missing that at home. But the fortunate thing about being at home is that I've set myself up for continuing my work even when I become a mom. Plus, it's fun to stay connected socially through blogs, Facebook and Twitter, so I never feel completely in the dark.

I think you'll find a great balance and you'll have plenty to keep your time full with the baby! :)

annawithlove said...

My mama was always home with us and I loved it. Ive been planning since college and working hard to get to a point where I will be able to work from home when the time comes for the babes! xo

Sarah said...

I have heard it said that at the end of your life, you won't wish you had just one more promotion, or jet-set business trip, but more time with your family/kids. I have also read a recent study that I woman must make at least (if i remember correctly..) $60k+ to make it worth ALL of the extra expenses that come along with her working outside of the home (including hidden costs like bumping up your tax bracket.) I agree with what someone said earlier in the comments that you have to make the most of your situation. I believe that this is def. a personal decision that you have to make with your husband. For me, I will be staying at home because I do not have a job I could do from home. If I was about to work 15 hours a week from home... I may take that opportunity, but time will tell! May God bless you in whatever you choose.

Shawna Lauringson said...

The career field you are in is awesome because you can work from home for as long as you desire and then IF you ever miss the "office life" you could always work in a shared space or studio with other artsy people who typically work from home but who need to get out of the house. Especially if you are in DC there will be lots of options for shared workspaces!

Dani said...

ahhh. I wish I was a at home momma... boo for me, my "husnbad" decided game over after almost 6 years of marriage and a 2.5 month old baby...she's 10 months now. So I'm a full time working/momma/daddy/homemaker/crafter/blogger...once you get in the swing of things apparently you can do more than EVER thought possible...BELIEVE ME!

Come chack me out...

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Alie said...

I just graduated from BYU in graphic design and work from home now, usually 10-20 hours a week. Most days I love it!

You just really, REALLY have to get your kiddo on a nap schedule. I can't stress this enough. I know that Jack (he's 8 months old now) is going to take a morning nap (8-9:30am) and a long mid-day nap from 11-1:30ish, and usually a late afternoon nap, so I plan with my clients to be available at those times. Sometimes things go wonky and your babe wakes up early but usually things go well and clients understand.

I'll admit I do get lonely though, and it doesn't help that I don't work in a great space. (Dang these college apartments!) It also helps to position your desk where baby can happily play nearby in sight.

That being said, you will love it. Just make sure first and foremost you are a mother, and work comes second.

Sarah said...

I am kind of like you because as a teacher, I get the best of both worlds. I go to work everyday but then get to be home on holidays, weekends and summer. I love it. While I love summer, I do miss adult conversation and my sense of purpose but you will find what works for you. And yes, the no pants and especially no hair dos are the best parts for me!

LaynahRose said...

I think it's beautiful that you'll be able to stay at home with the precious and work. I know alot of moms that would kill for that.

The Pitts Family said...

I am a stay at home mom of two (almost three) and had a "career" before I had kids. I will say that staying at home is much harder but also much more fulfilling. Now I am not saying that you wouldn't crave a little (or a lot) of adult only interaction, but your husband will provide that through watching your babe too. I wouldn't want to be anywhere else, except when I wish I were anywhere else. Does that make sense? It's hard, but things that are worth it are hard. Yeah, that probably doesn't help at all.

Rissy said...

I think you will be very happy working at home!
we all have those days where it'd just be better to be at home, and you won't have to part with the little one.
At the same time, you will have your own life outside of raising your child which will be such a gift when the kids go off to college!

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Stephanie said...

It's my dream to be a working-from-home mom. I love interacting with others at the office but, for me, I don't think that will outweigh the joy of being available to my {future} children whenever they need me. I only have a guinea pig right now and I wish I could work from home to hang out with her!! I can't imagine what it would be like with actual human being babies. :)

kirtley@ the ink hotel said...

Do what ever you two feel is best for your family and pray about it. I'm a stay-at-home mom,work,and go to school from home. It is easy for our family since my husband is military. I love getting to see my little one grow up and learn new things. Just make sure you get out so you don't get lonely. It's a lot to juggle but when you get in a routine it gets easier.

Samantha @ Moody Mama said...

Well let's see I did the office thing (before I was a Mom) and worked while I was pregnant now I'm just a SAHM I don't work from home (yet). I will say there are very few days I miss going to work, mostly the extra interaction with other adults. But then I see my sweet boy smile at me and watch all of his milestones happen in front of my eyes and it is worth it ;)

Heather said...

I'm a working single mom. I took the traditional 6 wk maternity leave with each of them but that's all we could afford and now that I'm doing the single mom thing I really could never give up work (unless I become e-famous overnight and start my own beauty line--we can dream right?). Honestly I could never give up work even if it was an option. I think it gives you a much needed "break" and breath of fresh air and vice versa. Both parties come back recharged.
I started them in daycare at 6wks, I would probably liked to stay home with them a little longer back then but looking back now it was probably better. My boys are soooo social and outgoing it's crazy, I admire them so much! And I believe that it's because they were put into such a social setting at such a young age that they grew from it.
Like Dani said above me, you learn as you go and you really do more than you could have ever imagined.
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And then there was Anna... said...

I am FT working mommy and have been blogging lately on how life is working and managing a household at the same time. It can be stressful, I hate being apart from my son but also lucky that my bosses are pretty flexible though I still work at the office most days.
While I hate being away I will say going back to work after maternity leave helped me feel more like "myself" again.

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Trendydolap said...

Working at home definitely good idea however it can be boring. But logical for short term periods like pregnancy.

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lurel said...

My thoughts on the topic:
http://samandlurel.blogspot.com/2010/11/when-i-grow-up.html

I feel quite strongly ;)

Rachel said...

That's great you will be able to work from home!

Natalie said...

as a mama who stays at home, i will say it is both the best and the hardest job there is. i know that the most important work i can do right now is to be bringing up my babies, and for me, working out of the home would be a selfish escape. that being said, it is so important to have time to be creative and be yourself, whether that's freelancing at home or just persuing hobbies/interests on your own. staying at home doesn't mean you have to lose your identity. :)

Lacey said...

I've worked from home with my little dude since he was 1 month, he is almost 3 yrs now. It can be hard trying to balance both but it is worth not missing any moments with the babe. Of course there are times that I miss my coworkers and getting out of the house, but you do what you gotta!

CINDY NGO said...

as of now, i'm a stay-at-home mom... but to be honest, i can't wait to get back into work because i used to be such a workaholic. it was sort of my own time and freedom... i'm sure that everyone have their own opinions and perspective on that thought.

i just think that i need a break sometimes and get away for a little while - be it, while going out for yoga or work a few hours. you know, ME TIME. parenting can be a blessing but also tiresome if you're the only one doing almost everything yourself.

so it's ALWAYS wonderful to have your partner support you in whatever you do and decisions you make.

i wish you the best! i am sure that you're going to be a wonderful mom. and it's true... no situation is perfect. so we must make the best out of it. :)

xx,
cins

Mellissa said...

I worked after I had my son and then quit when I had my daughter (and I am pregnant with baby #3!!). Staying at home was more of an adjustment than I thought it would be. I found the loneliness really hard to deal with. I like being around other people and never really liked being alone and all of the sudden I was at home by myself, with my children (small children don't make very good conversation) all day and my husband went to school at night 4 days a week. It was a big adjustment. I improved my relationship with God and everything else fell into place. Its funny how that always seems to happen :) I still have lonely days now and again but as time goes on those days get farther apart. Good luck! Have fun! and feel good knowing you wont miss a single 1st (1st time rolling over, 1st coo, 1st smile) So happy for you and your husband!

Nicole said...

I am a stay at home and go to school in the evenings for physical therapy. I will start working once my youngest starts school. I have loved being here with them, and honestly, we are never home. Between the gym, play dates, lessons and errands...I am never stuck in the house. It's been a great joy to watch them grow and spend time with them. But I am excited to start my career. You'll do fine because you won't know any different. You'll find a routine and you and the family will thrive.

Bianca and Sarah said...

I heard once " When you are on your deathbed.. what to do you wish you would have done?" I truly believe that working from home is an ultimate blessing. You will be with you baby! Maybe you can add in a few projects outside of the house that you can do with your son that will help your creativity juices? God will show you the way!!

Jenny said...

I was an "office working" mom before I had kids, and I will admit that that first year after I had my first son and chose to not go back to work was tough. I missed dressing up, feeling sophisticated, and feeling like I contributed to society (even though being a stay at home mom IS contributing to society). But my perspective was that I could never get that time back with my son, but I could always go back to work later. I think it's great when moms work in creative ways that make them feel fulfilled, but don't take too much time away from their kids. The time when kids are little is soooo precious! It's tough, but every giggle, hug, and "you're a superhero mommy!" makes it worth it!

Linka said...

I've been a stay at home mom for about a year now (working from home part time) and I have to admit...I miss going to work. I am in the process now of pushing my way back into the workforce. Being home with my little one is awesome, but I'm ready for the change of scene even though I'll miss him more than ever while I'm away.

Jenn said...

I'm sure most people agree that being a stay at home mom is hard work, but not everyone recognizes that it takes smarts, too. I once heard of a woman who was struggling with being a SAHM because she felt like she wasn't putting her brains and education to use...until she thought, "who would I rather have teaching my kids every day? Me, or someone else that might not be as educated?"

On a different note, I had a coworker who said that she appreciated her baby more because she only saw her for 2 hours a day. It makes me immeasurably sad to hear things like that, but to each her own.

Personally, I LOVE being a SAHM and absolutely do not miss going into the office even one little tiny bit. I do, however, miss the creative juices that flow so freely on college campuses. Those were the good ol' days. ;)

Tiffany Harper said...

Some days you will love that you can escape for a few hours and talk to actual adults and be in your creative element. Other days, you will wish you were at home 24/7 with your babe. You just have to take it a day at a time. I am fortunate to be able to stay at home full time with my loves...but that doesn't mean that I don't want to escape some days to preserve my sanity!!! ha!

You will be an awesome momma...whether at home or working. You go!

Sherrel said...

I plan on being a working momma, too. But, I think Jenn makes a good point; it would be a privilege to educate your own children. I know you’ll be good at whatever you choose to do. Congratulations to you and your husband on your baby boy.

Natbeesfashion said...

One of the reasons I am not getting into marriage or the baby thing is my carreer..
Its a big deal to decide to have a baby (and a husband) while at the same time you hould be a professional worker..
Its difficult to do both and be good at the same time at both..
I think the secret its to find the balance and spend equal time...
x

Kate said...

Check it this blog post by my friend Ali Edwards titled "Work at Home Rhythm things I have learned" It's awesome and gives lots of good tips! :)

http://aliedwards.com/2011/01/daily-work-at-home-rhythm-things-i-have-learned.html#comments

Sist and Sist said...

I feel like the Lord ordains all things so ultimately you will have a peace about whatever you choose but I'm with ya girl - completely torn. Part of me wants to work and the other totally equal part wants to stay home one day. It's crazy!

savy said...

The second one! Being a wife and mother, in my opinion, is the highest of high callings.

No doubt you may, once in a while, miss the office. But I really doubt you'll ever regret choosing family over work. ;-)

Bring on the British accent!

Joanna said...

I need both. I need to get out and be creative with other people, and I need to be at home with my darling baby. So I work outside at least one day a week. It's a chance to define myself as me - not 'mommy' or 'wife' - and it's a chance to refresh and gain perspective. So I relish both - being in and out of the home.

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Lauren said...

I love, love, love being a stay at home mamma! But I will admit I sometimes miss some adult conversation whether that's talking creatively---or just talking about anything besides going "pee-pee" and "poo-poo" or singing the ABC song. But when I'm feeling the "Adult Company Blues" a good cure for it is a girls night and/or a date with the handsome hubs.

There are so many ways you can slice it and there is no perfect way. The best mamma is the one who is trying her darndest to love and take care of her babies.

Mejia Mamma said...

My daughter just turned 2...and for a year now, I've been working from home on Mondays...it was pretty easy to juggle when she was younger, and NOT mobile. But then once she started crawling, then walking, then getting into everything, it got more & more difficult to manage. I tend to feel like in a way I'm neglecting her on Mondays because I can't give her my undivided attention... And there was a time a while back, that I can remember having a complete breakdown about it. She was starved for attention & interaction on those days...and with only one 2-hr nap - that made hard to focus on 'work work' as well (she dropped her 2nd nap before she even turned one!!)

It's a BIT easier now that she's older & totally entertains herself... but I still feel bad. When I'm at home with her, I should be 100% focused on her... not 80/20...or even 50/50 for that matter. :'-(

GOOD LUCK!! haha... here are 2 posts that I wrote about my frustrations:

http://mejiamamma.blogspot.com/2010/07/oj-and-side-of-breakdown-please.html

http://mejiamamma.blogspot.com/2010/10/mommy-me-mondays.html

Mrs. C said...

I plan on being a working mom but realativly local to home! You will be amazing at whatever you device! I know you've been cooking more so I've got some fun recipes up for July 4th (aka pretty pictures)

www.MrsCapretta.com
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Alaina Teuscher said...

I used to be a working mom. Then I became a stay at home mom. But I plan on become a "work from home mom". Being home with my girl is amazing. Wouldn't trade it for anything. Although, times when I go for a mani or pedi is a nice little break. Some good "me" time. That's important!

Kellie said...

Just try to enjoy it no matter WHAT. Because you can always pick back up in your career, but those little babies grow so fast. Cherish your time as a SAHM.

Stephanie C. said...

I'm a design graduate from the BYU-I land too. I was worried about the same thing when I had my daughter. But it has been the bestest thing ever; your own time, your own space, your own ideas. Plus, if you're worried, you can still send things to your trusted designer friends for advice and critique, without dressing up. :)

BegoƱa said...

I think there are no right answers, and both scenarios have their pros and cons. Staying at home can be hard at first but then you just get used to it and time flies. And yes, you'll miss the interaction with other people, but you'll also feel more free. And be careful with the working-in-your-pjs-thing cause I found that shower every morning and get ready as usual made me feel better, more optimistic and full of energy. Otherwise, you'll feel depressed, believe me! And last, but not least, there got to be a working enviorement if you wanna have your work done, otherwise, you'll be messing around and doing just nothing all day long. But I defenitly love working from home, it is great!! Just one more thing, please, please, please, dont quit your job. I really respect moms that decide to stay at home, but I truly believe that we've got to organise our society so moms can work and both parents can take care of their babies together. So, the more moms work, the easier it will be. xxx

K. Elizabeth said...

I loved being a 'career woman' and worked in the professional world for about 5 years after college and before babies. I was very successful in my career and more than just the monetary value it added to my life, it gave me so much more than that. I had many of the same concerns you have about being a working mommy. When I had my baby girl, I had a "come to Jesus" conversation with myself about what I really want and what really is most important. I decided that I really did want to be a successful mom and felt that if I was spending hours of my day away from home - I wouldn't be the kind of mom I wanted to be.

Some moms are really great at balancing both a successful career and a successful home, but I guess I felt like if I was doing one, I couldn't be giving 100% to the other.

I will have time to go back to work and can do consulting for friends here and there to give me some of that mental stimulation I sometimes crave.

I won't pretend it's easy. There are days when I really think going back to work is what I need to do and I miss a lot of things about it. But for me, being a stay at home mom 100% of the time is what I really feel I need to do.

I think you'll know once the baby comes what you want to do and you're lucky with your career to be able to pick it up here or there when you feel the need for a little project.

Regardless of what you decide, you'll be the best Mommy (and Daddy) for this perfect little baby that was sent just for you.

Amy said...

This post resonates with me for sure. I'll be a mom in November and I work full time - currently from home, but that's just because our company's old office lease ran out and we're taking our time finding a perfect new space and everyone's working from home in the meantime.

I love my situation and I'd love to be able to stay home and work once baby comes. It feels like a win-win. Keep making moolah and feeling fulfilled while not missing a moment with baby. Walk my kids to school every day when they get a bit bigger. Be able to make them a good breakfast and a good dinner, no frozen waffles and microwave lasagna every day. I know there's NOTHING wrong with that but there is this weird must-be-the-perfect-mom gene that's kicking in and baby's not even here yet.

Part of me doesn't want to work at all. That's the silly part of me. So weird, because I have always been all about the career. The sane and rational part knows I'll need to keep working.

I hope my bosses never find a good office space. I think working from home's pretty awesome.

Jacob and Nicole said...

If you are a people person at all (which you definitely seem to be!) then there will definitely be times that you wish you could go into the office, and there will definitely be times you never want to be home with your baby again, and there will definitely be times when you are SOOO grateful to be home with your beautiful boy that you won't even care about an office.

Living Foxy said...

A career has been important to both my husband and I from day 1. When my little girl was born 2 years ago we decided to share in the responsibility. My husband stays home with her in the morning and then I go pick her up in the afternoon. We both put in around 7 hrs at work and what we can't finish in the office, we take home with us. We are both self employed which makes it easy to take off and go to Dr. appts. etc...if needed. There are days when I wish I stayed home, but they are few and far between. The great thing about my decision is that I was able to make it and I'm happy. You have an excellent husband who will support and love each and every decision you make. So, good luck on your journey, I'm sure you'll make a the best decision for you.

Ms LadyCakes said...

Hey doll!

I think it's a very real question to ponder: work or stay-at-home mom?

As a mom of a 20 month old baby girl, I feel very fortunate to have a balanced life.

I physically go into a part-time job a couple of times a week, run my own business from home as well, am part of an improv troupe, spend time with family and friends and of course have my fun blog Instylation. :)

For me, it's important to work outside the home for a little bit - just for a change of scenery - and to help keep my sanity! ;)

Good luck! It seems like you have a supportive family and husband - so very important when bringing a precious child into the world.

I wish you the very best!

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Naomi. said...

Wow, all of these tips and advice are amazing so I thought I would add my penny, I say, Do what feels right to you, some people cannot work unless they are at the office, some people chose to work from home because they feel more inspired there, everyone works in different ways so I usually say listen to your gut instinct (It was right with the fact your baby is a boy) But most of all, do what makes you happy. :)

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Nicole said...

I'm currently a full-time working mom of two boys. I work a full time job, and when I'm not working, i'm spending time with my family, cooking, cleaning, etc. When I'm not doing that (very little time) then I do the things I love like painting, photography, blogging, etc. About a year ago I was a full time stay at home Mom, loved every minute of it and miss it everyday!

Rachelle said...

Being a mom is 'work at home'! :)

I stay at home with my two little ones and I feel super blessed that I am able to do so thanks to a husband who works so hard.

There's a time for everything. College is fun and very social. Things change a bit when you leave Rexburg and you have to rely on just your husband instead of all of your classmates, friends, professors, etc. It's different but good. I am sure you will miss the social part of school.

But something amazing happens when you are really on your own with just each other and that new little baby. It gives you a new chapter of life, if you will. Its really fun and sometimes hard. However, motherhood is a really good 'job'.

Don't stress about being the working mom, just ease into motherhood and when you are ready do some work too if you choose. :)

Congrats!

Ayan said...

hey syd!! congrats again - can't wait to see your little one! i am a full time mommy!

when i had my little one, i came back to work after 4 months and it was so difficult for me. aside from the fact that i was breast feeding (painful when you don't let it out), i was always worried about my daughter. i just want to know how she was all the time. plus my hubby was stressing me out coz he was also worried.

we decided that i should work part time and later on quit my job.

now my daughter is 3 and very independent - almost ready for school, if i had the opportunity to work from home right now, it would be the perfect scenario esp we're trying to have another one. but one problem, not a lot of work from home jobs. i'm thankful that there's no pressure for me to work.

just keep doing something you love and you can't go wrong. whether its work or home making. whatever happens, it's meant to be.

lots of love, ayan

Linda Rose said...

well, i've been working from home for a year and a half now and i absolutely love it! however, i really do miss the office camaraderie! i had some great people that i worked with that were always making me better.
so, i think you'll say "what poppycock!" for sure, but you'll probably need to find a different way to get that missing element that you're talking about. but staying home with your little chicken nugget will be the best! :)

Tracy said...

Before I had children,I was firmly set on being a working mom. When I gave birth to my first baby, a boy, and I looked into his eyes and held him, I knew differently. I told my husband then and there, "I'm quitting my job!" It was difficult financially, and sometimes lonely, but a wonderful choice. 2 more babies and 13 years later, now that the kids are all in school, I work part-time and love it. I love being with adults who respect my opinions and talents.
My point is: roll with the punches. Choose what's best for you, your husband and your baby, and know that today's choice might be different from tomorrows.

Laura said...

I agree with Tracy ^ above. Roll with the punches. I feel like stay at home mom takes up so much time and I am in awe of working moms who work and then do it all at home too! SAHM work is HARD work!

But worth it!

Amber said...

I love that you brought this topic up today because I've been having a hard time recently.

For four years (since our first son was born), I went back to work part time; first, working every other day and then onto working afternoons, with mornings off. It was definitely the best of both worlds. I knew I wasn't cut out to be a full-time stay at home mom. My professional life was important, the adult interaction and challenges each day were important and dressing for work is fun. Half and half was perfect :)

Then, a month and a half ago, my husband abruptly lost his job forcing me to go back full time. With a now 2 1/2 and 4 1/2 year old, it was an adjustment, but I had no hesitations about going back. Though recently, I am missing it so much; the right balance of home/kid time and work time each day. I feel so stressed for time, grasping at moments to play with the boys, house stuff, etc. I yearn for the day when I have that schedule again.

I think working from home for you will be very nice. Be sure to schedule those times to get out with friends/adults. You'll need it :)

Super congrats to you!!! Love your blog!

Shannon Abbott said...

The grass is always greener on the other side ; ) Being a stay at home mom is the hardest yet most rewarding job I have ever had! Something that most moms don't say to new moms is tell you how hard it will be. It's the biggest change you will ever have in your life. My best advise for you is don't get to caught up with what other people think you should do with raising your child. Do what works for YOU and tell everyone else to bug off!

Christine said...

I'll be a stay at home working mom when our baby comes in december. I do photography so I can shoot on the weekend and edit during the week...although, I have a feeling it will be hard to get all my work done with a squishy cute baby hanging around : )

www.christinemarie-photography.com

n.davis said...

When you see that baby you will not want to work outside your home. I love being an at home mom with little side jobs. It was so worth it getting my education so I can contribute money, but it's also such a blessing that I can stay home. It's a lot of work being a mommy. It's hard, way fun, but hard. You will love every moment. :)

Jameil said...

I think when you leave college, there's an inevitable, but how am I going to be able to create at this level w/o being able to bounce my ideas or get feedback feeling, maybe more keenly felt in creative fields. But there's no reason you can't keep those connections alive and continue to bounce things off of each other.

Heidi said...

i'm not a mom, but i did just get married, move to philly and now work from home. i went from office, fun co-workers, fun lunches, to being alone alll day. (the husband is in optometry school so is in school) im going to guess that once your little guy comes you arent going to want to leave him for anything. and plus side you do get a lot done being home all day. all that tiny human laundry will get done!

steph nelsen said...

i would love to work part time. i am a full time working mom now and i miss my kiddo and home stuff and sometimes wish i had more time there...but i am not stay at home mom material! i find that i have much more patience and more fun with my daughter after i've had some adult interaction. plus, my daughter is super social and loves her preschool friends and teachers.

lori said...

i am not a mom (yet). but ive often thought the same things...

my momma was (the BEST) stay at home mom ever. like the kind that bakes cookies 10 mins before you get home so you can sit and eat them and talk about your days together kinda mom... she went back to work part time when i was in middle school, and i honestly had a hard time adjusting to her not being home when i got off the bus. part of me wants to be that for my future kids.

BUT if i know me... while im sure i will be ohhh-so-crazy about my little ones... i also know that i will need that adult interaction. and i think i will crave getting out and going to work to get the sense of satisfaction, does that make sense?

either way, you are lucky that your job will allow you to work from home... and maybe you could set up times to go into the office (once a week or something?) and you can still bounce the ideas off of each other... plus, emails and video chats are helpful!

Kayla said...

whatever you choose I'm sure will be best fit for you! everyone is different. I don't have any kids (yet) but a close co-worker of mine just had her first baby about a month ago. She's used to working 40 hours a week and she said it's been tough on her not seeing friends at work she saw everyday. So it was a big change for her. But like I said earlier everyone is different! :)

Whitney said...

I was a full time 2 job working gal before I had my first baby 8 months ago and had planned to go back to work at 3 months for 1.5 days. Lets just say I'm still at home! I ab.so.lute.ly LOVE being a mom. This (personally for me) I believe God designed me to do. I was born to be a help-mate to my husband and a mommy to my babies. There is no one else who can do as good as job as I can raising MY children. I don't look down upon those who do go back to work because I believe it's a personal decision and you have to do what is best for YOUR family. This has been the most rewarding thing I have ever done. I'm so excited to see what my daughter blossoms into as I train her up to be a God-fearing woman. I am so excited for you to be a mom. You will be so great!!

Kristin said...

We just had our baby girl, Kylie, 2.5 months ago and I am a very happy stay at home mom. I can't imagine leaving her with someone else to raise. It is hard work. Really hard sometimes. But I am a much happier person, even though I don't get nearly as much done as I used to, like working and earning the mullah. I remind myself that there is a season for everything and our seasons are unique to us. So do what your heart and head and gut tell you. Enjoy what you choose to do and remember that you can always change the path you are on or the season you have created for yourself. And my guess is that you will say, "What poppy-cock!" when you hold your sweet baby boy. =)

Kris said...

First off, you'll be wonderful! I fall into the "future moms" category. I have thought about this very same thing. My career is amazing, I LOVE it. However, I cannot wait to be a mom. I'm hoping to balance both, keep both sides of me. I think it is so important to stay true to yourself. Once this baby comes, you'll have a whole new side of who you are. You are blessed to be able to keep your creativity while being a mom, embrace and love it!

I just started up my blog...
http://www.sincerelyarizona.blogspot.com

Sydney said...

I'm not a mom yet, but I dream about it a lot, and when I do have one I really can't imagine not spending everyday with my child. I don't want someone else to see its first steps, etc. I don't know too much about child raising and I'm sure it can be tough but I think it will be worth it. To me, that is a job. Being a mommy to someone.

AJD ∞ said...

What does your gut tell you to be? I know mommies that absolutely adore their children, but they're better mommies when they go into the office for a few hours each day. I know other moms that are totally awesome and content just being at home with their littles.

So what does your gut tell you?

Marie-Eve said...

I actually have the best of both worlds because I'm doing both. I'm a lawyer and I was fortunate enough to find a place where they accept that I'm a mother of two and working from home some times makes it easier for me. I do enjoy going to the office, meet and exchange with co-workers and have adult conversations (I actually need that sometimes), and also spend time at home, go get the kids early at daycare and play around with them. I found a balance between the two and it's working very well for me. When I'm at home I'm on full mommy mode. But I have to say, I did stay at home for both of my kids until they were 1 years old.

theanthropologieconnoisseur said...

I think it really depends on the person...but I think your setup sounds like it'll really work. Yes, full time working mothers do get the advantage of working in a team environment, but I think with your blog you can experience something similar as well. Most importantly though, I think children need a close relationship with their parents - while it also IS good for children to see their parents making a living (and working hard...so you instill the value of hard work and discourage entitlement). Therefore, I think with the setup you're proposing, you'll get the best of both worlds. Of course, if it turns out you hate this setup, you can always switch at any time!

Hannah =) said...

I am not a mom yet (which is a good thing since I am still in high school, hehe) but when I am I plan to stay home with my children if at all possible. My mom couldn't bear to leave us at daycare, so we all dealt with being dirt poor for a long time in order for her to stay home with us. I wouldn't trade having her home for anything. She's always there to give me advice and help me with random stuff :)

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nspicer said...

I have two grown sons, most of their little lives I worked full time. However, for their first years in school I only worked PT and was able to volunteer in their classes. This was one of the greatest times of both our lives, got to see them interact w/ other kids. So important, but whatever path you take you and hubby will be fabulous. Like most of us say enjoy every single minute cause it goes by toooo quickly

Nancy

Amanda @ Life in bloom said...

Regardless of how much being at home all the time "works" for you personally, you will still have days that you crave to get all dressed up, take the babe to the sitter, and go in to work!! I went from teaching full time to staying home full time, and it's worked out much better than I could have hoped!

jillian :: cornflake dreams. said...

i would LOVE to work from home...working on it! hopefully ill have my graphic design business in order by the time we start a family :) i would love the opportunity to stay w my kids and work too. xo jillian

Christa @ themeandminebook.blogspot.com said...

I have been a stay at home mom for 20 years. Wow. I can hardly believe it!
And we have four amazing offspring. :)

During these 20 years, I have been a domestic goddess and even a home schooling mom much of the time.
However, occasionally I have trotted off to a part time job here or there because I felt like I needed MORE.
Each and every time I have run back home within 3 months of my new found career.
One day my son asked me when I was finally going to choose something already...I told him that I HAVE chosen. I said, "I have chosen you. All of you are my choice."
And I'm happy.
Much happiness to you and yours in this new and wonderful adventure!!

Emily said...

I am not yet a mother but my mom worked as a nurse until she started having kids. She LOVED the working environment, and didn't want to leave, but she felt that she needed to make the sacrifice to be home with us. President David O. Mckay said, "No other success can compensate for failure in the home" and I really do believe that, as did my mother. I know that my mom being home with us really made a difference and I will forever be grateful for the sacrifice she made for us.

Kassie said...

I know you pointed the question to working moms, which I am not, but I will give you my two cents anyway. I am a stay-at-home mom and one of my fears before having my precious baby boy was that I'd hate it and want to go to work. Well, I was wrong. I cannot imagine leaving my baby all day. And don't be fooled - being a stay-at-home mom IS work. The first person to tell me I don't have a real job might just get punched. Its hard, but so totally worth it!

London said...

Right now. Full time office job and part time @ home freelance writing. After baby? Who knows! Might bump office to part time and do freelance once in a while from home. I would love to do writing all the time, but I don't know if it will pay the bills :(

Catherine said...

I am not a Mom yet, but I do have a full-time job that requires going into the office everyday, and I dread the thought of having to leave a baby to "go" to work. So much so, that I am searching for new career paths that allow me to work from home. It's not easy to switch careers though when you've put so much time and energy into a first career.

Miss Emily K. said...

I'm only 14, but i would love to be a stay at home mom just like my mom, and get to see all of the "firsts" in my baby's life instead of a babysitter getting to see them.

Rachel said...

I have worked from home a little here and there, but I have learned that there are times and seasons for everything in our lives-- even mini ones!
I've had adjustment periods with each of my kids when it wasn't possible for me accept freelance jobs (from right after having a baby to realizing that my toddler didn't do naps anymore). It was hard to admit because I wanted an outlet so much.
I'm not perfect for sure, but finding a balance and making sure kids have been my number one has helped it work.

Carlie Jean said...

coming from working in our old office, I can wait until i can make moolah at home..the whole wearing a dress and looking class for longer than an hour is too much for me! I think if you pace your self and enjoy the small things, working from home can be fantastic.

heidiluxe said...

i think i am misunderstanding something you wrote in your first paragraph, domestic skills are an embarassment to women everywhere? please expound.

jessicajo said...

@heidiluxe I think she was talking about her own domestic skills as related to other women's.

PeaceLoveApplesauce said...

After being a SAHM for 8+ years, my divorce leas me to finding a full time job outside the home. It's been 2.5 years now and not a day goes by that I don't miss being at home with my kiddos every day. Especially now they are both in school. My office isn't very kid flexible, and often I feel like I am missing out on so many of the happenings within their school. I miss it dearly. Lucky you for getting the choice!

Jennifer M. said...

I would imagine it'd depend on how much adult interaction you need. Working from home sounds like heaven to me, but then again I'm a major introvert. You could always arrange to go in one day a week or something if you find that it's too much alone time.

Shelley said...

Just wait and see. :) Once you have your little guy, all former plans and ideals may just fly out the window. I always worried that I would become bored or restless "just being at home" but I can honestly say, there is no place I would rather be in the whole world. After all, we have them for such a SHORT TIME! I know everyone says that, but when you think about the few, brief years until they go to school and are in school 5 days a week, by the time they're done with school, they're itching to move out anyway! So you really have them full-time for such a teensy little bit of life, I wouldn't want to miss it for the world.

Once again, just a heads up, having that precious little man is going to rock your world in the best way possible, and you're going to have to tear yourself from his side. :)

I'm sure God will make it clear for you and your hubs! -Blessings

Janssen said...

I've been kind of a workaholic since my sophomore year at BYU (I worked three jobs until I graduated), then worked full-time for a year or so before going back to grad school full-time (where I worked three jobs again; I cannot say no to a paycheck). And then I worked full-time again until my baby was born last summer.

I have worried about being a stay-at-home mom my entire life. I thought I would hate it. I've been surprised how much I love being here with her. I work a little bit from home (only a couple of hours a week), and I'm glad it's not more than that.

It's just different for everyone, I think. What's right for some families is completely wrong for other families.

Noelle said...

I worked in an office until I was preggos with #3. And although I get nostalgic for the "glamor" of the office when I enter a large building, I have never thought twice about being a stay at home mom. I would have hated to miss all those sweet moments with my kids. As long as you stay open to the Spirit you'll know what is right for you

Adriana said...

Sydney,

I think it will be a combination of all of those feelings. Take it from a mom to a 2 year old little man and 9 month old twin girls and as someone who loves her line of work, but hates the politics that go with it on some days. It will be all of the above!

Just stay true to what your heart tells you and you will be fine. I would be lying if I said that I somedays wish I could just stay home and be only a mom, but a hybrid of the work/ mom combo is just right!

Whitney & Devin said...

You will be a great mamma! For me though I plan on working... I would love it if it was only part time though- so I could enjoy both experiences and appreciate them.

Jen Nelson said...

I see nothing wrong with working part-time out of the home or even full-time in the home. I think it is great when women can be creative and find ways to make money and still be wonderful mothers.

Zara said...

I'm not a mom yet, but I work from home right now. I love it very much, however, I am awful at balancing work and housework. I came to the realization that I am always working, and if I'm not then I'm thinking about work, because that's where money comes from.

I am actually looking for a job outside the house, until I can either have a home office or an office away from home to work in.

I feel that if you can balance work and family, and be able to shut your brain off from thinking about work then it will be great.

As far as work at home moms go, I hope that one day I can work from home and be a stay at home mama to my babies. :-D

You'll make a great mom, and I'm sure you'll be more then able to balance it all out.

decorater4life said...

Since my Husband has been working overseas the last four years, I have been very fortunate to stay home with our four daughters! I honestly feel very blessed to do so, because when our oldest two daughters were smaller, I was a full time working mother, and I hated each and everyday that I had to leave them, now my oldest daughter is almost 17, and the other three are 11, 5, and 4.... When my husband started leaving for overseas, I definately said I would not leave our children at all to work outside of the home. It has its good and bad, because I can honestly admit sometimes I did leave for work, for just alittle break, but I know I am doing the right thing right now... I completely enjoy being in their lives more than I ever have before, and when I need some quiet time, and a few minutes to myself, I just simply do what I am right now, and read blogs!!!!! Ha, ha they honestly help me to relax. I have also been working on some event planning jobs too, and it works out so great that my daughters can also be with me most of the time as I also make money!!!!! You will be good at anything you decide to do, I know you will.... I honestly feel that if any mother can have the lucky chance to stay home with their babies, that by all means do so, because I know now how fast they grow up, and how the time together is very much so worth being home with them..... I look at my oldest daughter now, and how she is about to graduate high school next year and I so badly wish I could had been with her more in her baby and toddler years, but I felt the need to work then, but now I see it was not really even worth it at all!!!!! Can not wait to see your little babe!!!!! Good luck Sydney with the decision!!!!!!


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Natalie said...

I am a graphic designer and worked as a graphic designer for 3 years up until the day day I had my baby girl in february. For the first 2 months I loved being home working a few hours a day from home and snuggling my little babe. At about 3 months i hit a wall and missed the office, missed the social part of it and to get past that i have created a routine, whether its exercising, going for a walk meeting up with friends, you have to get out of the house at least once a day or you will go crazy! CRAZY i tell ya! Now that I have that figured out i LOVE working from home, I have figured 3-4 hours a day is the perfect amount for me and I love that I can have that creative outlet! I wish you were preggers when i was so i knew what to wear! I am sure whatever you do as long as you have your blog it will be a great creative outlet!

Sell...Party Of 4 said...

I normally don't do this, but I just barely wrote a post about being a working Mom today...go look at the comments. They are perfect!

I have been a working Mom for almost 7 years. There will be hard days, days that you hate the people you work with and long to be holding your baby, days that you can't hear that cute baby of yours scream for another minute and long for a quiet cubicle...either way it will be your kinda perfect!

FAB said...

I think it depends on the person. My own experience? I tried to be a stay to home mom when my oldest two were younger, and I loved it at first, then I discovered I'd be yearning for adult contact and would bombard the old ball and chain when he got home. Working full time is tough too...then I miss being away from the kids! Right now I have the perfect combo. When I want to and my schedule allows, I work from home and the rest of the time I'm in the office or out teaching...it's a perfect mix for me...right now.

Deveny said...

I'm both a working & stay-at-home mom & believe me...it ain't so fun when they get to be a toddler. :) I had a sweet corporate job when we had to move for law school; thankfully I was able to keep my job. And then I had my son & have continued working (mainly just because I have to until my husband passes the bar). There are days when I really feel I have to decide "do I be a crappy mom/wife today? or am I going to be a crappy employee?". Granted, it's not going to be that way for everyone but personally, I've never felt that desire to have a career.
And I totally agree about the social aspect (when working from home you get all the work, but zero interaction) but again personally, I'd rather go to play groups & interact with other moms then my co-workers.

Aleyta said...

I'm a stay at home mom and I never doubted it would be enough for me. For my family we wouldn't have it any other way. I believe there is nothing better than a mom at home with her kids BUT that is not for everyone. Do what makes you happy and what you and your spouse feel is right. The most important thing is that you don't resent anyone or regret your decision. You'll be too tired to deal with regret :)

Andrea Larson said...

When I first became a mom I thought I would have to go back to work and because it wasn't a field I particularly loved or even really liked all to much I would get anxious about missing all those moments with my baby. But thankfully my husband said I didn't have to go back that financially we could get along just fine and it was really up to me and what I felt I needed so I choose to stay home and raise my baby. I loved and still love every minute of it. okay honestly there are times where I miss talking to grown ups and having grown up conversations but that's where my mommy friends and playdates really help and date nights with my husband get me out. I think you'll love being home working with your little buddle! You'll love every little coo and face he makes and being the one to tend to his needs. Being a mom is the best! and I can honestly say I feel I was born to be a mom. I don't want a career I have plenty of side hobbies and fun things for myself along the way to use my creative juices for. I think when you hold your baby for the first time and you experience that melting of your heart you will feel so unbelievable blessed you have the option to be a stay at home mom working. You're not going to want to miss a thing. However there are some moms who love being a mom but need that reward from working outside the home. So it truelly depends on each mother. You will soon find out what fits best for you!

Tera said...

I'm a stay-at-home mom and I LOVE it!!! Wouldn't trade it for anything.... :)

miraclesoul a.k.a michelle said...

:) work for office for 1 year,work at home for 1 year!

Caitlin said...

If I could stay home with my daughter and be able to work on my designs at home I wouldn't not think twice about ever going back to an office. I work full time and I feel like I never have enough time in with my daughter. Unfortunately I am not in the financial situation to quit my job, if the opportunity arised I would do it in a heartbeat! I would say take the time off and see how it feels, then if you miss adult interaction (because I don't think any mom wants baby talk every day all day) then ease your way back into a job and work part time, half day. You'll figure out what works for you and your family. Best of luck to you and congrats on your little growing nugget!

Sara Soda said...

I freakin’ can’t wait to be a work-at-home mom. Hubband out makin’ the dough and me at home, making literal dough. For bread. And birthing children. Awesome.

Andrea said...

Wahoo! Work it, momma!

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Stevie Leigh said...

I applaud you for this. I can't wait to see how you do it.

I'm 22 and we plan to have kids in another 4-6 years ("plan" - but I know that those things can't always be planned). Right now I'm just starting my career at a PR firm in NYC, and I'm thinking about how it might eventually work with a family. It's tough.

Sounds like your job will work out great, though! I'd love to hear more about what you discover from the experience!

Jeff and Cali said...

We actually had a discussion about this at work yesterday. I'm afraid that becoming a stay at home mom might be a struggle for me- My mom has worked either part or full time most of my life, and she loved feeling like she contributed both in the home and out. I firmly believe that you can still be a great mom- whether you're at home full time or working!

Anna said...

I've been in all three situations and I can say that not any one of them is easier or more fun or worse than any of the others. I've stayed at home, worked from home, and now I work part time at an office, but each one has it's benefits and drawbacks. The only one I haven't tried yet is working full-time, and I think that would be a struggle in balance!!

Leah said...

stay at home is amazing. i can't even imagine leaving my child with someone else for 8 hours a day. there are occassions when i wish i could work and just get a break...but when i get those breaks i miss my little girl so much...i'm even considering home school...we shall see! :)

A Sunday Kind Of Love said...

oy. i'm one of the "future moms" and all my life i thought i'd only want to stay home with my kids and be a domestic goddess ;) but now that i've started working, i love it! i can't imagine not working when i have kids...at least in some capacity, and most definitely in an office/team with other people*. i love my co-workers :)
i hope you find the path that works for you and your family, and makes you happiest <3

* of course, i may change my tune when the future babies arrive :)

Stephanie Madsen said...

I think you might miss it...but who is to say you can't call someone up and have a little chat? Whose to say you can't have mommy friends that you can have play dates with to bounce off ideas while your children play? Whose to say you can't be fulfilled doing the most noble and wonderful calling known to God? I think being a stay at home mom is a fabulous thing!!! I would hate working outside the home. Since I've had my baby...there is nothing more important to me than him. You will feel the same. :) p.s. I'm addicted to your blog. lol

lauren said...

I think about this all the time. I think I will personally need some office time but I hope to be able to work from home sometimes as well. I am so in awe of working moms.
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Lacee said...

I've been a stay at home mom almost two years now. I thought I would go back to work after 3 months, but I dreaded the thought of returning and it just did not feel natural to leave my baby for 8+ hours a day. I wanted to be the one raising my son, not someone else. Once he is in school it will be a lot easier, but for now, I appreciate being able to stay home. There are a lot of challenging days, but I know a lot of moms don't have the privilege that I do so I try to always be thankful. Kids grow up so fast and I know I'll look back and be glad that I was able to have these precious years with my son. You do what you gotta do. Whatever is best for you and your child, you'll figure it out.

LonghornGirl said...

I work from home, and I wouldn't trade it for the world. If you have an 8-5 job like me, you will need to hire a nanny or take your bambino to daycare. Yes, I miss the office (about twice a year), but only for a fleeting moment. There is nothing like getting to have a career, watching your child's firsts, and being able to have dinner ready on time. It's the best of all worlds. XOXO!

Cait said...

Why not try to work part time in an office and the rest at home? That's what I plan to do eventually when my hubby and I start having babies... I don't think I will ever be fully satisfied ONLY at home or ONLY at the office, you know? I have decided, though, that working full time not at home is a definite no no for me.

Pray about it, God knows what will be most beneficial to you :)

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monica said...

it is different for everyone...finding the right balance. for me i work 50% and am home the other days. i really like it. i would miss my adult life and feeling like i'm making a difference. i'm a nurse practitoner at a busy hospital so it's hard to keep up and i do a little work at home during naps, but it's ok. my daughter is 3 and goes to daycare on my work days and loves it. she's learned a lot and has really benefitted from the time away from me. but my answer may not fit in your life, so you have to do whatever feels right to you and your family. ignore those people who think they have the right answer since it's different for everyone. love your blog by the way, it's one of my fave's. and i love all your cute fashion, very inspiring, esp. since you do it on a budget.

Drew {Coral Cafe} said...

Love the idea of running around in a tshirt and boyshorts! My family practically makes fun of me for it all the time! I say, when it gets stale from sitting at home on the computer all day, take it to a fancy or even not so fancy bakery, bookstore or coffee shop. That's where most of my creativity stems from! Mainly because you're in a place where all is inspiring in one form or another!

Keely said...

I can't wait to be a stay at home mom! Since I work in education I have most of the summer off and I have to say I'm really loving it. I love the clean house, the home-cooked food, watering the plants, running errands and having my cup of joe in the morning sunshine. But, I kind of miss the pay check, so I hope to figure out some sort at home job to make a little extra cash...lucky you.:)

Shauntel said...

I worked right up until a few weeks before I had my first baby (I'm pregnant with my second right now). After she was born, I took three months off and then tried working from home. I found it really difficult. I felt like I was failing as a mother because I couldn't fully focus on my daughter and that I was failing as an employee because I couldn't give my job my all. I worked one half day in the office and just learned to be super productive on that day.

When we moved across the country for my husband's new job (that allowed me to not work anymore), I became an official stay-at-home mom. And I adore every day.

That said, it's different for everyone. I have sisters-in-law who can't imagine being home all day, every day with their kids. For me, I can't imagine any other way. I love it, and I'm super grateful I can stay home.

P.S. I also actively look for ways to interact with other moms (and kids) to keep me sane.

Ashley said...

No kids yet, but I definitely plan on staying home. If I have the opportunity to teach a class once a week for a few hours when the hubby is home, I might take it, but I definitely plan on caring for my family the vast majority of the time.

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Jennifer Barnes (Clark) said...

I had a 1 yr old and a 2 yr old when I found out I was pregnant with twins. That many small children was too much for my husband and he left. Now, being a single mom, I can't emphasize enough how blessed those who stay home are. :)

Bridget said...

Always, always put your kiddo first. You won't ever regret it. I mean, take care of yourself, but always put your baby first. He will grow faster than you can imagine, and then he will be out of the house and you will have all of the time in the world to do whatever you want. When people die they never wished they had worked more, they wished they had spent more time with those who meant the most to them. :) Being a mommy is the best. You'll find that things that seemed to matter so much before, suddenly just don't. You seem like such a sweet, bubbly, fun person. You will be an awesome Mommy.

Mags said...

I can't speak from experience, as I don't have a child, but I have a feeling that I would go crazy if I had to work from home full-time. I definitely think if I chose to have children I would try to balance time at home and time at work, but I think there's definite value in being able to have a professional life outside the sphere of your domestic life, and being able to work side by side with others and bounce ideas off them does wonders for your professional development. I don't think it would be quite the same if you were working from home full-time. That said, perhaps working from home full-time is the right choice for you; I think the key is to play around and find what feels perfect (cause it exists!) good luck!

Dallin, Ashley and Claire said...

As I have become a mother, I have found it totally interesting to see the different types of women out there who are raising children. We're all different. We're all unique. (And thank goodness for that! No one wants all Ashleys running around!) For some reason, I grew up just knowing that I wanted to be a mother. I didn't want to work, and, dare I actually admit this, didn't really anticipate graduating from college. I just wanted to be a mom. So, when I started hearing all these girls saying they were having this difficult time giving up their jobs to raise their kids, I kinda started judging. (Yes. You have permission to slap my hands.) I couldn't figure out why someone wouldn't want to be just a mother?? "How could they want a career", I would think to myself? Then one day, I realized that, like I said above, we're all different. We don't all think the same way, we don't dress the same way, we don't act the same way. We're special and unique and, if we're lucky, we figure out who we are early in life and we grow and evolve into the best version of ourselves. So, to those who work and raise kids- rock on. You're amazing. As for your circumstance, pray about it. You'll figure out that balance that will help you not lose who you are, and maintain the whole raising kids gig. And, you are a lucky girl as well, because you have a wonderful husband, from what I can tell, who will love and support you in whatever choice you make. Good luck!

Jo said...

It's awesome being a stay at home mom and still be able to earn money doing what you love! :)

I looked after my son for 2 years and taught piano twice a week. It was wonderful. Now he's 3.5, I teach piano, make jewelry and resume mom duties after he comes home from day care (he's there from 9.30-5). It works out for us.

There'll still be mommy guilt whether we're SAHMs who work or moms who go out to work... it's ok, we try our best, God'll do the rest. :)

Liuse said...

I hadn't missed office until I was whole world for my son, that is roughly until he turned 3 years.

Bretty said...

Best advice I ever heard on the subject: you can have the best of both worlds. if you do choose to stay at home, you will not necessarily have to give up a career. One day those babies will be gone, and you'll have all the time in the world to start up your career. you won't be burnt out, like your colleagues who may have been working for the past 20 years. Best of both worlds!

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Neris said...

Honestly, I think you will get the best out of the both worlds :) If I had an opportunity to work from home (and hopefully one day I will) I would totally do it!

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AlishaLoren said...

You'll find your own balance, and you'll be fabulous. For me, having the flexibility of working at home (2 days over the weekend), coupled with some time at the office (1.5 days), with a 0.5 day of 'me' time really fit's my bill. Enough time to have coffee while it's still hot on office days, soak up the park day sunshine on home days and a little time to just be me to on my mornings off. Whatever you find works for you, do it, enjoy it and don't be afraid to say no to the rest.

Dumb Mom said...

As mom to three little Dudes I've been all types of moms, SAHM, WAHM, and go to graduate school and full time work while little mister is at daycare too. Each one was different but all good because no matter what my little people were there smiling for me! Okay, I'll be honest, WAHM is super hard with a 3year old who is categorically opposed to you talking on the phone, but you'll figure it out! And, since I see you are moving to DC (where I live!) you can connect with a whole fantastic group of DC Metro Mama Blogging/Writing/Busy being awesome mamas who can help you figure it out! Seriously, the support system I've found with this group of women has been spectacular! Good luck with your work and your baby and your move and your um, everything!

jennaelayne said...

I worked night shift 3 days a week for the first ten months and it was such a blessing to work and play at home!! now, i am five days at the hospital, and it's worked out fantastic. eli gets play time, and i can keep pursuing my career. my sister babysits for a lady 2x a week so she can go into work for like 4 hours.. maybe you can find someone like that!!! good luck-- it will all work out!

Joel and Brittany said...

Oh the Internship & Career Services Office. How I miss working with you & looking up & seeing your beautiful face across the way! Those were the days... these ones aren't too bad either though.

P.S.- I say you'll love being a stay-at-home/ work-from-home mommy! You won't miss the office a wink!

Rin said...

Kids aren't in my immediate future but I've actually given a lot of thought to the subject of staying at home vs. working. My mom was a working mom, but we did not attend day care. We were taken care of by a stay-at-home mom who became a good friend of the family (her daughter is my best friend!) until we went to school. Then, my grandmother watched us before and after school. And this is what I also plan on doing. As a teacher, I am lucky that I will get summers off to spend with my kiddos, but I do plan on working. My Mister's mother, I know, would love to provide child care for us when the time comes, and that's how I hope it works out. Its the best of both worlds: I get to work, and the kiddos still get loving care from someone very special to them.

Christina said...

You are very blessed that you have a job that allows you to stay at home. I dont. I get 4 hours a day during the week with my precious daughter after work and I feel guilty every time I go to work and she gives me those sad eyes in the mornings. But financially I cannot stay at home otherwise I would LOVE to. I try and make it up on the weekends though. Good Luck! You'll find what works for you especially since you seem to have options. :)

Aynna banahna said...

I didn't get much schooling done before I had my baby, so my job was just a 9-5 "pay the bills" sorta thing. It wasn't a career path, there was no ambition to move up in the pathetic company I worked for. I just wanted to stay at home with my babies. And I love it! Eventually I do want to go back to school and learn a skill and have that ambition and it's gonna be something I can do from home or while my kids are in school, or something. And I think if you have the chance to do both, you are very lucky. The most important thing you can do is be a mother. It is the most important, sometimes thankless job and it is so worth it.

Mand@ said...

i am a working mom. Your baby will only be a baby for a short time. Enjoy him while you can, soon he will be off to school and you can go back to the office if you want to.

MUG said...

I believe in working mothers. I think its really helpful for children to see their mother being fulfilled in something outside of the home. So I think it is so great you are able to seamlessly mesh the two ideologies of working mom versus stay at home mom. Once again - you are totally awesome.

Natalie said...

It's simple. There will be days when you think both. :) (Love your blog!)

Pricilla said...

I was beginning to start an business at home because we could sure use some extra income.

But, I dont HAVE to. That's where I think the important question lies. We don't have a lot of extra, but its enough and having almost 6 KIDS IN 8 YEARS has given me the essential perspective that those little guys need my complete attention. Even if I could work from home, it would be putting my energy elsewhere. Definitely a personal decision between an individual and the Lord and that is where my short business venture ended. Also, I feel that there will be plenty of time for that later.

Looking back, when I had my first baby I was a full time student at BYU and didn't know that I had a son with autism on my hands. In hindsight, of course I didn't know, but I live with the guilt of knowing that I could have done so much more for his development if I had been completely focused on him during his first year.

Just sharing my own experiences. You will do great.

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Crystal said...

My husband I and I both work from home. We do miss interacting with adults on a daily basis. But being at home with our two soon to be three kids is really the best life. It means mid afternoon trip to the zoo, last minute trips to visit loved ones and tons of time together.
Also did you really say "domestic skills that are an embarrassment to women everywhere" There is nothing embarrassing about cooking, cleaning and running a home for the people you love.

Karla Anderson-Sarmiento said...

I think it is really good and healthy that you are thinking about it already-trying to prepare yourself but not building up certain expectations that may not even happen.
Sometimes I think I would LOVE staying at home with my babies (when the time comes). And sometimes I feel like it will kill my soul to be at home all day. Who knows. But like you, I try to think about it all and hope for the best.

Rubie Hubie said...

My mom is a graphic designer who works at home too. I've always admired her for this and told her I want to be like her when I'm a mom, working from the home, still doing things I love, being creative.

She got super serious with me and told me that every single day she wishes that she didn't have to work, and that she could just be a mother and a homemaker. She said that once you have a baby you realize that it's the most fulfilling thing ever and she wishes that she couldn't have spent full time just being creative for us.

I hope that when I get to have children I'll be able to stay at home and just think about them, there's still TONS of opportunities for creativity and for progressing and improving yourself, but it's even better because you have someone elses life you can enrich too, in the most important of ways.

Courtney said...

I worked at a design firm for the first year of baby number one - in the office. And I'm not trying to make any big statements here - I just want to say, I missed a lot of her growing up. I didn't even realize it until I had baby two and I'm home full time. I'm a designer and an artist and I get bored - I long for other creative people - but I would never go back to the office. Not even part time. These years are so short and precious and then they are over and thier grown up. Then we have plenty of time to be in the office. Stay home and kiss that baby all day. And dont feel bad about it for a second. He will be grown and gone before you know it.

erin said...

I went back to work when my little girl was only 7 weeks old. I'm a special education teacher, and it was HARD, but it's the decision we made when we had a baby. I think about her everyday, and I can't wait to get home to see her. My husband works from home and watches her during the day. NOT working would be the worst thing we could do as a family. I do it for my little girl. One thing to think about is pumping if you're going to breastfeed. I pumped before I went to work and twice while I was there. I'm SOOOO glad I was able to do that for my Little Miss (who will be 1 on the 24th of July!!). I would LOVE to stay home full time with her, but that's not in the cards for us right now, and it's OK. You make every moment count you have with your kids when you are home.

Jess said...

My mother stayed at home with my brother and I throughout our whole childhood. I didn't realize how lucky I was at the time, but I am so grateful now. And she has no regrets!

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Mikelle said...

When I was prego with my first I really though I would go back to work, I liked getting ready and feeling important. Then I had my baby and my whole life changed. My desires changed and I was very important to my sweet baby boy and I have no desire to go back to work until he is tired of me volunteering in his classroom. You'll know what's best as life unfolds.

Amie said...

I'm a new mother of two weeks and so far I cannot imagine working and being a stay at home mom. It's a lot of work but I am loving it.

Cheli Jewelry said...

Like a lot of what other folks have said, you will have to feel lit out & see what works best. I do think that what sounds good right now, may not be how you feel once the baby come. I'm saying that from experience. Not to be a downer......my hubby & I moved to another city, away from church, friends & all that we knew familiar when I was 6 months pregnant. I had a few months to make some new friends, get to know the lay of the land & get ready for baby!
Like you, it took me 2 years to conceive. In saying that, I guess I thought motherhood would be different, b/c I expected so much. Like some other moms have said, being a SAHM can sometimes be lonely & monotonous. I, unfortunately, went through post-partum depression my first year with my son, which I do not wish upon anyone, but that was God's plan for me at the time. I contribute it a lot to my move away from family & friends, at a time that I needed support, that I was not expecting to need. I'm totally on the other side now & we are expecting our second boy this Oct.! Not saying this is your situation, you may have plenty of things already set up on DC, which I totally recommend. Motherhood is a roller coaster of emotions, selflessness, hormones, joy, love, anticipation all rolled into one nice package. But God must know we can handle it, that's why he gave the job to us!
Anyhow, whatever you decide, you have a successful blog, a healthy pregnancy so far & a loving husband, what more could you ask for!

Rachael said...

From my perspective, I've always worked from home! I've been a Nanny for years, so it's always going to house to house! Being in an office would be a change!
That's the first time I've learned what you do for a job! Design=awesome.
I think it's great that you want to be a working mom. If it weren't for working moms, I wouldn't have a job!

Genuine Lustre said...

Stay home. No one can replace you, and you will never get those days back again. There will be time to go back to work, in another season of your life.

Sydney said...

I worked out in the big ole world--- very, very, and very hard until baby #1 arrived. I looked at her little face and fell hard and fast. I left the office life way behind me and have never once regreted my decision. My new full-time career has brought me 4 children and so much happiness and challenges to tackle. I am a professional woman, wife and mom. Doesn't get much better than that! Good luck to you.

Hannah said...

I'm not a mom, but I'm a daughter, and my mom is a eye doctor and drove an hour to and from work everyday. I can honestly say that growing up I wish she was around more, to go to my soccer games and games I cheered for. I love her and she works so hard.
I think you'll enjoy your choice though. You'll be able to work and get to experience your children really growing up.

Elle Nicole said...

I feel the same as you. I'm five months pregnant and we have decided we are going to try all that we can to have me stay home. I grew up with my mom never being able to attend anything, even my 6th grade graduation. So aside from being a stay at home mom becuase of a goal to follow my church leaders parenting advice, i'v learned from the daughter side that it is also my advice to myself. Yet im a little apprehansive. i feel like im going to miss people. I am one of those, i get energy from everyone around me. I guess you gotta try it to know. :)

juanita said...

..hi.. my friend introduced me to your blog through hers.. so when i do get a moment i read yours and this is my first post to you....

I am a mother of two girls, 8 and 5, and i am a teacher... I stayed home with my children till they were almost a year and then they went to child care..... at first it was hard to leave them but i knew that i was their mom and no one could replace me....

during the summer, i am with them every day, and they enjoy being with me ... they want to know so much about me... they just want to be close to me....and be with me....

if you decide to go back to work at an office or stay home at work... your child will not love you any less.... Good luck...

Shannon Olson said...

I was a nanny up until last year and both of the families I worked for the mom's worked because they said if they didn't get out of the house and away from kids they thought they would go insane hahaha.

They loved thier kids but even as a nanny it gets really old not having anyone to interact with besides kids.
When I have children I hope that I can stay home or work from home a few days and work in an office a few days that way I can have the best of both worlds =)

Markelle said...

heres the thing...babies are only babies for a matter of months. months! Its crazy how when looking into your life span only a handful of years are really sacrificed to be a SAHM. sooo if you do miss the going into the office experience yet you feel the need to be home. Your career isn't over just on hold.

However, I do work one day a week as a Speech and Language Technician. but only because my husband is able to work from home on that day.

last thing. everyone is different and you have figure out what is most important to you and what works for your family. You'll figure it out, especially when you experience the amazing moment of meeting your son. nothing.like.it.

btw, you're adorable.

Casey said...

I was totally a career minded woman when I got pregnant. And then I had him and could not think of leaving him with anyone. So I stayed home for 3 years and just recently went back. Be glad you can work from home and never miss those "firsts" I wouldnt change staying at home for anything!

E said...

Hi: First time posting on your blog.

Didn't have time to read all of the other 179 comments, just some, and I would definitely agree that you should do what works for you. You only have one life and time is your most precious commodity (even more precious with kids around!)

I have a doctorate and a full-time and somewhat high-pressure job, some at the office some at home. I My 2 year old is in daycare 5 days a week 8:30am-5pm but when he is home, it's all about him.

What works for me (and my family) is that I have a serious and fulfilling career that is still somewhat flexible. I make dinner nearly every night, attend every dr. appt., etc.

You'll figure this out. Having a supportive and engaged partner is so important; I couldn't do it without my guy. And you won't be able to either.

Good luck!
E

TheCraftFam said...

I've been a working mom and stay-at-home mom. Honestly.. working mom was stressed and missed her kids... but stay at home mom is going crazy. I have a 3 almost 4 year old and an 18 month old. So, it's nuts. My husband works from home now, and let me tell you... that's even more nuts. I must say I love my kids more than anything and enjoy them so much, but I'd like to go to an office at least once in a while. It's very distracting at home.
Ps... my kids are well behaved and it's still very stressful!

Tiffany said...

I taught kindergarten for 4 years and was very much in love with my job. But I chose to stay home with baby boy when he was born. And I thought I would miss my "career" but I have not regretted my choice for one second. I still might have moments where I miss some things about teaching...but wouldn't give up being a stay-at-home-mommy for even one second. :) It is THE best job in the world, hands down!

Fashion Momma said...

I would almost die (but being dead would totally defeat the purpose, of course) to stay home with my little girl. I was working in a fast-paced university environment and pretty much never saw her. I've been afforded the blessing of taking a nanny job that allows me to take my daughter with me, but it would be nice to focus on her more, plus my home, cooking, laundry, (ahem, shopping), exercise. And I LOVE doing those things.

Roxanne said...

Working at home can be wonderful. I just made it a rule to stop and do the mommy job knowing that the "work" would wait, but the baby can't. 11 kids and multiple jobs latter...just make sure that you talk to at least one adult (spouses don't count) per day for sanity's sake! Love, Moi xoxo

Shelly said...

I never thought I would say it, but I LOVED being a stay at home mom! It's tough work and there is no way in heck I wanted my new baby to attach herself to someone other than me at that early age. She is now just about 4 yrs. old and a year ago I started my own biz working from home. It's difficult juggling it all for sure, but I LOVE that I'm home and able to take care of biz all from the same place. Good luck on whatever decision you make. I'm sure you will do fine!

~danielle~ said...

I think you can have the best of both worlds. The ideal situation (in my opinion) is to maybe work from home while your kids are still young. You can wean yourself off of having them around 24/7 by putting them in pre-school just part-time so they get the social interactions and you get some alone mommy time. And then when they are ready start full-time school you can start working in an office (so you get the social interactions) and try to find something where you know you'll be there to pick them up from school.

Anyway, this is just what I picture myself doing (the hubs and I want to start trying for kids in the next year). Just make sure whatever you end up choosing to do feels right for your family. You and your hubs are the only people who know what that is. You seem like you will be a great mommy either way.

Tiffany said...

I have been a working mom, a work from home mom and am now a stay at home mom. Out of the three being a stay at home mom is absolutely EXQUISITE and I wouldn't trade it for a high paying career and cute office clothes ever. I feel like my worst day at home is still better than my best day at work. Do I miss office friends? I haven't heard from one of them in years, so no. Working from home was okay, but I had a set schedule and had to be logged onto the computer at certain times, and when my 3rd wild boy came along, I just couldn't do it. I would work from home again but it would have to be flexible not like my last work from home job. And the domestic thing? Well my hubby will tell you I've got cooking down okay, everything else?? Not so much, we have been married 10 years (almost, Aug 16th is our anniversary). good luck and CONGRATS!!

Colleen Sullivan said...

I'm struggling with the same feelings, although I'm a teacher so its a little different.

I am going to be a SAHM, but if I feel like I want to go back to work after the first year at home with The Baby then I will.

But really, how can we know until the Little One's are here!

kristin said...

As a work-at-home-mama I have to say it the best thing ever. You can take breaks from computering and deep thoughts to have tickle sessions, story time, or take a walk together. Nothing beats that. Also, to be honest, from my (and friends') experience, the work & internships during college days tend to be more fun an uplifting than the permanent daily office jobs you have after college. The office politics, boring lag time, mean coworkers, etc seem to appear out of the blue once you are not the cool college kid anymore. Once you are a mom too, office politics can be a little lame (even discriminatory) to you sometimes unless they feel you are 90% dedicated to them and 10% dedicated to you family. Plus on those snowy cold days, working in PJs cannot be underestimated (not to mention not having to leave your little one behind).

Jenn Kirk said...

When my first was a newborn and toddler, I did freelance design work from home. After my second child, it became imperative that I work more hours so I got a part-time job at a design studio. It was difficult for me to leave the business of being a full-time SAHM and felt guilty for the first month or so. But it turned out being the perfect arrangememt for me. I came to love my job and being in a creative atmosphere. And, I still got to pick up my kids from school around lunch time so I had the rest of the day with them. Now, I'm back to staying at home full-time as I await number 3 due this fall, and as much as I enjoy being with my two boys, I miss my job immensely.

Krista Cheatham said...

What a great post. I am a new stay-at-home mom, and it's always been my dream. You just won't know until you're there. I'm surprised how much I miss exactly what you were talking about... sharing ideas and being productive with others in my field. However, it's nothing compared to experiencing those "firsts".

kelseywilliams said...

i hope to work from home when we have kids, but have many of the same wonders as you! will be eager to hear how it goes.

michael. mindy. dane. said...

i have stepped on this soapbox a few too many times. i'm a working mom. and it is HARD. i would give anything to be home with my little boy. someday i will be. but for now, this is just how life is. so, i say if you can work from home, DO IT! you will LOVE IT! (not that i know. i haven't done it). i'm a teacher so i have summers off, and i say every day that i could totally do this stay-at-home mom thing. but then there are people who do it and don't love it. so what do i know? and why am i rambling? anyway. i wish i could stay home and count you lucky if you can. the end.

Modest Fashion Sense said...

With almost 200 comments, you might not even be reading this, but I am a working mom, and I am blessed to work from home. It is wonderful to be with my baby all day...and afternoon....and night...and middle of the night (ok, he's not that little anymore!) :) But just remember to take YOU time. You won't need a lot of it, but keep something that is totally you, and you won't feel like you are losing yourself to "mom jeans" and things similarly frightening.

greytblackdog said...

I'm not a mom, but I've worked from my home since 2005. I'm a creative - a writer mostly - and I will tell you that there are many, many days where you will be lonely and crave that interaction. Take the bebe and go see something - anything - to get those creative juices flowing. It is really a change, but the freedom you have to work at home, on your own terms, is really worth the loneliness.

Aurora said...

Right now I'm a stay at home mom, but I used to be a working mom, and I have to tell you when I was one I wanted to be the other, and vice versa. There's no wrong decision, just do what works best for you and your family!!

Ashley. said...

I'm about your age. 25, with a one year old. I was fortunate enough to be able to stay home with him until he was five months old.

I was ready to go back, I have a career I have passion for, teaching art to children. If I didn't have a job I loved things may have been different.

I also have lots of time off which makes it easier to alleviate the 'mom guilt' of having to be away from my child.

You are going to run into jugies who like to say their choice is best but you truly don't know what you're going to feel like until you start spending time with your son.

BTW, little boys are so fun, and wild, just wait!

Homemade in Heels said...

I haven't read in a while and i was catching up… I am a stay at home part-time working mom. I was worried about his when I got pregnant too. And some days I do miss the office but just yesterday when I was taking my daughter downtown for an activity and I saw a bunch of working women in their cute pencil skirts, I was at first thinking would I rather be doing that? The only part I miss is getting dressed up, I can't imagine dropping my daughter at daycare or even grandma's all day to go to the office. Nope, not for me. Now I' expecting again and I'm sure of it.

Diana U. said...

hey, I'm a working at home mum with two children. 7 years old son and 1 1/2 year daughter. I'm a self-employed graphic-designer and my office is at home. It's wonderful to be at home with the kids, but in stressful days it could be also not so good. I think both have his good and bad things. just follow your heart, love your baby but also live your life, you have just one.

best regards from austria :)

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